this thing cracks me up...

pawcall

https://www.amazon.com/Time-Out-Pad-HD015-Blue/dp/B001IMG5WG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1274464695&sr=8-1

On sale at MB for $15.

Are you planning to use time outs?

Rochell

hehehehe ...not a time out pad like that one but definitely a time out will be used indeed. I find them very effective if done correctly.

hotmama82

My DD occasionally gets a time out right now, at 18 months, but it consists of sitting in her crib to scream a bit then redirected.

wmramsel

It depends on what works with my child.  If time outs work, that will be fine.  But I am a firm believer in spanking also (sometimes not a popular opinion).  My brother and I were both spanked, and not only are we perfectly fine, it was the only thing that really worked with us.  My ex-friend would actually pinch her child(she would also lock him in his room too....)- something I do not intend to do.  Spanking= bottom.  

MrsPreK

No. We don't use it, nor do I intend to start.

mn*plumm

We do a kind of "timeout/calm down time" for our daughter. She is a big drama llama and is huge into throwing tantrums so when things are getting bad we sit down on the floor till she calms down. If she is really bad she has to go to her room until she is ready to settle down.

jaejaevee

We may use time out at some point in the future, but I don't think DS would have any idea what it means now.  My parents used it on us (in the form of standing in the corner) and it was pretty effective.  We very rarely spanked and that's what we plan for our children.  DH's parents used a lot of physical punishment so he is pretty against it.

atdowns

I would never use that thing, it's like, mom and dad arent coordinated enough to put a kid in a time out so they have an electronic timed sensored pad do it?! I dont get it at all.?

time outs in the form of crib time, corner facing etc as was mentioned works for the most part but i grew up in a spanking, soap in the mouth kinda family and I grew up just fine (far better than my step sisters who rew up in time out only land) and I only reember actually getting 4 spankings as a kid, i call them the pivotal life altering spankings LOL because it doesnt take much to dicipline a kid if you're concistant and dont let them act like wild animals for the first four years then suddenly try to dicipline them for kindergarden or something.?

I'm a child care professional and the kids in my care are very well behaved because they know where the limits are and i'm very very concistant with that so there's no tantrums, no button pushing, no drama. I can literally just glance at a kdi when they're about to step over the line and they back up and change direction... which is healthy.. kids like to know where they stand, not be guessing at how far they can throw their weight around before someone loses it LOL (as oposed to the moms who say, pick that up, pick it up, pick it up now, pick it up before I count to three, one.. pick it up.. two, pick it up... come here and pick this up... two and a half... you need to pick this up.... who are they kidding?)

I always said my mom didn need to spank me alot, because the ones I got STUCK and just a look or the sound of my name with a certain tone brought that memory back and i KNEW she meant it.?

pawcall

atdowns:

I would never use that thing, it's like, mom and dad arent coordinated enough to put a kid in a time out so they have an electronic timed sensored pad do it?! I dont get it at all. 

time outs in the form of crib time, corner facing etc as was mentioned works for the most part but i grew up in a spanking, soap in the mouth kinda family and I grew up just fine (far better than my step sisters who rew up in time out only land) and I only reember actually getting 4 spankings as a kid, i call them the pivotal life altering spankings LOL because it doesnt take much to dicipline a kid if you're concistant and dont let them act like wild animals for the first four years then suddenly try to dicipline them for kindergarden or something. 

I'm a child care professional and the kids in my care are very well behaved because they know where the limits are and i'm very very concistant with that so there's no tantrums, no button pushing, no drama. I can literally just glance at a kdi when they're about to step over the line and they back up and change direction... which is healthy.. kids like to know where they stand, not be guessing at how far they can throw their weight around before someone loses it LOL (as oposed to the moms who say, pick that up, pick it up, pick it up now, pick it up before I count to three, one.. pick it up.. two, pick it up... come here and pick this up... two and a half... you need to pick this up.... who are they kidding?)

I always said my mom didn need to spank me alot, because the ones I got STUCK and just a look or the sound of my name with a certain tone brought that memory back and i KNEW she meant it. 

Ugh.  I think it's more than possible to consistently discipline your child without being abusive. 

IMO, if you can't get the message across to your children without hitting them or forcing chemicals in their mouth, you're not trying very hard.  

I know plenty of adults who lack manners and the ability to behave like decent human beings in public.  I'm not allowed to spank them or shove soap in their mouths.  I'd be arrested for assault.

I'm sorry, I know it's never good to get all argumentative on the boards, but listening to people advocate abuse just makes me sick.

LeggyNic

We use time outs with DD but it's pretty rare.  Although there are days when she's in a mood and she'll get them repeatedly. 

You don't need to buy anything though.  I use a few placemats I didn't like that I got for wedding gifts as her "spot"

pawcall

LeggyNic:

We use time outs with DD but it's pretty rare.  Although there are days when she's in a mood and she'll get them repeatedly. 

You don't need to buy anything though.  I use a few placemats I didn't like that I got for wedding gifts as her "spot"

I wouldn't buy this either.  just for some reason it cracks me up.  The alarm if your kid picks her butt up.  ha.

wmramsel

cdobry01:

atdowns:

I would never use that thing, it's like, mom and dad arent coordinated enough to put a kid in a time out so they have an electronic timed sensored pad do it?! I dont get it at all. 

time outs in the form of crib time, corner facing etc as was mentioned works for the most part but i grew up in a spanking, soap in the mouth kinda family and I grew up just fine (far better than my step sisters who rew up in time out only land) and I only reember actually getting 4 spankings as a kid, i call them the pivotal life altering spankings LOL because it doesnt take much to dicipline a kid if you're concistant and dont let them act like wild animals for the first four years then suddenly try to dicipline them for kindergarden or something. 

I'm a child care professional and the kids in my care are very well behaved because they know where the limits are and i'm very very concistant with that so there's no tantrums, no button pushing, no drama. I can literally just glance at a kdi when they're about to step over the line and they back up and change direction... which is healthy.. kids like to know where they stand, not be guessing at how far they can throw their weight around before someone loses it LOL (as oposed to the moms who say, pick that up, pick it up, pick it up now, pick it up before I count to three, one.. pick it up.. two, pick it up... come here and pick this up... two and a half... you need to pick this up.... who are they kidding?)

I always said my mom didn need to spank me alot, because the ones I got STUCK and just a look or the sound of my name with a certain tone brought that memory back and i KNEW she meant it. 

Ugh.  I think it's more than possible to consistently discipline your child without being abusive. 

IMO, if you can't get the message across to your children without hitting them or forcing chemicals in their mouth, you're not trying very hard.  

I know plenty of adults who lack manners and the ability to behave like decent human beings in public.  I'm not allowed to spank them or shove soap in their mouths.  I'd be arrested for assault.

I'm sorry, I know it's never good to get all argumentative on the boards, but listening to people advocate abuse just makes me sick.

 

There is a big difference between abuse and spanking.  And this is coming from a children's advocate.  It is one thing not to believe in it, its another to accuse someone of abuse because that form of punishment works for that child.  Like I said above, nothing else would have worked for me as a child.  And telling a parent they aren't trying very hard if they aren't disciplining their child in a fashion that YOU find appropriate... well, thats a bit judgmental.  I've seen things that go well beyond discipline, abuse that most people couldn't even comprehend, and I would never accuse someone of abuse for spanking a child. 

pawcall

It's extremely judgmental.  I wouldn't for a second deny it.  I'm not generally a judgmental person, but sometimes I can't hold it in.

I understand that many people are fine with spanking, and are careful not to cross the "abuse" line.  I could never agree with it, and I consider it emotionally abusive, although I do agree that it may not always be physically abusive.

I can't see soaping a child's mouth as anything but abuse.  A mouth full of chemicals because your child said something you didn't appreciate?  Come on.

WestCoastMommy

We do time outs now for DS but we make him sit on his bed until he is done crying. It doesn't work. He opens his door and throw all his toys in the hall in a fit of rage lol

atdowns

I'm sorry if you were offended and i'm going to try to not let my extreem hurt at your accusing me of being abusive cause me to rant here, but how dare you ever call smoeone abusive without even knowing them? I do know abuse, part of my job is saving children from it. you may think spanking is emotional abuse, but i happen to think that allowing children to grow up without proper boundaries is potentially emotionally abuse aswell, but i dont go on this board saying that anyone who doesnt spank their kid is abusing them. because there is always a line and acusing someone of crossing it without knowing them is wrong. And I dont live in a world where my views are the only acceptable truth.That's why I dont go around acusing and defaming those I disagree with.

notice i never once said i'd HIT my child. a spanking is a diciplinary tool that is not done in anger, revenge or malice. and yeah I got a soap bar put in my mouth as a kid for swearing, it taught me an important lesson, that sometimes when you get outta line and spout your mouth off sometimes bad things end up in it.. better my mom's bar of ivory soap than someone fist later in life! I thank my mom for the lesson. PS yeah soap might have chemicals but so is processed foods but people sure cram enough of THAT down their kids throats!

I'm not about to go around telling parents that dont believe in spanking that they're ?disgusting deprave human beings, because that is what child abusers are, how DARE you call me such a thing because of MY parenting choices! if you dont like them, here's an idea, DONT USE THEM! learn how to phrase your admittedly judgemental oppinions in a way that isnt inflamatory and intentionally hurtful. You couldnt possibly have any other intent than to cause intence pain in a woman who's already lost one prescious child and is not struggling to keep this one alive with those horridly ugly words.

I sincerely apologize if my oppions upset anyone, that sincerely wasnt my intent and I openly welcome and embrace caring conversation on the topic as my mind is not a finished text but n ever open book being written and reexamined every day. Bu i can not and will not be called a monster for being a loving mother who wants the very best possible up bringing for my child.

kdjones1982

Can I get one for my DH? Maybe they don't make them for adults.