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patchen30
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Adoption Question
patchen30
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in Infertility
If you were to begin researching adoption, does anyone know how you'd even start? I would like to learn more about it, but I don't even know where to begin. I feel like I'm too ignorant even to post this question on the adoption board.
TTC in 2008. Stage II/III endo, Hashimotos hypothyroid, low morph (3%).
2 cycles Clomid/Ovidrel/TI/Crinone=BFN.
IUI #1 - 4 Follistim/Ovidrel/IUI/Crinone = BFN.
IVF #1 - Antagonist w/ ICSI 4/10. 17 retrieved, 5DT of 2, BFN 
IVF #2 - Long Lupron w/ ICSI 6/10. 15 retrieved, 3DT of 2, BFFN!!
Lap 7/21/10
IVF #3 - Clomid/Antagonist w/ ICSI 10/10. 14 retreived, 3DT of 3, BFP 10/20 but m/c. No HB 11/15/10 - D&C 11/17/10.
FET - 2 blasts, 1 survived the thaw. Transfer 2/19. Beta #1 3/1 375, Beta #2 3/3 885, Beta #3 3/8 4261, Beta #4 3/11 9005. U/S 3/8 1 sac 1 yolk, U/S 3/16 1 heartbeat 114bpm!
James born Oct. 24th 2011 via c-section at 38 weeks!
Surprise BFP - Jack born April 28, 2013 via VBAC after PTL at 33 1/2 weeks!
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Re: Adoption Question
I would start with Adoption for Dummies. That's where we started and I think that it does a good job of explaining the different types of adoptions, risks/benefits to each and how to start down a particular road. I like how it tells you what to look for/ask for different avenues. It talks a little about pretty much every aspect, from getting ready for the home study to issues after you are placed. Also, just researching reliable websites and lurking on the adoption board is so helpful. Ask questions!!! We love questions over there and there are many helpful ladies!!
Also, this website/magazine is good: https://www.adoptivefamilies.com/
there are tons of websites out there that can tell you about adoption policies in your state and grant and tax info.
when i first asked where to start on the adoption board I was surprised that tons of the ladies recommended Adoption for Dummies.
Tara & Dave - TTC since September 2006
PCOS - dx 1999 (amenorrhea) | freakishly long fallopian tubes
Hypoglycemic | thyroid issues | severely anemic
Multiple Clomid cycles of 50, 100, 150 - absolutely no response
Follistim 50/100 | Follistim 75/125 | Follistim 100/150 IUI - all BFNs
Converted IVF - BFP - m/c | FET - BFN | IVF #2 = BFN
IVF #3
This is a good site for info to start too
https://www.childwelfare.gov/adoption/
Tara & Dave - TTC since September 2006
PCOS - dx 1999 (amenorrhea) | freakishly long fallopian tubes
Hypoglycemic | thyroid issues | severely anemic
Multiple Clomid cycles of 50, 100, 150 - absolutely no response
Follistim 50/100 | Follistim 75/125 | Follistim 100/150 IUI - all BFNs
Converted IVF - BFP - m/c | FET - BFN | IVF #2 = BFN
IVF #3
I asked this question on the Adoption board and they recommended Adoption for Dummies, Idiots Guide to Adoption or the Complete Adoption guide for a good general overview.
I've also heard that Adoptiong after Infertility is often required by some agencies.
B&N and Borders had about 3 books each on adoption in the whole store, so I bought some on Amazon. I also got one about adopting in the US.
I really felt like I was making progress in the 2ww by researching our options, and if this cycle had been a BFN our plans were to do 1-2 more IUIs while we contacted agencies/organizations to get more info so that we could decide what to do next.
Since we got a BFP, we may try at least 3 more IUIs, but if we don't have a sticky baby we're going to have to move on. I'd be much more into continuing the adoption research if DH's mom wasn't so sick, but I know it's just not something we can devote time to right now.