Confession: I hate it when...

erbarmywife

The same person tells me, everytime I see her (which is just about every day), that "oh em gee you've popped some more!".  I know I'm getting bigger every day...I can FEEL it happening.  You dont need to tell me!  Also, stop telling me that I'm going to gain a ton of weight!  I didnt comment on the fact that you were well over 300lbs when you gave birth, so dont tell me.

And, dont roll your eyes and mention how you're going to hear sooo much about my pregnancy when I make a face and cover my ute when it's stretching.  You asked what's wrong, I answered.  If you dont want to know what's wrong?  Dont ask.  Simple.

PunkyBooster

I just have found myself not talking about my pregnancy to people. I don't even tell people I am pregnant anymore if I am not close to them. I get asked too many weird, invasive questions that borderline offend me. People are just trying to make conversation, but they can make it about the weather for all I care.

HappyMommy28

I hate it when a friend of mine continues to make the statement..."Just wait till you have kids..."  I know having kids isn't easy but this is the most exciting thing thats happened to me since the day I got  married.   Stop trying to bog me down  with negativity!

Punky - I too have stopped talking pregnancy to people.  And I swear, if I hear - do you get morning sickness - I just might puke on them.  Why is that the ONLY thing people can think of.

Oh and if I take a day off and go back to work I get looks of sympathy because "the pregnant lady wasn't at work so obviosly she was sick."  UGH wow,  my vent went a little to long

julieanna21

I hate it when I say I don't feel well and the response is, well you chose this, you should be happy.  Today I feel particular crappy but also - every second - tremendously happy.  I don't even bother answering people's how are you anymore.  I just shrug it off. 

I hate it when MIL says I'm bigger than she was at this stage or she was much more lively and active at this stage than me. Note that I'm a size 2 and have only gained 2 pounds.  She is not now nor has ever been a size 2. I don't understand the math, but I assume she means this only as conversation and I'm taking it too heavily, so I don't argue about it.  She's totally thrilled about the baby so I guess it's her way of being sure the baby is fine.

Yesterday I met with my boss to discuss my maternity leave and he made clear that it is short term disability and I can't put it on the calendar just because I INTEND to have a baby in November.  I also told him I'll be using my vacation time (earned through 8 years with the company) to stay home longer than the 6 weeks because I feel 6 weeks is too young to leave.  He pointed out that we wanted equal rights and we got it, and women who don't want to leave their babies have the option of quitting.  On the flip side, he's very excited about the baby and even called to tell people he was going to be "an uncle".  Strange man, I love him but sometimes he sounds like a caveman. 

georgia_aust

I hate when people ask me if I know the gender of my baby yet. I'm only 5 weeks along.. and I don't even want to know the gender of my baby. I would love for it to be a surprise. However, they just assume that every mother wants to find out the gender of their child before it's born.

georgia_aust

Julieanna, your boss sounds like a jerk. I can't stand men who bring up the equal rights crap. I'd like to see them give birth sometime!

julieanna21

georgia_aust:

Julieanna, your boss sounds like a jerk. I can't stand men who bring up the equal rights crap. I'd like to see them give birth sometime!

If men had to give birth they would be off for the entire rest of their lives and we would be expected to fan them with palm fronds and peel them grapes.  If I have to hear one more time from a male coworker that I'm no longer going to be a productive employee now that I'm having a baby, ugh!  But honestly it's even worse coming from the women who complain that I will expect special treatment just because I'm pregnant or a mom.  Oh yeah, this one's great, I am purposely having the baby in November so I won't have to cover the office during Thanksgiving and Christmas.  Oh, y'all got me!  The diabolical plan to birth my way out of holiday work!  Funny though, a coworker just sprained her ankle and they're so worried for her, said stay out as long as she needs.  Hobble in lady, you need to toughen up

hotmama82

I hate it when people complain about how hard solo parenting is and thank god they only have to do it one night. Umm... WTF? It's call PARENTING! Taking care of your child alone for 1 night, 2 nights, hell 5 nights is a breeze. Try 3 months straight, and then you can complain!

Amanda Red

julieanna21:

 

Yesterday I met with my boss to discuss my maternity leave and he made clear that it is short term disability and I can't put it on the calendar just because I INTEND to have a baby in November.  I also told him I'll be using my vacation time (earned through 8 years with the company) to stay home longer than the 6 weeks because I feel 6 weeks is too young to leave.  He pointed out that we wanted equal rights and we got it, and women who don't want to leave their babies have the option of quitting.  On the flip side, he's very excited about the baby and even called to tell people he was going to be "an uncle".  Strange man, I love him but sometimes he sounds like a caveman. 

 

check into fmla....you have 3 mos that they have to hold your position ( not that they have to pay you, unless you have the vacation time you mentioned).....quoted from article:

LEAVE ENTITLEMENT A covered employer must grant an eligible employee up to a total of 12 workweeks of unpaid leave during any 12-month period for one or more of the following reasons: for the birth and care of a newborn child of the employee; for placement with the employee of a son or daughter for adoption or foster care; to care for a spouse, son, daughter, or parent with a serious health condition; to take medical leave when the employee is unable to work because of a serious health condition; or for qualifying exigencies arising out of the fact that the employee?s spouse, son, daughter, or parent is on active duty or call to active duty status as a member of the National Guard or Reserves in support of a contingency operation.

CLWilliford

....I get told that Im going to have a long hot summer to be pregnant. OH REALLY CAPTAIN OBVIOUS: Its only been hotter than a forrest fire for the last 25 years of my life, why would this year be any different?

lvnbraves

I'm with  those saying, "I had so much more energy than you seem to have" - i'm THIRTY-FIVE - you were 21 when you had your first kid.  Give me a break - and I work FULL-TIME!

 *sigh*

Sorry, had to deal with that last night on what was not a good pg day.