Really lame vent from a lurker.

Beth823

So yesterday was mothers day and I was really looking forward to sleeping in, not changing stinky diapers, not strapping the baby in the car and basically letting my husband do all the tidious stuff. Well, he did get up with the baby at 5:30, but I couldn't sleep in because I was so excited. Long story short; that's all that happened. DH told me that just because it was mothers day doesn't mean I don't do my job. He was joking, but still didn't change the diaper. All of which wouldn't have made much of a difference if I got a card... or flowers... or anything. It shouldn't be that big of a deal, but I'm still crying! What's wrong with me? Part of it I'm sure is because my mom died when I was 12 and my dad remarried 3 months later to someone I don't get along with. Am I just doomed to having terrible mothers days forever? Please help me get over my self. I don't think my husband could take any more of my pathetic crying. 

rider5344

I would be really hurt too.  Your husband was an a**.  It was mothers day, In my house, mom doesn't do anything she doesn't WANT to do, and is treated like a queen.  Flowers and card optional (but are sort of expected)  The least he could have done was let you have "a day off"....and yes, that is what mother's day if for!

JoannaJes

I don't think anything is wrong with you...your DH needs to get a clue. He won't change diapers at all? Have you told him how it makes you feel when he treats you like this?

CelticWife

I am sorry your day was so crappy!

Have you told your DH how much the day means to you?

c.sholun

IMO your Dh was being insensitive. He dident have to get you diamond earrings for cryin out loud, but a card is a must.If I were you I would be pissed. And I would probably cry too.You are the mother of his one(soon to be 2) children.A day to take the reigns and let you relax, to show some appriciation is not asking alot.

Beth823

I know he feels really bad about it though. He knows he totally screwed up. I just can't seem to get over it, you know? I'm really glad it's monday and I can just be by myself with my little one. 

LittleApple

Wait.  He told you to still do your job??  And what would that be.  He sounds like a douche

mommy411

How old is your LO?

Beth823

Mrs.Bones:

Beth823:

I know he feels really bad about it though. He knows he totally screwed up. I just can't seem to get over it, you know? I'm really glad it's monday and I can just be by myself with my little one. 

Honestly, I'd wait and see how he makes this up to you. Does he just say "Oh, sorry...." or will he get you a card and let you have some time to yourself while he takes the baby?

Actions speak MUCH louder than words.

 

This. He keeps telling me he's sorry. He's really beating himself up, but I'm kinda just waiting for him to do something to make it right. I hope he does. He's a good guy, but yeah, yesterday he was a total douche! lol, I really like that word... 

hjk5000

That's a really sh*tty thing to do to the mother of your children.  And if I were you I would tell him so, immediately.  It's not that hard to help you out, get you a card, buy some flowers or cook dinner one day out of the year. It wouldn't matter what he did, just that he did something because he knew it was important to you.  I wouldn't be on speaking terms right now if I was you.

Beth823

pigtails1031:

How old is your LO?

She is 18 months. My tickers are totally wrong... I had some m/cs. I'm just 9 weeks.  

TobleroneBar

You know, Father's Day is just around the corner.  I'd cook him his favorite meals the WRONG way then leave a dirty diaper right next to his plate of food, then leave him with the kids and tell him that you're eating out.  grrrrrr

 He better be groveling for being such an asshat

hewinked

I'm sorry!  DH got me a gift "from DD" and even though it was really him that picked it up and bought it, I was still kinda disappointed that he didn't even get me a card from himself.  And the rest of the day was spent doing everything I normally do....changing, feeding, and looking after DD.  I even fed her her dinner while I ate mine.  I don't know why I always get so excited about it, wondering what DH will do, when I know it will be nothing.  I feel ya on being let down. 

yourmom5309

NOT acceptable.  I am aggravated just from reading his comment.  His attitude could not be more selfish or lazy.

kcl22

That sucks!  Yesterday while I was out running errands all I saw was dads dragging little ones around or dads pushing carriages, etc.  If he doesn't do anything to make it up to you come Father's Day I'd be booking a spa day for myself.

I really hope he does make it up to you.  Everyone gets a pass for being an idiot once in awhile but he kind of takes the cake!!

MJHershey

Beth823:

This. He keeps telling me he's sorry. He's really beating himself up, but I'm kinda just waiting for him to do something to make it right. I hope he does. He's a good guy, but yeah, yesterday he was a total douche! lol, I really like that word... 

 Tell him what you told us... that you appreciate the words, but you will feel better when he SHOWS you he is sorry.

On Father's Day leave him with the baby saying that it's so he has quality time with him/her and go get a massage.

DanaThompson

If I were you, I'd stop referring to my husband as "DH" because darling is the last word I would use to describe his behavior yesterday. I'm the stepmom to my husband's son, and I'm carrying his little one. I got cards and gifts from my stepson, and my husband bought me a card and a gift card for a mani/pedi from him and the little one in my tummy. He cleaned the entire house, and though I agreed to make dinner (my Mom was coming over and I wanted to do something special for her), I didn't have to move another muscle after I ate dinner. He cleaned my place setting, sent me up to bed, then came up and gave me a back rub. I ended the day feeling so cherished :-) I hope it stays like that once the little one is born. You have me worried!

blondek8

Wow.

I'm sorry your husband is such a jackass. That kind of bullshit isn't even a thought in my husband's head. Sorry isn't acceptable or appropriate.

MJHershey

DanaThompson:

If I were you, I'd stop referring to my husband as "DH" because darling is the last word I would use to describe his behavior yesterday.

 

It can also be D*mn Husband. Or in her case as she herself coined him.. Douche Husband. 

lvnbraves

just make sure you return the favor when it's Father's Day.