If you have one of each sex (or will have)

CaitlinJ22

Do you feel like you can't imagine not having another son or daughter?

The other week I told DH that I cannot imagine not having another little boy. I would ideally love each of our kids to have a sibling of the same sex...don't know if that will happen, but i love having a son and can't imagine not having another. (Im sure ill feel the same about another daughter) Maybe this is bc I am one of 3 girls, and having a son has been a different, and awesome experience. 

anyone feel this way? 

peapine

Thank you for your post! Because we just found out we are having another girl and at first I was a little disappointed (I will admit it) my husband was just THRILLED. That helped me. But, I grew up with one brother, so I feel the exact opposite as you. I dont know how it will be like for DD to have a sister! I always thought having one of both "completed" a family and I we will miss seeing how a boy would look like - because we probably wont have any more children.

But, turns out, I am finding so many people have such positive things to say about having siblings of the same gender. I never had a sister and always wanted one. I have never been close to my brother- please dont let that get to you- I think our relationship was more due to our parents parenting style. But it will be nice for our daughters to have so much in common.

Good luck to you!

MrsPreK

I don't. I have enough love to go around and we really would love another boy for DS If this one ends up being a girl, we may even try again in a few years. If it is a boy we will be done.

Jilybean17

I just can't imagine being done right now. I want each of them to have another sibling I would love another little boy for DS, just because as of now he is out numbered between his sister and my niece. We are going to wait a couple of years before trying for #3. We would like a bigger gap between DD and the next one...and a bigger house

Telyco

I was thinking about this (sort of) the other day. And I can't imagine having another boy or another girl - because of how much I KNOW this little boy and little girl. I just can't picture a different boy or girl....this makes sense in my head but I guess I can't really explain it...

HarrietNJMommy

I never really thought about it. I have 2 girls and I actually can't imagine NOT having them. Then there's DS. I do want him to have a brother growing up, but I think we're done having kids......UGH!

aldyn

I'm pretty sure we'll be done with 2.  If I could have planned it, I would have planned older girl, younger boy (and that's supposedly what's in store); however, I would have been thrilled with any combination.  All that being said, I did have a momentary bit of sadness for DD because she wouldn't have a sister.

shouldbworkin

yes I did.  I thought I was totally a boy mom and wouldn't know what to do with a DD (which is funny b/c before I had DS I thought I wouldn't knwo what to do with a boy).  But, it was fine.  I'm actually more of a girl mom after all.

bacala1

I feel having one of each makes me really appreciate each gender and their differences. It's a different feeling and relationship you have towards a son and daugher (both awesome!)

CaitlinJ22

bacala1:

I feel having one of each makes me really appreciate each gender and their differences. It's a different feeling and relationship you have towards a son and daugher (both awesome!)

I am looking forward to it I also just feel like I would want another boy one day too, I love having a son and would love for him to have a brother. 

bacala1

CaitlinJ22:

bacala1:

I feel having one of each makes me really appreciate each gender and their differences. It's a different feeling and relationship you have towards a son and daugher (both awesome!)

I am looking forward to it I also just feel like I would want another boy one day too, I love having a son and would love for him to have a brother. 

I think that is because our sons are all we know right now and because we love them so much! I think once we get to know our daughters we will feel the same way towards them. Or maybe it is true what they say about boys being mommy's boy lol.

UkieBabe

In our case it was 2 and done no matter what genders. In fact our first is such a handful that I was starting to think maybe 1 was enough....but we decided to still go for 2 and will be happy to have 1 boy & 1 girl. I don't feel kids miss out if they don't have a sibling of the same gender, there are potential playmates everywhere, I don't need to personally birth them!

moonfaerie

I don't know what #2 is yet, but I do think that if it's a boy, I will feel a longing for L to have a sister. I don't know that I'd feel a boy needs a brother that way I feel L needs a sister. I am very close to my two sisters and DH has three brothers but boys are just....different in the way the maintain relationships. I would love for L to have an experience like I have with a sister.

Of course I will be happy if this one is a boy too, because it will be neat to see both sides of the coin in raising children and DH really wants a son.

MattsWifey<3

My DH felt that way.

When we found out DD was a girl, he was (I hate to say) seeming a little dissapointed. 

When we found out DS was a boy, he was all "I really wanted another little girl". LOL. He just adores her. She is every cliche to him "apple of his eye" "daddy's little girl" etc. It's adorable!