Mom is suspicious!!

nygirl07

I wanted to keep our pregnancy a secret for a few more weeks b/c I really don't want our mom's blabbing it to everyone...and they will!!

Well my mom is for some reason suspicious that I'm PG....she keep asking me and thinks b/c I keep blowing her off that I'm not telling her so now she's going around telling everyone she thinks I'm pregnant!!  It's annoying me b/c I wanted it to be a surprise and now everyone is asking me!

I know if I tell her she will slowly leak it out even if I tell her not too..same with my MIL...and we have a BBQ this weekend so I know if I tell them now they will definetly tell...even if I don't know they will "secreatly" blab it.

 What would you do?  Tell and hope for the best...or wait until I was ready to tell?

 

 

wmramsel

This is something that you shouldn't have to compromise.  Tell on your own time, its a personal decision!  Maybe tell her you are upset that she is telling people that?  Or that you are stressed?  I don't know how you feel about lying like that, but it might be an option! 

stbmittleman

wmramsel:

This is something that you shouldn't have to compromise.  Tell on your own time, its a personal decision!  Maybe tell her you are upset that she is telling people that?  Or that you are stressed?  I don't know how you feel about lying like that, but it might be an option! 

I agree. I would either tell her to knock it off and she's being inappropriate by telling people her suspicion. When you are ready to tell her tell her. And after that time (doesn't have to be the same day), I would sit down and tell her that her inability to keep quiet about her suspicions, let alone the actual news was the reason you waited so long to tell her. I can't remember if you told your sister you are pg or not, but if you have, have you thought about talking to her about this and maybe she can tell your mom to back off??

uklawgirl

If you tell her and then tell her to keep her mouth shut because it's YOUR news to tell, would she? We told my parents and it's going to kill my mom not to tell but I told her that I should be the one that gets to hear everyone being excited on the other end of the phone, not her.

ohashlet

I'd tell her to keep her damn mouth shut, that it's incredibly inappropriate and hurtful. She needs to learn boundaries. And then I'd tell her with other people there, in a group. 

Sometimes people lose their special spots for being jerks.

nygirl07

I'm debating on just telling her and like a PP said she telling her to keep her mouth shut b/c I want to tell others.  I know she excited and that's fine but I feel like my whole surprise is out the window.  She even said it to my MIL who is now suspicious...and they plan on "watching" me this weekend at a memorial day picnic to see if I drink.

I just wish she could keep it to herself and wait to be surprised, now I feel like I just want to call her, tell her and thank her for ruining it but I don't want that to be the memory of my mom finding out.

At this point I feel like I need to tell her before the picnic b/c if now she'll be at the picnic telling everyone that she thinks I'm PG and then everyone will be asking me which would be so annoying.

ohashlet

nygirl07:

At this point I feel like I need to tell her before the picnic b/c if now she'll be at the picnic telling everyone that she thinks I'm PG and then everyone will be asking me which would be so annoying.

 

Is she 5!? How annoying. I'd stand up to her, NOW. 

I told my mom on mothers day and she was all, "wait until I tell Grandma!" and I quickly replied, "no no no, you're not telling anyone until I'm comfortable with it." She fought, but gave in finally.

I'm sorry she's being such a bother.

nygirl07

Yeah, when it comes to this she is...she thinks she can tell one person and they wouldn't tell another