Poll: Kids at showers.

SweetPeanis · June 2010

So there is a chick on 2nd Tri who is all bent out of shape because she is having an "adults only" baby shower and her BFF (who is a single parent) won't come to the shower that is a 5 hour drive without her kid.

How do you feel about kids at shower/weddings/parties/etc.?

cedge05 · June 2010

I think it would be weird not to have them there. Some of the best memories from my wedding and my baby shower were instances that involved kids. One of my favorite wedding pictures shows my sister showing my little cousin how to blow bubbles. We had a family baby shower and the kids had such a great time running around and playing in our back yard. I may be in the minority but kids have always been a big part of our lives that I can't imagine not sharing special moments with them.

crownedbee · June 2010

I think people need to quit getting all bent out of shape about a kid or two coming their shindig. I can understand not wanting it to turn into a kids party, but you have to cut the single parent who is 5 hours away some slack.

caffinated_tulip · June 2010

Aren't you supposed to bring little ones to baby showers? That's part of the fun!

I think that showers are usually kid-friendly, but that some weddings (especially evening ones) and parties really aren't. It' seem's rediculous that she wont let her single parent BFF bring her child.

izzybella · June 2010

crownedbee:
I think people need to quit getting all bent out of shape about a kid or two coming their shindig. I can understand not wanting it to turn into a kids party, but you have to cut the single parent who is 5 hours away some slack.

Ditto, esp if it's her "BFF". Dude. Get over it!

robinsokj · June 2010

I personally didn't want kids at my showers, but would have made exceptions for situations such as those

akalutts · June 2010

I think it depends on the time, place, and crowd you are inviting.

pokeyswife · June 2010

I love the kids at showers. I couldn't imagine them not being there.

SweetPeanis · June 2010

There were kids at my bridal shower, my wedding and my baby shower. They were fine.

I seriously can not even imagine asking a friend who is going to travel to NOT bring their kid!

Heck I'm going to my BFF's shower at the end of July and I'm bringing Em with me! (1 1/2 hour flight to Missouri) She is begging me to bring her since she has not seen her since October. Because she's my BFF and she loves me AND my kid.

thefarmchick · June 2010

For my family showers and weddings are not only about the guest of honor but about catching up and getting to see everyone. Children are always a part of that.

I do believe that there is a time and a place though, if it is at a fancy restaurant or late in the evening I can understand.

Emie28 · June 2010

I find it strange that people are so anti kids at things like that.

BecauseICan · June 2010

I think there are certain scenarios that are not kid-friendly, and as the parent you have to be aware of that and make a proper choice. 99.9% of the time I don't take DD with me, b/c she's just too little to understand that the world is about anyone but her--and as much as I might find her antics funny, and others might to an extent, that doesn't mean they want to listen/watch her for the entire shower, wedding, event...KWIM? We have a shower and a wedding coming up--and DD was expressly invited, which is wonderful. But the shower will be primarily elderly people and at a restaurant, which, IMO, is not a place where DD will be successful for 2 hours. And the wedding is in the evening, only an hour before bedtime. So in both cases, although invited, I think it's best for everyone that she stay home.

That being said...in the instance mentioned, I think it's ridiculous for your cousin to be mad. She made a mandate, her friend is following it. If she doesn't like it, then change the mandate. She can't expect her friend, esp. as a single parent, to do anything other than put her child first. Personally, I think that friend deserves a pat on the back for being willing to travel that far w/ her child to be there!

MrsVonKikabee · June 2010

I love having kids at showers. Showers are almost always afternoon events in my family, with plenty of aunts & grandmas who want to see the kids.

For my baby shower, the only kid who might come is my nephew. I will leave it up to my sister to decide whether he wants to bring him or if it will be more work for her. In this case, I think it's ridiculous to ask the mom not to bring her kid - WTF is she supposed to do with him?

kayash · June 2010

My bff's dd was at my wedding shower - it would have been so stange without her there, I'm her "aunt" and she's totally like family since dh and I are only children. A cw at the job I was at when I got married was totally against kids at showers and weddings - which I don't get. Kids are such a major part of life why wouldn't you want them there to be a part of the event - although I could think that because my mom took me everywhere. But I totally don't blame the woman with the 5 hour job - what does her friend think she should do?