POA & Custody arrangement (NBFR)

Erin0922

DH and I are going out of town (camping - no cell reception) for our anniversary next week. Drew will be staying with my parents (I am such a nervous nelly, I wrote 10 pages of instructions for all his medical needs etc, lol).

I am going to get a notarized Power of Attorney saying they can make medical decisions for Drew in the event we cannot be reached.

We are also going to get a notarized document stating who will get custody of Drew should anything happen to both DH and I, since we do not have wills (yeah, we'll be taking care of that as soon as we get back!)

Any ideas on specific information I need to include besides names/etc?

unexpectedmomofsix

Wow.  You ARE nervous!  Is DH the father of Drew?

Erin0922

unexpectedmomofsix:

Wow.  You ARE nervous!  Is DH the father of Drew?

Yes, DH is Drew's BF.

rhoneelynn

There are actually forms you can fill out and print online.  That is what I have done for my DD.  The nice thing is you can search by your state too to make sure you have the right forms for your area.  One that I found is:

https://www.free-legal-document.com

 

Erin0922

rhoneelynn:

There are actually forms you can fill out and print online.  That is what I have done for my DD.  The nice thing is you can search by your state too to make sure you have the right forms for your area.  One that I found is:

https://www.free-legal-document.com

 

awesome, just printed them off! thanks!

SWmama

Is it bad if it took me your whole post to realize that POA meant Power of Attorney not Piece of @$$?

Yeah, I'm officially one of those SAHM's whose brain has turned to mush

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Erin0922

InternetExplorer:

Honestly, I wouldn't leave a medically fragile two month old baby.  I am surprised by this post.

And it seems downright irresponsible to go to a place where you can't be reached with 

a. a child that young and

b. a child that is medically fragile.

 

I get needing a break, but maybe a local hotel nearby?  This seems crazy...

I  fully understand and appreciate the concern. Drew has been stable for some time now, my parents are 100% educated and capable of caring for him, and they have the phone number of the campground office where someone is 24/7 in order to get messages to us, and where we can place phone calls out. All of this is just cautionary. We ran it past his surgical team as well as his primary care pediatrician, and everyone gave the thumbs up. We will only be gone 2 days, but can be back in town in an hour if needed.

mom2one

How long has Drew been home from the hospital now?

Erin0922

mom2one:

How long has Drew been home from the hospital now?

7 weeks. it will be 8 when we go on our trip.

J&A2008

InternetExplorer:

Honestly, I wouldn't leave a medically fragile two month old baby.  I am surprised by this post.

And it seems downright irresponsible to go to a place where you can't be reached with 

a. a child that young and

b. a child that is medically fragile.

 

I get needing a break, but maybe a local hotel nearby?  This seems crazy...

This was my thought as well, but then, I've been criticized for "being a martyr" so, damned if you do, damned if you don't, I guess.

mom2one

Erin0922:

InternetExplorer:

Honestly, I wouldn't leave a medically fragile two month old baby.  I am surprised by this post.

And it seems downright irresponsible to go to a place where you can't be reached with 

a. a child that young and

b. a child that is medically fragile.

 

I get needing a break, but maybe a local hotel nearby?  This seems crazy...

I  fully understand and appreciate the concern. Drew has been stable for some time now, my parents are 100% educated and capable of caring for him, and they have the phone number of the campground office where someone is 24/7 in order to get messages to us, and where we can place phone calls out. All of this is just cautionary. We ran it past his surgical team as well as his primary care pediatrician, and everyone gave the thumbs up. We will only be gone 2 days, but can be back in town in an hour if needed.

 

Seems crazy to me that any mom would WANT to be away from their special needs 2 month old infant for any length of time. But what do I know? 

Erin0922

Ok, wasn't trying to open up a discussion on my parenting skills/priorities.

Just asking about custody and POA documents. Which I would have been asking about whether he was special needs or not.

Thanks anyways.