Seriously, men don't get it

NewMrs07

DH hasn't seen LO for over a month b/c he's been out of town working. So he doesn't know how crazy Adrian is now, he gets into everything and won't stay still for long. That means he won't stay in the car for more than an hour before he wants out, it can get ugly.

DH wants to have our stuff moved by a professional trucking company but then he wants to drive our Nissan SUV all the way from FL to TX, a 20+ hr drive. With Adrian!!! I told him a firm no. DH thinks it will be fun and we can make a road trip out of it. I told him he's nuts if he thinks it will be fun to have a crying baby in the car for hours on end. Not to mention those 20 hrs will become 40 since we will have to stop many times to feed and change LO.

I'm not going to do it, I want to fly with LO, not drive. DH doesn't understand why not. Am I being unreasonable? I'm trying to avoid a brutal trip and I'm not budging on this one. What do you guys think?

nisems

No, you're not being unreasonable at all. I can understand where your DH is coming from, thinking that a road trip would be fun, (I used to love roadtrips!), especially if he hasn't been in a car recently with Adrian.  It took us six hours to make a three hour drive a couple of weeks ago.  It was AWFUL.  I ended up riding in the backseat with Olivia the last part of the trip because it was the only way she was calm.  Up until then, she had been stellar in the car, but ever since then, it has been way downhill.  If he could get a taste of it, I'm sure he would change his thoughs about a roadtrip!  Good luck convincing him that flying is the way to go.

lmizgala@hotmail.com

No, you are definitely NOT being unreasonable.  What if you and your husband were to take a TEST drive (3 hours or so) with your LO so that he can see that a 20 hour drive just won't work?

Peppernut

I'd say *he* can drive it with Adrian as a "boys trip" and you can fly it, giggling the whole time.  

 No, really, I like the suggestion to take a shorter trip ahead of time so he can see how painful it is. 

stever

You're not being unreasonable. 20 hours in the car with LO is nuts, and my LO likes the car!

BrideBuddies

Definitely do a test run with a shorter trip to see how he handles it.  The boy may surprise you... you can never predict how they'll act.

That being said, we have a couple of major roadies scheduled for this summer.  I may be regretting this decision as well!

 

mommyof2texans

I'm with you on this one!  DH is driving from TX to OH in a month while I fly with the LO.  We have a family reunion in NY to go to and going to stop in OH first.  No way I'm making that drive with an 8 month old.

Pesky

No, you are making perfect sense.  Please I was worried about a 1 hr trip with DS -- anything over that is sheer madness!!!

pahokie

That is a heck of a trip, even for adults.  The only way I would even consider it is if DH agreed to only cover 4 hours a day or so, and even then DD would not be happy by partway through the second day.

I suggest the shorter trip trial option.

funchicken

My DD is a really good traveler, and she does well in the car, and there's still no way I'd do a 20 hour drive with her.  The longest we've done is 12 (in 2 days), and we did 9 hours in one day once.

I don't know what kind of car you have, but I find that it's hard to keep her cool/keep the sun off of her when we drive on hot sunny days (especially when she was rear-facing).  Maybe you could use that as an argument.  GL!

KD288

I like the test run idea, but I still don't think your being unreasonable.

Kandie35

You are not being unreasonable at all. There is no way I would do that. No.Way.

I take a train to Cleveland from Philly with Orchid. That is a 13 hour trip with me holding her, getting up and moving around anytime we want, and it is still hellish.

NewMrs07

Thanks ladies, it seems like DH is starting to get it. He actually had suggested what pp said about driving through the night, but that would make for 2 very tired adults and a baby that would still not sleep that well... he's a light sleeper and needs to be in his crib. I think all 3 of us would be miserable.

indianasunshine

My DH wants to road trip from Texas to Wisconsin with M because of all of the luggage restrictions and cost.  I think he has lost his friggin' mind!  I hope you fly.  Oh, and welcome to Texas!

Temp174496125006552

I wouldn't want to do 20 hours in a car, even if I didn't have kids.  No way in this world I'd do it with a 9 month old.  I'd definitely hold my ground on this one if I were you. 

NewMrs07

indianasunshine:

My DH wants to road trip from Texas to Wisconsin with M because of all of the luggage restrictions and cost.  I think he has lost his friggin' mind!  I hope you fly.  Oh, and welcome to Texas!

 

Thanks, gotta get Adrian a little cowboy hat, lol!