Acknowledgment of RSVP

BitterOldHag

Here's a new one. DH's relatives sent an RSVP by email on Friday that they can't make it to the party.  I marked them as no and made a mental note to send new pictures/vid.

This morning I get an email from MIL asking if I saw the RSVP because I didn't respond. I didn't realize I was supposed to. Do you call someone/email someone who left you a message saying they can or can't attend a party?

I'm wondering if there's an etiquette faux pas on my part. Thoughts?

ETA: The RSVP was from DH's aunt, not MIL.

MommaMar

Hmm..I probably would have just replied, "sorry you can't make it, will send pics." I don't think you were rude though.

josswhedon

I probably would have shot back a short sentance like "aww too bad, we'll send pictures" to the aunt not MIL. but I don't think it was any etiquette faux pas at all.

abrightgirl

She probably just wanted to make sure you had seen it so you didn't expect so and so to be there....might be nice to send note in response to e-mail...oh sorry you won't be there thanks for letting me know...just so they know you did indeed get it....don't you ever worry about someone not getting a gift, notice, etc?  proably the same thing...more work for you but reassuring for the guests who were polite enough to RSVP (seems like hardly anyone does these days which is far worse!)

RNOHIO

I wouldn't respond to an RSVP that was to not attend.  I guess I've never really thought about it though.  I didn't think that it was rude.

jenn_darrin1515

I didn't respond to any of the email RSVPs I received....hmmm...

seashell82

i would've done the same thing- nothing.

deeanneharris

MommaMar:

Hmm..I probably would have just replied, "sorry you can't make it, will send pics." I don't think you were rude though.

I agree with this. If I get a phone message, I don't always call to acknowledge it though.

ivs112

Acknowledging an RSVP is pointless. If I have to respond to every RSVP I get, I might as well have just called everyone and aked them if they were coming, KWIM?

I wouldn't expect a response to my RSVP, whether I RSVP'd yes or no.

kit443

After they get your acknowledgment of the RSVP they are supposed to send you a thank you note. Then you send them a postcard. Then they send you flowers. It is a complicated process yo.

MattysGirl81

ivs112:

Acknowledging an RSVP is pointless. If I have to respond to every RSVP I get, I might as well have just called everyone and aked them if they were coming, KWIM?

I wouldn't expect a response to my RSVP, whether I RSVP'd yes or no.

This.  Plus, I assume emails get to people.  I've gotten a couple responses like, "yay, can't wait to see you!" to the parties we've been to, but I certainly don't expect it. 

kiki-W

if it is a paper rsvp, no.

but email or phone call i always reply back that it was received.

 

jolis_petits_bijoux

Nope, no faux pas on your part.  I have acknowledged most of the RSVPs we got via email with a quick note of "Glad that you can come" or "thanks for letting me know you can't make it", and most of the people who called me, I spoke with directly.  I did get two voicemails from relatives who are unable to come, and I didn't call them back.  

::Shrugs::  In the past, when I've RSVP'd for something and had to leave a voicemail (or emailed), I didn't think anything of it if I didn't get a response.  I'm pretty sure I usually didn't. 

BitterOldHag

kit443:

After they get your acknowledgment of the RSVP they are supposed to send you a thank you note. Then you send them a postcard. Then they send you flowers. It is a complicated process yo.

:::dies:::