Timing Sucks

MrsRonBurgundy

OK, I may get flamed for this, but here goes. Friday morning we bought a house (down payment & signed anyway, rest is in process). Friday afternoon my company posted my DREAM job. No seriously, I have always wanted this job and I am perfect for it. But it's in another city and it would involve tons of travel. 

Not saying the job would be mine if I wanted it, lots of competition but I'm a strong candidate, even my boss told me I should apply for it (I haven't told work I'm pg.)

Now I'm freaking out, like "what am I doing all knocked up. I'm terrible with children. I don't want a screaming crying baby. How did I get into this mess." I did actually always want kids, but once it was upon me I wanted to put it off and put it off. (I'm older, couldn't put it off anymore, decided ok let's try.)

Anyway, I'm not going to do anything and I don't see how I can formally apply for this job, given that it's an hour flight/3 hr train from where we live.. and we bought a house aaand I'm pg (which I understand is a blessing and I am grateful)... But, I don't know. Did anyone else have this sense of ohmygod, I have to grow up and I can't go after all my dreams, at least not the career ones.

OK, flame away. Thanks for listening.  

kensbride08

Hands down, at the end of the day having your child and being there to raise it is very important.

Sorry for the timing. Maybe something else will come along later.

*Mush*

MrsRonBurgundy:

Did anyone else have this sense of ohmygod, I have to grow up and I can't go after all my dreams, at least not the career ones.

 

Yes.  It's called "welcome to mommyhood", and everyone goes through the freakout stage.  Don't worry, everything will fall into place.  I would still apply for the job.  It can't hurt!

 

Good luck 

HappyMommy28

Not really, but it doesn't seem practical, pregnant or not, to take a job that requires so much traveling.  I mean, at the very least the timing of the house is off, not the baby.  There are many successful women who go after dreams everyday.  Career and otherwise.  You have to learn time management and prioritization.  I'm going to school to be a teacher and have just gotten into a program where they took 24 applicants.  I have to drop now because of the due date.  Having a baby is something I've been wanting.  My baby is more important to me than my schooling - I plan on going back later.  Just take it easy and be happy about your pregnancy.  New house, new job, traveling, and baby could be stressful.  Plus, when the baby gets here, will you really want 1 - 3 hours of waiting after work before you get to see him/her?

mhwofford

I think it's normal to have those 'What have I done moments'.  Part of us is really excited to have a child but at the same time there's a lot of fear and nervousness.  Our LO is a bit unexpected and we were planning on waiting a few more years so I could go back to school first. However it looks like life had other plans.  I'm realizing now though that different isn't always bad and I just have to trust that everything will work out the way it should.  Also, a friend's mom is my inspiration.  After having 3 kids and in her 50s, she went back to school and became a pediatrician.  Pretty impressive if you ask me! Anyway, you never know what life will bring you later on!

beenbizzy

I think everything happens for a reason and you found out about the baby and bought the house before the job... so those I would focus on them.  Perhaps in a year you will decide something different about your career anyway.  Lots of mom's end up changing something because we are all constantly trying to find the perfect balance (which I'm not sure it exists). 

beenbizzy

And another thing - as a working mom, there are constant struggles.  Increasing your commute and travel seems like an easy one to put aside, for me.  The working moms board is a great place to see some fabulous career moms without any consideration of flaming.

USArmyWifeToBe

All I can say to you is our timing isn't HIS timing. It may not fit into your "perfect" idea for what you wanted, but neither did waiting for 4 yrs, going through infertility treatments & losing 2 babies & giving up TONS of opportunities for that small chance to have a baby. I would say take it as a blessing in disguise & jump into it whole heartedly that you may not "feel" that this is YOUR plan but it will come with soo many blessings you don't see right now. Its a blessing & not a curse to be chosen to be a parent.

KJKNAJ

I still wonder "what the heck am I doing being a MOTHER?!??!!" and I'm about to have my second, lol.

NewFamily09

You'll be glad  you have your baby.  A job just can't give the same kind of satisfaction that a baby can.  It sounds like a good opportunity, but something else will come along. 

AudgePaudge

My freak out moment was a little different... I decided to watch a video of a lady giving birth on youtube and should NOT have done that.  All I could think afterward was "What have I done?!"  I mean once a baby's in there it has to come out. Ahhhhhhhhhh!