About to kill grandarent in laws!!!

MrsColvin

We are visiting my DHs grandparents this weekend and OMG!!! first of all the grandma argued with me for 30 min that I need to give my 10 wk old rice! I said no way when the dr oks it I will but not sooner and she basically told me to screw what the dr said because she knows best! Then she tells me I must not be satisfying him with my milk because he cries.. Um yeah he has acid reflux after meals is when it hurts him the most! Then this morning my toddler asked for jelly and I told himno. I went to the bathroom and they gave it to him! I said no because it was apricot and he is HIGHLY allergic!!! Thankfully he spit it out but now I'm on allergic reaction watch!!! Why the HELL can't they respect me as a parent? I know what's best for MY kids!! I told DH that I maynot make it to tomorrow morning!!

VampyAuthor

Some people need a good whack. I hate when people don't respect the parents wishes.

Sugarnear

Sorry. I think you are well within your rights to leave if they are feeding him things that cause reactions.

My SMIL told me yesterday that she has her babies on solids they day they got home from the hospital, and since my LO needs "fattening" that is what I should do, too. I haven't let her hold him since.

And, my grandmother told me that I needed to get my one-week old on a feeding schedule, otherwise, he'd take advantage of me. WTH?

squishles10

That's ridiculous.  Maybe explain to DH that if he doesn't have a talk with them then there won't be any more visits.  Those are health issues, not just spoiling grandparent issues, and honestly, I would leave.

DaisyFull

I'm really sorry... that completely blows. I think though, because they are your elders, you just have to let it go in one ear and out the other. Just pretend to listen to them and then do what you'd normally do. Hang in there  (and drink lots of alcohol if you can!) LOL!

Starfish113

ABauer55:

I'm really sorry... that completely blows. I think though, because they are your elders, you just have to let it go in one ear and out the other. Just pretend to listen to them and then do what you'd normally do. Hang in there  (and drink lots of alcohol if you can!) LOL!

Love it!

That is super annoying. My grandmother keeps telling me to let LO CIO, and that she did it for all her babies. So annoying. Then she tries to make me feel terrible when I pick her up when she cries! Hopefully the weekend will get better and you'll survive! GL

MrsColvin

Thankfully we only see them once a year or else it would be bad! And I went off and told them no feeding my kid anything else without asking first!!! I mean they are 80 something years old so they just don't listen and think they know best! I just got soo pissed over the jelly thing! She thought I'd told him no because it had sugar in it!

blissfully_caffeinated

Stop arguing with them. They have no say in how you parent. If GMIL tries to tell you something (like to give LO rice) tell her that's not how you are doing things. If she tries to argue just tell her the conversation is over and walk away. If she continues to disrespect you I would leave. You are visiting them so they can hang out with their new grandbaby. If they want to be jerks then you should leave. I'm sorry you have to deal with this!