I didn't like the midwife...back to step 1

wmramsel

I went and toured the only free standing birthing center here and loved it.  That was back in February before I got pregnant.  So I called and we had our first consultation with an actual midwife...I really didn't like her and had a really negative feeling about her.  So now I'm back at square one trying to find an OB.  I had my heart set on having a midwife and going with the birthing center, I'm sort of at a loss as to how to go about trying to find an OB.  My gyno also doesn't do OB, so I really have no idea.

How did you ladies find your OB? 

willamina28

Was there only one option for a midwife?

wmramsel

There was one other midwife, but she is only part time and both midwives are at every birth.  I really didn't like her, to the point where I didn't trust her or her judgement.  

honey740

Go here to search and just try and visit the websites.https://www.midwife.org/find.cfm

Maybe pick a few to meet? Also, just google the names, there are typically reviews out there although I would take them with a grain of salt. 

wmramsel

honey740:

Go here to search and just try and visit the websites.https://www.midwife.org/find.cfm

Maybe pick a few to meet? Also, just google the names, there are typically reviews out there although I would take them with a grain of salt. 

 

Thank you, but the only midwives allowed in the hospitals here are ones connected with an OB's office and hospital, so I have to go to the OB first and if they ok it, then I can have a midwife present.  SC is a little biased against midwives, and insurance only covers a midwife if s/he is also an RN.  I have no idea how to find a new OB...

willamina28

bummer sorry that didn't work out

campberson

I asked my local bump board and then made a list of all of the recommendations from the responses.  I then went to my insurance handbook and crossed out whoever wasn't covered by my insurance.  Lastly, I went to google and kudzu.com, and cross-checked each office/doctor to see what *the internet* said (just wanted to make sure there weren't any big complaints about anyone).  

GL! 

edit: forgot a word

honey740

sent you a PM

atdowns

fortunately, or perhaps unfortunately in my area there are only three psractices allowed at my chosen hospital. One is an Ahole I know him personally LOL one has a really bad track ercord of mal practice, I was actually at jury selection on a mapractice trial where he'd horribly botched a ladie's apisiotomy ( cant spell that on a good day much les with baby brainmaking my typiing even worse!) so that left my current practice I think i won the OB lottery thoug, my OB is so wonderful.?

but th last poster had a really good idea, get recomendations (from the board and from other women you know who had a good experience) cross reference with your insurance an that'll usually thin out your choices.?

you can also still work with a midwife or doula in preperation for birth and after. that way you might feel more in control and prepared for the whole birthing thing.

UrbanHippieMama

That sucks.  Sorry.   Trusting your care provider is so important, especially during labour!  Not feeling comfortable with someone could totally stall your labour, and you don't want that! 

If you can't find a midwife you like, hire a doula (actually, I would hire one either way.  Best decision we made for my last labour) so you can still get that one-on-one feeling.  She'll be with you through your whole labour, unlike a Dr (or even a MW in some cases).  GL!!

wmramsel

Thank you so much ladies!