Visiting from 6-12: when did your LO start STTN (without "ferberizing", "CIO", e

Tatyana11

I am visiting from 6-12, my LO is 8 months old and he is still not STTN (except for a few nights here and there). I know it is not uncommon at this age and I would like to avoid "CIO" and "ferberizing".  I am waiting patiently for him to start STTN on his own. I am presently trying the Pick Up/Put Down Method but if it does not work I will just wait it out...

Did any of your LO just start STTN on their own once they reached a certain age? If yes, what age was it? Please, help me see the light at the end of the tunnel and give me some hope.

 

 

azaretsky

DS didn't STTN until he was 13 months old - when we finally couldn't take it anymore and CIOd.

GRKaters

It was well after 15 months, and not without some very mild CIO-ish training. We never got past 10min of crying before going in. 

 

Tatyana11

Oh boy! I was so afraid that I would get this type of reply! Let's see how long it will take until I cant take it anymore... I probably won't last more then 2 minutes of CIO unless I leave the house and have my DH execute the CIO.

cbwm

He didn't STTN until 11 1/2 months old when we did the Sleep Easy Solution (form of CIO). I was dead set against it but after the 50 billionth emotional breakdown from lack of sleep/PPD, we did it and he's been STTN since.

Not the answer you were looking for. Sorry. :-) 

iteachk

13 months

bnljane1988

Around 4 mos - no CIO or other "methods."  Although, I will say that DH started going to him for a couple of nights when DS would cry, so DS wouldn't expect me to feed him (I was BFing)....DH would just pop his paci back in his mouth.  DS quickly replaced his paci with his thumb and that led to STTN almost immediately.

  I believe we were lucky.  I expect this next one will not be nearly as easy.

mrsmcdonald

11 months with no CIO/Ferber, although she still has an "off" night every once in a while. She typically sleeps 8:30-7:00. Although we'll see how it goes when I stop nursing her to sleep!

snowinlv

18 months with very few tears, but some had to happen.

cbwm

I cannot express to you how fantastic and EASY the Sleep Easy Solution was. I think we built it up in our heads to be much worse than it was going to be, but DS was STTN within four nights of starting it.

Cin.NJ

I was one of the lucky ones....was sleeping through the night by 10 weeks (was going 6 hours between night feedings...midnight -6am), but by 4 months he was sleeping 10pm - 7am. He would actually go to sleep at 6:30pm, I would wake him, feed him at 10pm then he would go right back to sleep until 8am or so.  

 Again, I know we were very lucky and still are - he's 22 months old and still naps 2-3 hours a day and sleeps from 8:30pm-7:30-8am each night.

 

GL 

Jilybean17

Not until 11.5 months and that was with CIO. I didn't think it was possible to have a worse sleeper after DS, but DD has since proven me wrong! Sorry that doesn't help. Good luck!

Hopeful2008

DS finally started STTN at 14 months. He's been a champ ever since...took long enough though!

Tatyana11

Wow, I am not getting the replies that I was hoping for...I was hoping that many of you would say that your LO just magically started STTN on their own.

For everyone that did CIO, how many nights did it take? Was it really terrible? Did your LO cry for a long time? Please, tell me its not that bad!

If I will wind up having to do CIO, I should probably do it sooner rather then later, what's the point of torturing myself and not sleeping at night right now and then wind up having to do CIO anyway...

MrsR_0616

We read and tried the book Good Night, Sleep Tight by Kim West at 1 year. (google "the sleep lady") her method called the sleep lady shuffle was a true miracle for us. Of course there were some tears, but now DS STTN and goes down for naps very easily. I felt this was an "in between" method as far as no cry and ferber or straight CIO. It saved our sanity, lol! ETA: the first night was really the only night of crying, but since this isn't a quick fix method, it took about 3 weeks for him to be able to STTN without me doing the "shuffle" every night, but he STTN after the 3rd night and has been ever since

cbwm

Tatyana11:

Wow, I am not getting the replies that I was hoping for...I was hoping that many of you would say that your LO just magically started STTN on their own.

For everyone that did CIO, how many nights did it take? Was it really terrible? Did your LO cry for a long time? Please, tell me its not that bad!

If I will wind up having to do CIO, I should probably do it sooner rather then later, what's the point of torturing myself and not sleeping at night right now and then wind up having to do CIO anyway...

Do you cosleep at all? Because I won't launch into my big schpeal if you don't. :-) 

noah-bear

Mid last month.

blueshirt2003

If I remember correctly he slept through the night on a regular basis around I guess 7 or 8 months old.

We didn't do any kind of sleep training.

My oldest was around the same age of 7 or 8 months too I think. 

jewelbride07

we were also one of the lucky ones and dd sttn on her 2 month birthday and never looked back.  yes, we are VERY grateful!  

SweetPeanis

Around 13 months is when DD started STTN almost every night.  We never did any form of sleep training.

Tatyana11

No, he sleeps in his crib in his own room (at least I did that part right).

 A little more detail: I've been trying the Pick Up/Put Down method for the past 2 nights, last night he STTN but it could have been by chance (he STTN every now and then), so we will see how tonight goes. The moms on the 6-12 board told me that Pick Up/Put Down method has not worked for them at all, so if this doesn't work I will try the Sleep Easy solution and while he is CIO I will leave my DH with him and will sit in my car or something... This way I wont be tempted to go in and "rescue" him (which I know I would do after 2 minutes at the longest)

 

cbwm

DH and I got two copies of the book and read it at the same time. We took notes and everything. Once we had read the book we got the DVD that the authors put out.

What I liked most about this was that it helped with weaning night-time feedings. I was ready to wean him from the boob anyway, so this helped with that anyway.

You both have to be on board, and you have to work together as a team. I seriously drank like a fish the first three nights because I didn't think I could handle it. LOL. Looking back, it was SO not a big deal, and totally worth it. 

vegetarian_chica

10 months.  I started giving oatmeal before nursing to bed. I don't know if that's a coincidence or not.

mommy411

I let DD tell me when she was ready,,,No stress. She sleeps 12 hrs plus since 11 months..Granted I put her down in her crib and she cries but falls asleep with in 4 min

misscindycake

DD has always been a terrible sleeper.  We tried waiting it out for her to "magically" STTN, but it never happened.  We've been co-sleeping since she was 6 months old.  We did CIO on 2 occasions.  The first time (12 months) she passed out after 45 minutes and woke up the next day so needy and grumpy we agreed we'd never do it again. We tried again at 14 months and by that time she had a much stronger will and after over an hour still hadn't even sat down in her crib.  At that point, we realized we were co-sleepers for the long haul.  We put her back in bed with us and it's been great ever since.  She snuggles right up.  She still wake once for water, but other than that, we all sleep pretty well.

Tatyana11

Ha ha! That is a great idea - to have a drink during CIO! I need a drink at this point anyway! This sounds like a plan, DH and I will work as a team, he will listen to CIO and I will sit in the garage in my car and drink my wine.

On a serious note, thank you so much for your advice! If the Pick Up/Put Down Method doesn't work, I will read the Sleep Easy solution and also the other solution that someone mentioned "the lady shuffle". Cross your fingers for me and enjoy your peaceful nights!

MarriedBestFriends

I'll keep you posted.

anna7602

I nursed DD to sleep from day 1 and she started STTN around 5 months or so. However, she didn't start falling asleep on her own at night (without nursing first) until 18 months old. We did this without CIO or Ferber, just a lot of trial and error putting her down in the crib without nursing and a ton of patience.

Tatyana11

Wow! What a strong willed little girl! Glad you are all happy cosleeping together! And I know you are preparing room for one more baby in your family bed! Congratulations!

cbwm

misscindycake:

DD has always been a terrible sleeper.  We tried waiting it out for her to "magically" STTN, but it never happened.  We've been co-sleeping since she was 6 months old.  We did CIO on 2 occasions.  The first time (12 months) she passed out after 45 minutes and woke up the next day so needy and grumpy we agreed we'd never do it again. We tried again at 14 months and by that time she had a much stronger will and after over an hour still hadn't even sat down in her crib.  At that point, we realized we were co-sleepers for the long haul.  We put her back in bed with us and it's been great ever since.  She snuggles right up.  She still wake once for water, but other than that, we all sleep pretty well.

You need the Sleep Easy Solution as well. LOL!

It goes through each age group and how to best work with them to get them to STTN. 

apeyg

We had been going through the same thing with DD.  We were really at the end of our rope.  We were zombies at work.  It was so awful.  I never wanted to do CIO but I felt like we didn't have another choice.  We did the Ferber method but modified it.  We did 1, 3, and 5 minutes instead of 3, 5, and 10.  The first night she cried 45 minutes and woke up twice.  It only took 20 minutes for her to go back to sleep.  The second night it took 20 minutes to go to sleep and she only woke up once for 15 minutes.  THe 3rd night it took 6 minutes and she slept all night.  It has been over a week now and  no crying and she has slept all night.  Im talking from 7pm to 6:30am we give her a bottle and she goes back to sleep until 8ish.   It is amazing-we had anticipated this being so much worse. We can't believe how easy is was and how fast it worked.  We are all much happier now!!  Good Luck

mieuxmieux

Still waiting.....

Usually she will only get up once, but there are some nights she doesn't wake up at all.

bananaQ

Took 19 months, no sleep training here. He stopped having night feedings at 13 months, but he just needed somebody next to him to fall back to sleep if he woke up in the middle of the night.

naturelle25

Right at 16 months BUT whenever she gets a cold or more teeth, it all goes out the window. It sucks and I am praying this next baby is a better sleeper.

Aprilynn0206

at 3wks she was STTN in her bassinet.. converted to her crib w/ no trouble.. around 6-7mo she started to resist being put to bed so we let her CIO and after about 3 nights of that she caught on..

now she will fuss for a min. or less at times and then she's out.. if she doesn't STTN it's b/c her little teeth are hurting, diaper, or temperature in her room

Echowysp

He started at 17 months.  We had to wait through his molars and ear infections. 

LyndsayQ

DD STTN occasionally around 1 year of age (w/o CIO).  She now STTN most nights (still w/o CIO).  We have tried CIO as of recently just to get her down, but not overnight.  G/L!  I know how hard it is to wait until they're ready. 

MrsG2B07

DD didn't consistently STTN til she was around 14 months.  And, we started a modified Ferber at 9 months cause she had a slew up habits we had to change.  But, now she usually sleeps great without any crying from bedtime til morning.  I did Ferber but never let her cry more than 5 minutes without going in.  I never had to go in more than twice.

cactus5

It was right around 5 months. He will wake occasionally if he is teething (just for his pacifier), but we were lucky and didn't have to do any sleep training.

TexasLadyBug

9 Months with CIO, I would say by 10 months he was truly STTN every night during the week not just 4 out of the 7 etc...

LuvinMyKids

DD#2 didn't STTN until 15 mos, when I bought the book "The No Cry Sleep Solution" off of Amazon.  That book is WONDERFUL!!!  I applied its theories to DS#2, as well.  Highly recommend it.