Can I whine, b!tch, and moan here?

chefs_baby

I am so unhappy with my body. Actually beyond unhappy. I am at the weight I delivered at and now I am pregnant again. I have always bounced back and forth on my weight. In elementary school I was heavy, middle and high schools too skinny, college borderline heavy, and now? I am freaking fat to me. I am so miserable. I can't stand to look at myself in the mirror. I don't like to be naked. I used to love being naked, I would come home and strip down in the Arkansas heat. Now, I would rather wear fleece pj's when its 79 degrees outside.

My FI never compliments me anymore. I feel like he gets disgusted looking at me. It doesn't help he works about 14 hours a day so I rarely get to see him. We didn't have sex for two weeks and one of those days was my birthday. I don't feel wanted physically anymore. And there is nothing I can do about it for another, what? 8-9 months?

I am sorry, but  Ijust had to get this out. There is absolutely no one I can express this to.

kiwi443

I'm sorry. That sucks. I have no advice on that but I wanted to say that I remember you from the previous boards (I didn't post much then). Have you not been on lately? Keegan is so handsome and getting so big!

Squishycheeks

Hugs!

I'm really sorry you are feeling so low. I'm sure you are your toughest critic, but I completely understand.

I'm struggling with feeling like my weight has been out of control, first with DD, and now with this baby. It's really hard to feel unhappy with your body and unable to do anything because you are pregnant.

If you ever need to vent, I'm more than happy to listen. 

chefs_baby

kiwi443:

I'm sorry. That sucks. I have no advice on that but I wanted to say that I remember you from the previous boards (I didn't post much then). Have you not been on lately? Keegan is so handsome and getting so big!

I get on a lot, but post sporadically. Thank you! Your little man is so cute in his hat!

Squishycheeks, thanks. Its definitely harder accepting my body than I thought it would be. We can ride this freaking roller coaster together!

ladyalmalthea

I am SO sorry. I have problems seeing ymself at my current weight- I gained back some of the pregnancy weight as soon as I started birth control, and my boobs are out of control and now I am in plus sizes. I'm uncomfortable dieting right now because of supply issues.

I am 80 pounds more than what I was when I graduated high school (I was underweight at that time though).

My husband hardly compliments me as well, but a lot of it is we've been in a long relationship and he knows I understand how he feels about me. Although I want him to compliment me more, and sometimes I remind hiim that I need compliments.

It soulds like between you being upset about your body, him working so much and the baby and pregnancy you two may be feeling a little disconnected. Why not try sitting him down and expressing how you feel- That you are upset with your weight and are afraid he is looking at you deifferently, and that you would like to find a way for the two of you to have more couple time?

I hope you get a really neat Mother's Day present from him to help you feel better!

 

MarineWifey1106

I'm so sorry that you feel that way.  I am also unhappy with my weight.  My husband does compliment me, but then if i pick up anything other than a celery stick he asks me "do you really want to eat that?" I think its worse that right before i got pregnant i had put on about 30 lbs (my husband deployed and I eat when im depressed) on top of being about twenty pounds overweight.  So now just to get back to the weight I was when we first got married i need to lose 100 pounds.  Im trying but it just doesnt seem to be going anywhere.

I have lost 15 pounds so far by walking for 30-45 minutes a day, but all my clothes are still tight.  

 

DEBBIE33CASEY

Life can be a struggle when you are very very unhappy about your body and it effects daily living. Since you are pg obviously you don't want to diet. But what you can do is make healthy eating decisions.  Don't grab for the chips, grab for some fruit. Don't give into every preg craving you get.

Exercise. Take walks and bring Keegan with you so he can learn how important exercise is.  Don't wear yourself out, but by doing some exercise you can help keep off any EXTRA weight gain safely.

It's easy to complain ( I know, I get an A+ in complaining on my daily report card !!!)  But doing something about it will actually get you results you want.  And you will not only feel better about yourself by doing these things, but in the long run you will see results and also be proud that you made a huge positive change in your life.

I wish you the best- I used to be really really overweight, hated my body, and finally one day I said enough was enough.  It took me a couple years but I lost 180lbs.  And while I am still 200 lbs I am happy with the way i look for the first time in my ENTIRE life.  You can do it.  Anyone can do it.  You just have to actually do it

Good luck and we're always here to encourage you on the way!

orleyl

I know how u feel and it sucks. Society has put such an emphasis on weight and we have become so self conscious about it. Just try to focus on this baby growing in your belly and try to eat healthy and stay active so u gain a healthy amount of weight. There is nothing u can do about it now so stop beating yourself up. You are a beautiful, wonderful mommy, remind yourself of that.