With DH and I, once we've decided on names, that's it, they're chosen.
With Evelyn, I chose Evelyn Alexis McKenzie fairly early on in the pregnancy... and during my wedding (of all places... I was around 6 1/2 months pregnant at the time), my mom's Aunt tried to convince me for half the night to spell it MacKenzie, because that was her maiden name, and it was the dominant form of the name.... It's on her birth certificate as McKenzie. I refused to change it. My child, my choice, that's how I wanted it, and nobody was going to talk me out of it.
For this child, since I named Evelyn, I told DH he could name this one - with some restrictions (he wasn't allowed to name it Voldemort!). So I got him to name the child before we even found out we were pregnant... months before I got pregnant, actually! So this one will be either Connor Edward Duncan, or Rebecca Grace Emily.
drakee:Depends why people hate the name. For instance, I really liked the name Annaleigh for a while but then once I got the "anally" connection from the haters, I started looking for another name pretty quickly!
I agree with this, if the name I pick out ends up sounding like something wrong or easily picked on, I'd want to know, and if it wasn't something I could live with, I'd pick something else.