Stupid, Selfish Comment???

ashleywebber

Today I was at a bagel shop where they have a mommies and kids group (this lady comes and sings and dances with the kids).  I overheard this mom with her precious baby son say, "Yes I was really disappointed it was a boy.  I cried the whole time at the doctor's office."  Is it just me or is that a stupid, selfish comment? 

**Octoberbride09**

That's a ridiculously stupid and selfish comment.

hailey_marie_2006

Thats horrible!! That just kills me i cant stand that! They should be thankful God blessed them with a baby at all wether it be a boy or girl!!!

mhazel1204

WOW! People like that really piss me off!

CMSullivan326

When I found out I was having a boy, I was bummed for maybe 2 seconds and then I was over it real quick...I was just so excited to be pregnant and having a healthy baby I didn't care what it was and I wouldn't change it for the world!...But I also know someone who said that they were really upset when they found out they were having a boy. Now she's pregnant again and made the comment "It BETTER be a girl since I didn't get my girl last time! If not, I don't know HOW I'm gonna react"...Really?!...No Comment

OctoberBabyH

**Octoberbride09**:

That's a ridiculously stupid and selfish comment.

This.

I will admit, I was shocked when I found out we're having a girl. I am extremely happy bc she is healthy (weren't so sure at first...scary!) But I was not disappointed. I was such a tomboy growing up and I just really thought I was going to have a boy. I thought "what am I going to do with a girl? I hope I know what to do!" But I got over that immediately and like I said, I am just happy she's healthy. I actually cannot wait to have a little girl!

 

I do find it odd that she would say that and in a public place. Mother of the year award goes to...

ArmyWife3

Stupid and selfish. I understand a brief moment of disappointment if you were hoping for a girl, but being so upset that you cried the whole time...and continue to express your disappointment to other people... that definitely crosses the line into stupid and selfish, IMO.

Estellankase

I feel bad for her son!

andipandic

I think this is something you say to a friend, in private, that is bummed that they're having a boy.  And then you tell them why you LOVE your boy now.

And it certainly ISN'T something you say IN FRONT OF said boy.  Poor kid. 

welcel

I get it.  I cried when I found out dd was a girl.  That doesn't take away at ALL how blessed I felt that everything was healthy with her.  But, at the time I was working with juvenile delinquent girls.  I heard girl and I saw the girls I worked with.  I panicked.  I was terrified.  And then I got over it.  I tend to cry when I am dissapointed, and I was.  But again, I got over it.  I am madly in love with my little girl and have been since before she was born.  In fact, now I'm actually hoping that this one is a little girl.  But again, I hope above he/she is healthy (that should go without saying).

I don't know that I'd announce it at a coffee shop, but then again, I just announced it on the internet, so maybe I would. 

stephanieroyer

i didnt find out what i was having with my first (i knew in my heart he was a boy though) but i remember people ALWAYS asking me "what are you hoping for?" and my response was always the same thing "a healthy baby" thats its thats all.. a healthy baby!

sharony_0505

I think that's a really stupid thing to say, especially to others, and in front of your child.  My mother-in-law constantly says how depressed she was when she was pregnant with my husband...it makes me so sad for my husband to hear that....I couldn't even imagine EVER saying that.  I just don't understand the train of thought there....

hbrady123

I think I would have even been excited if the ob said that I was having a kitten. I really don't understand questioning a blessing. I wanted a baby so long I could have cared less. Karma will snap that ass sooner or later and let her realize what she has, and maybe make her appreciate it.

PunkyBooster

Unfortunately, I know of a lot of people with gender disappointment. It's just bizarre to me.

yeshuahamasshiah

My mom always made comments to my younger sister about how she always thought she was a boy and she was DEPRESSED when they found out she was a girl. I always resented my mother for this.

I am not sure if that had anything to do with her coming out a few years back after having a baby and being married but now she has a g/f.

 

Toreshi_Tobin

Dear lord. I can understand being disappointed for a few minutes if you were really hoping for one and got the other, but even if it was really really upsetting for you, I can't imagine just sharing that tidbit with a whole room full of people! I'd probably smack her upside the head if I'd heard that!

GenRN45

i had a team green family, at the birth, upon finding out it was a boy, ask for time to MOURN their loss... because they wanted a girl.

Their words.

quidditchcapn1120

GenRN45:

i had a team green family, at the birth, upon finding out it was a boy, ask for time to MOURN their loss... because they wanted a girl.

Their words.

You've got to be kidding!  They sound like they shouldn't have been team green to begin with so that they could have had time to "mourn" earlier on.  Give me a break... people should be ecstatic that they are blessed with a baby to begin with.   

MrsJones714

DH and I really want a boy first, but will be absolutely thrilled for a baby girl. That being said, a friend of ours knows we are hoping for a boy and said "Won't you just throw yourself down the stairs if they say its a girl?! hahaha." Uhhhhh no. What are you? Stupid? That's a horrible thing to think, let alone say out loud. But some people completely lack tact.

SpinFreak13

idiots.

You know, I went into the Big US with this attitude - I just want a healthy baby. If it's a girl, I'll have a mini me! If it's a boy, then I'll have a mama's boy who'll always love his mama.

Why do people have to be so negative about the sex of their child?

Staribeth

GenRN45:

i had a team green family, at the birth, upon finding out it was a boy, ask for time to MOURN their loss... because they wanted a girl.

Their words.

 

That's ridiculous. How did you respond to that? I give you a lot of credit for resisting the urge to slap them! 

shakes

People say some incredibly stupid things when other people can hear them. Its sad when someone is disappointed but it happens. You think you would keep that to yourself or within your closest circle though. My husband was pretty bummed when we first found out we were having a boy, he wants a girls so so bad. I was understanding at first but after a day or two I was getting upset. He explained that he was NOT disappointed that baby to be is a boy and was happy about that aspect, but worried that he would never get his little girl....this made a lot more sense to me and was easier to understand and appreciate his fear. It lasted all of 36 hours, and now he says he couldn't imagine the baby being anything else but a boy. BUT he would never ever say that to anyone let alone infront of the baby....my goodness.