Name Update & Clicky Poll

dani_girl08

So, after having a pity party for myself & being in tears most of the day, I'm trying to figure out what to do about the baby name.  DH says he understands if I don't want to use it, but he also doesn't have a problem with it.  A big part of me feels like we have been calling our baby by these names (Reese Sophia and Sophia Reese) for the last several months, and it's who she is to us.  I will be absolutely heartbroken if we change it at this point (but, life goes on).  I also feel like it's stupid to let his ex have ANYTHING to do with our baby or her name, and she certainly should have no part in bringing us sadness or frustration about the process (although she has NO idea that she does!).  It honestly, 100%, do not care if our baby has the same first or middle name as her baby's middle name.  It does not bother me or DH at all.  The only thing that I worry about is other people's perception of it.  

DH dated this girl for about 6 years.  We are all from the same small town of about 1200 people, where everyone knows everyone, and everyone obviously knows that they dated.  Our parents all still live there.  DH & I now live about 30 minutes away, and his ex lives in another state (not even a touching state, as DH pointed out last night, haha).  We do not keep in touch with her, although we very occasionally run into her family.  Neither of us is friends with her on FB, but we have about 35 mutual friends with her (so they saw her birth announcement yesterday, and will see ours in 7 weeks).  I just keep thinking that if my BFF didn't know what names we were considering, she never would have emailed me to tell me that his ex-gf used the name, and I would be none the wiser.  I think maybe I would have preferred that.  

So, I'm wondering how big of a deal this would be to all of you.  She only used Reese as a middle name--do people even remember the middle name after the initial announcement?  I created a clicky poll so you can answer honestly & not have to worry about hurting my feelings or upsetting me that you don't think we should use the name.  Thanks for listening to me ramble! 

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MelVic

Sweetie, use the name..I like Sophia Reese the best although you did not ask my opinion lol...I have a friend who named her daughter Reese, it is an absolutel adorable name.......DH's ex did not do it on purpose as you pointed out.....I understand your frustration but who cares what other people think...all that matters is what you, and DH think!! 

If I were you, I would not change your name at all.... 

AprilJT

I honestly don't think most people will even remember the first name after the announcement.  I don't think most of your friends will even put the two together.  Use the name.

Mrs.PsyD

oh honey I know you are bugging out about this because of what other people might think. Try not to overthink it. Reese is an awesome name. I love it. and it's on our list for girl's names too. Please don't let the threat of gossip change your mind. People really won't care or connect it or anything unless they are uber gossipie people, in which case, they need to get a life. Your and DH's connection with the exgf ended when they broke up, so any name coincidences are just that. coincidences.

Use the name and love the name becasue deep down you do!  Middle, first, or however, it a really cute name.

BlondeBeachBride08

Use it however you please, hon. If people remember the ex's baby's middle name at all they'll just remember that it's a cute name that they've been seeing around lately. If anyone were to ever mention it (which I highly doubt that they would!) you could honestly just say "Well it's a great name, I understand why they like it!"

 

Ms.Beachbum08

You have been saying these names for weeks.  Still use them. :-)

Mrs.N.H.

I would use it. If people ask or say "Oh that is ex-g's daughter's name" you can simply lie and say "Really?...I didn't know...I guess it's becoming popular, huh?" it's none of their business anyway.

MmeBP

Mrs.N.H.:

I would use it. If people ask or say "Oh that is ex-g's daughter's name" you can simply lie and say "Really?...I didn't know...I guess it's becoming popular, huh?" it's none of their business anyway.

This! 

katers1279

I voted earlier this week, but now I can comment. 

Don't let this take away from the name you love.  The amount of people that will likely make the connection will probably be minimal.  Even in a small town.  And those that comment?  Even less.

Go with the name you love.  THAT is what is important.  You've established a "relationship" with a name, your little girl is likely a Reese in some form.  Don't let the fact that ANYONE else used it be your reason for not using a name you're in love with.