Omg, MIL, really? (long)

penelopepink09

I never complain about my MIL. She really is an amazing woman and I do love her.

However, since LO was born she has been very, very greedy about holding him, cuddling with him, etc.  She lives very close to us and is able to see him pretty often.  I even went over to her house on Wednesday after LO's 2 week appt so she could see him.  I didn't have to offer to do that.

So yesterday, when DF and I are getting the kids ready to go to a family graduation party, MIL texts DF complaining that she "never gets to hold him".  What?  I was at her house for over an hour on Wed. and she held him almost the entire time (minus 20 minutes for nursing). 

Then, at the grad party, she gets there and immediately says "I'm taking him from you" to me.  And just reaches over and grabs him out of my arms.  I wasn't about to fight her because I didn't want to make a scene in front of everyone, but it pissed me off!!  So she is holding him for atleast an hour and my FIL asks her if he can hold him... She responds with "NO!! I'm pulling the Grandma-card!" 

I immediately went outside to tell DF about this because I was so irritated.  But, I really don't have the guts to stand up to her, and again, I didn't want to make a scene.  DF settled it by going inside, taking LO from her, and giving him to FIL.  My MIL knows I'm the one that said something, and now I'm afraid she's pissed off at me. 

But really?? She has held him more than anyone and the fact that she is texting DF to complain that I didn't let her hold him enough just really bugs me.  Then on top of it, being greedy as fvck when my FIL asks to hold him?! UGH! What do I do?!

kimandjared

That would really irritate me too!! Hopefully she gets over that real fast. Maybe if she knows you said something she will chill a little... maybe:)

penelopepink09

kimandjared:

That would really irritate me too!! Hopefully she gets over that real fast. Maybe if she knows you said something she will chill a little... maybe:)

I'm hoping so.  Maybe she'll realize how ridiculously overbearing she's being... of MY child.  But on the other hand, she might be really pissed off and be shitty with me the next time we see her.  But if thats the case, she sure won't be holding LO until she cools the heck off.

BSweet823

When my MIL gets to town in a few weeks these two should get together, they would get along really well!  My MIL is the same way, and thank goodness she lives in Missouri.

MIL and FIL came when DD was 1 week, unfortunately DD was on the bili bed so she couldn't hold her 24/7 but that is what she wanted to do.  We ended up taking her off the lights a lot that weekend so that MIL could hold her.  At one point DH said that maybe FIL would like to hold her, MIL looked shocked and then said 'but I don't want to share'.  She drives me absolutely crazy!!  MIL also refers to DD as "my baby."  Um, she's not your baby, your baby is 37 and is sitting over there if you'd like to hold 'your baby'

I'm sorry she's being this way, it is difficult. 

KaitlynDC6

I feel ya. My MIL called DH a few weeks ago crying that we are "pushing her away." She hadn't seen her grandkids in 6 days. Yeah.

americanada

ugh...so sorry.  my mil is coming again at the end of june and thinks shes going to hold ds the whole time. i told dh last night she has another thought coming.