DS STTN, but not DD.... any ideas?

eileenm21

I know I should in no way rock the boat if any of them are STTN at 3months, but when you are so close to the promiseland, how can I not try? lol.  people have been telling me to dreamfeed at like 11pm.  I don't want to wake her if she naturally sleeping till like 2 am.  They both eat every 4hours and she takes about 6 1/2 onces per feeding.  I can't really get her to take more and I don't want to, I want her to eat what she needs, no too much.  at night I tried the backing down theory from 12HS12WO book, but she isn't satiated.  She takes anywhere from 4 ounces to 7 - sometimes she is starving. DS weighs a little more and just did it on his own.  I think the answer is wait for her to do it on her own, but I wanted to see if any of you had the same situation and if you did anything about it. 

preheatedoven

Curious to see what answers you get. We are in exactly the same boat. DH and I use DD as a bargaining tool sometimes:) Like "I'll take DD overnight if you....." Of course on the nights when I have DS he decides to wake up, too:)

LMK8605

I would try the dream feed - it helped DS alot.  Try it for a few days and see if it works - if not don't worry about it.  Dream feeds were really easy for us - they took no time at all but resulted in longer stretches of sleep.  I wouldn't stay up to do a dream feed - just do the dream feed before you go to bed.

GL  

BTW - we didn't have to do dream feeds for all that long - just until they were about 5 months old. 

kimarino13

Lily has been STTN (7-5) for a few days now but Sophia still wakes up for a 2 am feed.  I am hoping it'll just be a matter of time before she drops that.  I tried the 12SB12W book thing last night but that was a disaster.  Sophia was still hungry after 4 oz and woke up earlier than normal after the middle of the night feed.  Ugh.  I think I am just going to wait for her to hopefully drop it on her own.

#1_BadgeBunny

Im in the same boat.... DD STTN since 3 months! DS refuses! I am finding the older he gets the better he is getting but still no STTN.  For instance no more bottles, and he was needing to be rocked to sleep when he woke up at night but a few nights of not picking him up but rubbing his face (he loves that) and he got the hang of getting himself back to sleep.  but he still wakes at least 1x a night and fusses.  i usually just give him his paci and he is back off to never never land. 

one thing i did stick with was NOT taking DD out of the room and seperating them.  this has taught her to sleep through his complaining.  unless DS really gets wound up DD will stay asleep. 

Teething started and sh*t canned the sleep "training" but we are starting to get back on track despite the top teeth makng an appearance! so for that i am grateful! on thing my pedi did suggest and it has helped is to practice "sleep training" during nap time.  You are awake and more willing to put the time into working with them.  This was very true for me.  both DH and i found we had more determination during naps than at 2 am!

lastly one thing that helped me was around 4 mo i allowed DS to complain for about 5 min and found he would put himself back to sleep and didnt need mama after all.  it was VERY hard at first bc my instinct was to run to his side at the smallest squeek but now i give him a minute and 9 times out of 10 he falls back asleep. 

GL and i wish there was a magic trick b/c trust me i would use it! i really think its just time.