::Trying For A Sibling Check-in::

mrs.monica · May 2010

**Trying For A Sibling ~ TTGP Group**

Welcome to our bi-weekly Check-in!!

Good luck to us all!

Check-ins will be Wednesday 11 (EST) & Sunday Eve

Wednesday QOTD: How do you control your jealousies about other friends? pregnancies, multiple children, fb messages/sonogram profile pix, even random strangers who have the family you dream about?? How do you keep yourself in check? Do you have a breakdown sometimes? How do you deal?

**Note: If any of your diagnoses, m/c?s, or other info below isn?t accurate or updated?please let me know so I can fix it!

Welcome newbies: KateMW, Grace0609 & taagent . We hope your stay with us is short! GL to Scuzzlebutt today on her CD21 b/w! Congrats who Heather & Nayt who finally got AF after a long cycle. Heehee is still struggling with O?ing! O dust your way girlie! Yaa for staryeyes who finally had her first PP Oing! Buckeyemom is on prometrium & cd54?come on AF you bizzatch!! Hoping ECUGirl gets some answers on her spotting issues after some b/w! GL to Rebelina as she prepares her body for her first IVF!! Pumped for Mari who will start IUI w/ injectables in June!!! Byrne had her surgery and it went very well! Speedy recovery girlie! T&P?s go out to the ladies in our group who have recently experienced a m/c. We are here to support you! Sticky dust to all our recent BFPs!

BFP?s: None since Monday?but if you missed it divakotka got hers on Monday 05.24!

2WW?ers to watch: flypink, cooperl (yaaa!), starryeyes (newbie), niceybee, PDXgal, kscarlett5 (did you test again???), atlb685 (temps still up but spotting!), MG7, AutumnBride929 (still looking good and testing Sat), MySweetBaboo, michelleh (15dpo!!!), myaddiwaddi (did you test??), utgirl (with an early O). If there is anyone else definitely make it known in your check-in so we can support you during your 2WW! If you have no FF chart it?s hard for me to know sometimes.

I know God will bless us with another baby on His time - not mine.? the wise flypink

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Moderator: mrs.monica - #2 ? OH ? LPD, c/p 12.09, c/p 04.10 - Chart

Ali&Luke - #3 ? NY ? m/c 10wks, m/c 03.10 ? BFP 04.25 ? EDD 01/05 BFP Chart

AMB11 - #2

Ameliasmom - #2 ? VA ? m/c 12.09 ? BFP 04.17 ? BFP Chart

AngelaL - #2 ? PA - BFP

AppleMomma - #2 ? FL ? trying for 2u2 ? PCOS ? BFP 05.10 BFP Chart

Atlb685 - #2 ? FL - Chart

audreyf1978 ? #3 ? MI

AutumnBride929 - #2 ? NC - Chart

babes12 - #3 ? PA ? loss ? BFP - BFP Chart

babyike - #2 ? TX ? Mirena removal, thyroid issues ? BFP 03.11 ? BFP Chart

babykuz - #2 ? CA ? clomid (just upped dose) - Chart

BabyS2008 - #2

babyschiller - #2 ?MD ? possible thyroid issues ? BFP 03.14

Beccaboo0713 - #2 ? OK ? upping dose of MET still no AF L - Chart

bridefromafar ? #2 ? IL ? BFP 02.14

brideon082104 - #2 ? BC ? BFP

brits4 - #2 ? VA - BFP Chart

buckeyemom - #2 ? OH ? anovulatory cycles Chart

byrne - #2 ? NY ? TTC break surgery done!! Resuming TTC in June!

CAkelly - #2 ? CA ? pree & HELLP ? clomid+trigger - Chart

CantWait2B? - #2 - ?? ? BFP Chart

cari12- #2 ? AK ? recent IUD removal ? BFP 02.12

classybride143 - #2 ? m/c 02.10 ? BFP 04.19

CoachMsWife - #2 ? MO ? hoping for 2u2 ? BFP

colesmom_07 - #2

Columbiamommy - #2 ? MO ? BFP 04.29 - BFP Chart

Cooperl788 -#2 ? NH ? provera - Chart

Cynthia7461 - #2 ? GA ? starting next cycle

DaniLovesPink - #2 ? IL ? short LP/PCOS, acupuncture ? BFP 02.01

delsurfgrl - #2 - PA ? BFP 01.23

divakotka - #2 ? TX ? m/c 02.19.10 ? BFP Chart

DLD102 - #2 ? BFP 02.03

earthboundmisfit - #2 - MI ? Mirena recently removed, m/c 5 ?wks ? BFP 02.05

ECUGirl2004 - #2 ? NC - Chart

Erbear ? #2 - PA

flgirl79 - #3 ? FL ? m/c 9wks, D/C 10 yrs ago ?BFP 03.29

flypink- #2 - Chart

fxz109 - #2 ? BFP Chart

Grace0609 - #2 ? WI - Chart

g8orell - #2 ? FL ? PCOS/clomid

happyfarmwife - #2 ? KY ? blocked FT ? BFP 02.07

HarmsMomma - #2 ? MI - Chart

Heather813 - #2 ? WV ? BFP 02.17

Heather & Nayt - #2 ? OR ? c/p 04.10

HeatherMichele - #2 ? AZ

Heehee611 - #2 ? VA - Chart

Helms - #2 ? WI ? no PP AF yet

hodgie - #2 ? VA ? chemical PG 10.09 ? BFP

Houstonbride1 - #2 - CA

Jb&Jb - #2 ? LA ? BFP 04.06

Jessr510 - #2 ? PA ? BFP Chart

jimsBride08 - #2 ? PA ? BFP Chart

jkelly41 - #2 ? m/c

JNJ83097 - #2 ? NY ? possible SA/HSG on horizon ? BFP 05.04

jzc0106 - #2 ? NJ ? m/c @ 13wks ? BFP 02.22 ? stick baby stick!!!

KateMW - #2 - AL

kcswifey - #2 ? IL ? m/c, premature DS ? awaiting HSG - Chart

kellie04 - #2 ? OH ? BFP 03.03

Kellsdanz - #2 ? IL ? BFP 04.29

KeriMac - #2 ? m/c 02.10 - BFP

KJKNAJ - #2 ? BFP

KMLP - #2 ? IL ? m/c 11.09 ? BFP 03.24

Krissi~n~Justin - #2 - PA

Ladysingstheblues -#2 - ?? ?

Lambchops - #2 ? OH endo/hypothyroidism/Factor V - Chart

LB3701 - #2

LeggyNic - #2 ? WA ? Mirena removed 1.13 ? BFP 05.13 BFP Chart

LiLnikkiMe - #3 ? NJ ? BFP 03.24

Lily82 - #2 ? IL ? starting TTC 07.10

lissasue3 - #2 ? VA

LittleApple - #2 ? NY ? BFP 04.27 ? Due 01/07 BFP Chart

LuverlyMum - #2 - VA

MamaMe2 - #2 ? BFP 04.30 ? BFP Chart

MaMaSiBs - #2 ? IL ? m/c @ 10wks

Mari2003 - #2 ? IL ? clomid, aspirin & folgard ? TTC on hold till June

Marie&david1028 - #2 ? TX ? BFP 02.24

MaybeBaby#2 ? #2 ? SC ? Endo/PCOS - m/c 03.10 - Chart

Measrn - #4 ? PA - Chart

MG7 - #2 - Chart

Michelleh0385 - #2 ? GA - Chart

mj0612 - #2 ? MD - Chart

Mommajen8 - #2 ? PA ? BFP Chart

Moonfaerie - #2 ? MD ? BFP 2u2

Mrs.in.Love - #2 - MA

MrsLeanna - #2 ? FL

Mrs*MichelleB - #3 ? NY - Chart

Mrs.priss7 - #2 ? CO

Mrs.Saxy - #2 - LA

mrsschrager - #2 ? CA - m/c 5 ?wks ? BFP 03.15

murrr23 - #2 ? NY - Chart

myaddiwaddi06 - #2 - Chart

Myheart1297 - #2 - NY

MySweetBaboo - #2 ? GA - Chart

NewFamily09 - #2 - ??

Niceybee05 - #2 ? Chart

Nicolebuchalla - #2 ? FL - Chart

Nicole&Spin - #2 ? IA

NikkiBenzo - #2 ? NJ ? BFP 04.26 ? m/c 05.10

NorcalLinds - #2 ? CA- BFP

OneLuckyMom - #2 - MI

Pattypoundcake - #2 ? NY

PDXGal7868 - #2 ? WA ? premature DS - Chart

Philomele - #2 - NJ

Phishphood - #2 ? PA - Chart

Pink hydrangeas - #2 ? NY ? IUI BFP Chart

pook1105 - #2 ? CT ? BFP 03.18

rasuhu - #3 ? BFP 01.18

rebelina1 ? #2 ? CO ? IUI #3 - Chart

ReeseM - #2 ? TN ? BFP Chart

Rubypercy - #2 - MA

Ryleigh - #2 ? IL ? BFP 01.13

SaucySarie - #4 ? MO ? BFP 03.24

*Scuzzlebutt* - #2 ? Canada ? possible LPD/Prog def ? undergoing testing Chart

ShanaNChris - #2 ? WI ? short LP, loss @ 31wks - BFP

Skipperg82 - #2 ? HI (so jealous!) ? on MET

skroops ? #2 ? NY ? RPL

soontoBmrs.AGEE - #2 ? AL ? clomid, possible SA

staryeyes - #2 ? MN - Chart

staycee ? TBD - CA

strimble26 - #2 ? TX ? c/p 05.10

taagent - #2 ? SC ? TTC on hold ? starting charting

TeamK07 - #2 ? MA ? BFP 03.20

TexasLadyBug - #2 ? TX - BFP

Tjknitz - #2 ? MI -BFP

TLM08 - #2 ? MO

Triciaj1 - #2 ? MO - Chart

TweetyPinion - #2 ? m/c 07

Utgirl2 - #2 ? UT - Chart

VivianLee -#2 ? NC ? m/c 12.09, m/c 02.10 - BFP

vjm618 - #2 ? MA ? next step DH testing

weddnplanninfun - #2 ? TX

W111MRP - #2- OH

2bejunebride06 - #2 - FL

2.red.head - #2 ? MO ? BFP 02.03

**If I miss any BFP?s please PM or page me with info**

ECUGirl2004 · May 2010

QOTD: I usually feel jealous when someone first tells me they're pregnant, but I get over it pretty quickly. Sometimes I still feel a little sad that I'm not pregnant too, but I'm not really jealous. I just allow myself to be sad if I want to be. Usually once I start talking to someone about their pregnancy, I get too excited for them to be jealous. I still love seeing other people's belly pics and ultrasound pictures though.

Cycle Update - Still waiting to O...

mrs.monica · May 2010

I don't deal well, to be honest. I am the color green lately...green with envy. I get bitter when I see my pregnant students or teens, I get frustrated to hear another friend is KU again, I get upset when I see my friends with their "completed" families and I'm still struggling. I unfortunately often-times take it out on my DH (I know I suck) and we disagree more often lately than we used to. Yesterday was hard for me being my 32nd birthday and knowing I had planned in my head to be KU by then...so it was a let-down and a difficult day. I was such a crab that my DS asked if mommy was "crabby". How mortifying! This is the reason that I asked this question today. I need ideas for how to deal with my emotions. A run or a manicure or something special for myself used to help...but they are big fat fails now. Nothing brings me out of my funk except for my son and his adorable mannerisms and questions. Thank God for him!

Nothing to report on the cycle front. AF finally left the building so that's a plus. Hoping to get on the baby-making train by the weekend.

ECUGirl2004 · May 2010

mrs.monica:

I don't deal well, to be honest. I am the color green lately...green with envy. I get bitter when I see my pregnant students or teens, I get frustrated to hear another friend is KU again, I get upset when I see my friends with their "completed" families and I'm still struggling. I unfortunately often-times take it out on my DH (I know I suck) and we disagree more often lately than we used to. Yesterday was hard for me being my 32nd birthday and knowing I had planned in my head to be KU by then...so it was a let-down and a difficult day. I was such a crab that my DS asked if mommy was "crabby". How mortifying! This is the reason that I asked this question today. I need ideas for how to deal with my emotions. A run or a manicure or something special for myself used to help...but they are big fat fails now. Nothing brings me out of my funk except for my son and his adorable mannerisms and questions. Thank God for him!

Nothing to report on the cycle front. AF finally left the building so that's a plus. Hoping to get on the baby-making train by the weekend.

{{hugs}} mrsmonica! I'm sorry you had a rough birthday yesterday. DS just turned 2 and I had thought I'd be pregnant by his birthday. Instead, there were 3 pregnant mamas at his party, but I wasn't one of them. I'm not jealous of them though, just sad that I'm not pregnant too. My 31st birthday is in August and now I'm wondering if I'll be pregnant by then.

A lot of times, I remind myself of all the cliche things that people say about TTC... you know, that there is no "baby quota." My pregnant friend is not having my baby, KWIM? Also, I try to remember that I have no idea how long most of my friends were TTC. For all I know, it took them awhile. Finally, I try to remember that whenever I do have another baby, that baby is going to be perfect for our family. I'll be so thrilled to have him or her in our lives, that all of the waiting will be worthwhile.

staryeyes · May 2010

QOTD: I haven't been TTC#2 long enough to feel jealous about other people's pregnancies. It has taken me so long to be ready to try for a second that when people with LO's younger than DS announce a pregnancy on fb, my first thought is "There's NO way I would've been ready for another at that point!" Smile

The only thing I've said along those lines this week is "I really hope I get KU soon because I'm taking every uterine twinge/cramp as a sign and that will drive me to a padded room if it keeps happening for lots of cycles"

triciaj1 · May 2010

Hey girls! I just wanted to stop in and say hi. I don't really deal with jealousy except on here sometimes, and I just ignore all the drive-bys.

I'm on CD2 and it sucks really bad, but I figure I'll lose like 10 pounds just from this. hahahaha gross I know but it's BAD..

MySweetBaboo · May 2010

Good morning TFAS!

Good luck everyone in the 2ww!

QOTD: I haven't gotten there yet, I am not sure that I will! If I didn't already have dd, I may be a raving lunatic. I am rarely on fb anymore, but status' never bothered me. I am very happy when there is a baby announcement. I guess my perspective is I feel incredibly blessed with dd and even though I really want another and ttc is frustrating me, I have her!

My cycle update, I am in the 2ww. Absolutely no phantom symptoms at all and usually by now I have 'em all. I think I am 7 dpo, ff picked cd 16, but I think I o'd on cd 15. It probably doesn't matter much in the grand scheme. I've kept zen this cycle, no bumping at home at night or on the weekends has helped.

AutumnBride929 · May 2010

Hello! My chart is looking good still... and I had a higher temp yesterday than usual which makes me super giddy but I kind of hate that bc I'm still expecting AF in the back of my mind, lol. I'm crazy.

I don't have any serious jealousy or anything about others' pregnancies right now. I will say things like, "I'm so jealous!" in a joking kind of way because I am a little but it doesn't upset me to hear about anyone else expecting. It just makes me hopeful that maybe soon I will be joining them in the pg club!

CAkelly · May 2010

QOTD--I was dealing okay for a while, but lately not so well. Usually around the time of af I cry a little and get angry but I try and keep it to myself so I don't seem like a horrible person. I have a close friend who is pg with #2 now (happened on her first month trying) and she is just really insensitive about things. I don't mind hearing about the pg, it's just all of the negative things....she says how horrible it will be with 2 kids, how lucky I am that I'm not pg because she is soooo sick, how she is too tired to "deal" with her dd because she is soooo tired etc. She knows about our struggles and still says these things. I put on my happy face and smile and hope it seems genuine.

I am really happy for others who get pg but I have decided that even though I am happy for them, it is okay to feel sad for me.

As for my cycle, I go back to the re on Friday to start clomid again and will trigger again. We won't be able to try an IUI until August because of vacations this summer so clomid + trigger is our plan for 2 more cycles....hopeflly it will work.

Good luck to everyone else!

Temp356619000002780 · May 2010

I don?t get jealous over stuff like that, but if I see a mom on TV that has killed her child I feel rage. I feel rage when I hear about abused children. I have a hard time understanding why they get to be fertile and I can?t give my son a little brother or sister. That?s what makes me question life. As for my friends with LO I take advantage anything to hold a baby! Update: First IUI + injectables is set for June cycle. Yay! It's all too real!

PDXGal7868 · May 2010

QOTD: I tried to remind myself that I am genuinely happy for them. If I can set my feelings aside and remember that my time will come, the jealously fades away. Doesn't mean it's always easy though, especially when I feel like I am surrounded by PG people and babies.

*Think* I am starting my 2ww...

niceybee05 · May 2010

QOTD: I try to smile and be polite and remind myself that a baby is ALWAYS a blessing even if it's not mine =(...that being said i do have my little break downs and just let a few tears out and get it out of my system. Lately i have been more emotional since we will TTC next cycle..and I am dreading the disappointment of BFN...just thinking of the ones i got and how emotional i was before our TTC break has me pretty stressed.

Update: none really just waiting for AF to show up next week but secretly wishing she doesn't and i somehow got KU although i know that isn't possible..i am still crossing my fingers lol..i know how pathetic am i?

Beccaboo0713 · May 2010

QOTD: I only have one friend who is pregnant right now and I cried the day I found out. I haven't seen her since she told me but that is just coincidence. It's hard knowing that I am broken and she is not. It would be different if I was normal and didn't struggle with fertility issues but I do and so I feel like there is no hope.

At the same time if I only had my DS then I know I would be blessed. I love him dearly. He turns one in a week and I am so sad and so proud.

Update on me: 11 day LP and my period reared her ugly head. Of course I cried. We had perfect timing. The 11 day LP has me a little concerned. It was a tad longer when TTC DS...I think 12-13 days. I am really hoping I will O before CD 80 this cycle. I have a plan for this cycle though. Lot's of sex, lot's of pom, green tea, etc.

By the by has anyone heard about the benefits of baby aspirin and TTC? I might as the doctor.

rebelina1 · May 2010

QOTD: I have always done a really good job of not letting what other people have affect me. Luckily for me most of my friends are done having kids (because I am old - ha!) so it is not something I have to deal with regularly. When I do see an announcement even though I may feel a pang of jealously I am truly happy for my friend and the jealously goes away quickly.

Update: Nothing new to tell. Still taking the BCP. I have injection classes starting in 2 weeks.

buckeyemom · May 2010

QOTD: I have really tried to just think about how lucky I am to have DD. I get a little pang of jealousy everytime I see pregnant women at work (and there are a lot), but none of my friends have kids and only 1 is TTC. She is having difficulty so we sort of comiserate together. I think I'm less crazy about it emotionally since I know I'm not ovulating and haven't had a chance. I just keep thinking that if I could just ovulate then I will get pregnant. I may be setting myself up for a huge letdown, but I'm going to stick with that for now!

Cycle wise I finish up the Prometrium on Saturday and then hopefully AF will show up Monday or Tuesday, then it's off for b/w and to start clomid. I'm really hoping that clomid is "da extra boost" I need to filly spit out an egg.

GL to all of our 2WW and Happy belated birthday to you Mrs.Monica!

myaddiwaddi06 · May 2010

Dealing with other's close to me that are having babies isn't always easy. I had 4 of my friends give birth in the same week last month and now all of a sudden it's like everyday someone on FB posts that they are expecting. On occasion I get upset and have a break down but this was only my 3rd cycle. I have a DD who was not planned so I just keep telling myself that it's not in my time or on my schedule. It will come! It helps that DH doesn't pressure me at all.

Cycle update: CD1 sucks!!!!!!!!

notkateanymore · May 2010

QOTD~ I actually don't get jealous really. We just started trying for #2 and I had a really easy time getting pregnant the first time. So, I'll get back to you if I'm still trying in the Fall.

MG7 · May 2010

I don't feel jealous when I hear about other pregnant woman but my reasoning is horrible. I have a friend who would love to have another but her DH is dead set against it. I keep using that as my reminder that even though I'm not pregnant yet at least I will get to be pregnant. We really have not been trying very long and DH is getting more and more excited about another baby so that really helps keep me from getting jealous. Each week he's asking more questions about my temps and Oing.

phishphood · May 2010

QOTD: I definitely have struggled with being jealous. A few of my friends are pregnant now and I'm so happy for them, but it stings sometimes when I see their bellies. I just try to focus on how happy I am for them and that being jealous isn't going to get me pregnant any faster.

Good luck to all the ladies in the 2ww!

HarmsMomma · May 2010

Good luck to everyone on their 2WW! I hope there is BFBs all around for you!!

Can you add APS to my "line"? I got offical b/w back today, but I was expecting it so no surprise. I will take a baby aspirin every day until I get BFB then will take a blood thinner regiment until delivery. Thanks!

Happy birthday mrs.monica, I'm so sorry that you're feeling down, I wish we could make it better! My DD and I said an extra special prayer for you tonight.

QOTD: I don't feel insanely jealous of others yet. I block (LOL) a lot of people from my newsfeed, don't follow too many blogs, and most of our friends have children who are older (and insist that they are done) or are still single and don't want kids yet. It makes it easier. I'm sure that my days of being crazy are coming though .... I am pretty mad at myself, however, for not charting earlier, not seeking out answers earlier, ect. We had a flippant attitude but now we want a baby NOW sooooo I'm mad and will be crazy soon.

utgirl2 · May 2010

I usually think to myself that I wish it were me, but I do put on a happy face and try to put myself in their shoes. I would want people to be happy for me. Plus a lot of the time I don't know how long they have been trying...maybe they struggled to. There is always a little jealousy though, and I don't think theres any way to get through those feelings except to think positively and hope that my turn comes soon!

MaybeBaby2 · May 2010

QOTW: Everyone around me has recently had baby #2 and it honestly does not bother me. I KNOW we'll have a baby, so I'm just biding my time and holding the babies (and then giving them back). Wink
A few of my super close girlfriends know my situation and are super supportive. I'm enjoying the time I have with DD before another comes along. Also I'm starting to be more okay with the age gap after seeing how hard it can be with kids closer together.

Cycle update: Just got CH's from FF, finally. I don't know why my cycles seem to have changed all of the sudden?

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