WWYD in my position?

Lapsfam

I am part of the big sister/big brother program but leaving since i am due soon. I have two more scheduled outings with my Little Sister. One is a group end-of-year party and one is a last one-on-one outing.

It was supposed to be today, but I have been sick with bronchitis all week and my doctor told me to stay home and rest; I feel pretty weak and really crappy, and I have no voice. We were supposed to spend the day at a museum, and I just cannot do that.

I told her social worker who was like, please just feel better. I never heard back from the mom at all. I called twice, I emailed, etc. Last night, I got an email from my little sister about how excited she is to go to the museum...like her mom did not tell her!!

So in a panic I called again this morning and talked to the dad (mom was not home). Dad was like, Oh, I think she got the message - so you can't go? This is after I explain I have viral bronchitis and I sound like a transvestite, too! I say yet again that I am sick. He's like OK, I'll convey that...

 OK, why has the mom not gotten back to me at all? Do I try to track her down again? Have I done my job? Am I some sort of hideous person for cancelling?!?! Sheeeeesh. Ugh.

KKM

I think you have done the best you can.  They know you cant go, and you obviously are sick.  Just take care and feel better, and hopefully you can reschedule soon.

Jeane_P

I think you have done enough.  If you still feel bad just e-mail you little sister directly and tell her that you are sick and would like to reschedule as soon as you feel better.  Feel better.

Lexi0402

Jeane_P:

I think you have done enough.  If you still feel bad just e-mail you little sister directly and tell her that you are sick and would like to reschedule as soon as you feel better.  Feel better.

This. Hope you feel better!

kayteatrudeau

Don't feel bad for cancelling. You did the right thing. You need to take care of you. Sounds like she's just not good with follow-up. Perhaps she got busy and forgot.

lotsofbustles

Well this kid needs a BS for a reason and it's probably not b/c her mom really has it all together.  I think you went above and beyond to convey the message.  Maybe send your LS a card saying how much you wanted to be there. 

Dawson56

I was a big sister also and sometimes its just hard when you have to let the little ones down.  but you are pregnant and sick and you have at the end of the day do what's best for your LO..