Those that watched LOST (spoiler)

amys715

It bothered me that Jin wouldn't leave Sun. All I could think of was the baby. In that situation I think I would want my child to have one parent instead of losing us both.

Shlei

I was thinking the same thing

mavilabride

I talked about this with FI last night.

He said that if it were him trapped he would want me to leave to be with DD.  But if I were trapped, he'd have a really hard time leaving and probably wouldn't.

Another interesting tid bit: there was a study done years ago that measured the grief a person feels when they lose their child vs when they lose their spouse.  The grief over the spouse was found to be the most devestating.  I was in an MBA course when they mentioned the study (can't remember the name of it) and was shocked to hear it but can see why that would be true.

jbl126

I thought that too.  Now their baby has no parents.  But in the parallel universe, she wasnt even born yet.

Do you think the two universes will ever meet up?

mj0612

I agree. I was yelling at the tv that he had never even met his daughter and now she'd have no parents. I hated that no one even mentioned her. That said, I can't imagine being in a situation like that and actually having the strength to leave DH, knowing what was going to happen to him.

Shellbelle22

This is probably going to sound heartless. But remember, Jin has never met their baby.  I doubt his emotional attachment to the child is that strong. And her dad is a stranger to her as well.  Sun, however, is Jin's wife. Someone he has loved for years, has been through so many trials with, and someone who he was recently separated from for an extended period of time. I think it makes total sense that he stayed.

Shlei

Shellbelle22:

This is probably going to sound heartless. But remember, Jin has never met their baby.  I doubt his emotional attachment to the child is that strong. And her dad is a stranger to her as well.  Sun, however, is Jin's wife. Someone he has loved for years, has been through so many trials with, and someone who he was recently separated from for an extended period of time. I think it makes total sense that he stayed.

 

It's not heartless. I can understand both sides. 

Sweets2005

I thought that, too. Maybe since he never met her it made it harder to leave. I know DH wouldn't want to leave me but since he has such a strong bond with his kids, he might I guess. Luckily we won't be on any submarines any time soon.

mavilabride

Shellbelle22:

This is probably going to sound heartless. But remember, Jin has never met their baby.  I doubt his emotional attachment to the child is that strong. And her dad is a stranger to her as well.  Sun, however, is Jin's wife. Someone he has loved for years, has been through so many trials with, and someone who he was recently separated from for an extended period of time. I think it makes total sense that he stayed.

Agreed.

Plus, when you think about it Sun went back to the island knowing how dangerous it was and that she could very well not make it off the island just to reunite with Jin.

StrawberryBlondeMomma

me too. it was so sad. that episode was awful

StrawberryBlondeMomma

mavilabride:

I talked about this with FI last night.

He said that if it were him trapped he would want me to leave to be with DD.  But if I were trapped, he'd have a really hard time leaving and probably wouldn't.

Another interesting tid bit: there was a study done years ago that measured the grief a person feels when they lose their child vs when they lose their spouse.  The grief over the spouse was found to be the most devestating.  I was in an MBA course when they mentioned the study (can't remember the name of it) and was shocked to hear it but can see why that would be true.

my mom used to be a counselor and said that a lot of marriages don't survive the loss of a child.

i think i could get over losing my DH. my DS, never.

Shellbelle22

mavilabride:

Shellbelle22:

This is probably going to sound heartless. But remember, Jin has never met their baby.  I doubt his emotional attachment to the child is that strong. And her dad is a stranger to her as well.  Sun, however, is Jin's wife. Someone he has loved for years, has been through so many trials with, and someone who he was recently separated from for an extended period of time. I think it makes total sense that he stayed.

Agreed.

Plus, when you think about it Sun went back to the island knowing how dangerous it was and that she could very well not make it off the island just to reunite with Jin.

Exactly. Some families believe the relationship between parents and kids is the most important. Others think it is the relationship between the husband and wife that should take priority.  They clearly believe the latter. In the end, Jin would rather abandon his daughter than his wife. 

mavilabride

StrawberryBlondeMomma:

mavilabride:

I talked about this with FI last night.

He said that if it were him trapped he would want me to leave to be with DD.  But if I were trapped, he'd have a really hard time leaving and probably wouldn't.

Another interesting tid bit: there was a study done years ago that measured the grief a person feels when they lose their child vs when they lose their spouse.  The grief over the spouse was found to be the most devestating.  I was in an MBA course when they mentioned the study (can't remember the name of it) and was shocked to hear it but can see why that would be true.

my mom used to be a counselor and said that a lot of marriages don't survive the loss of a child.

i think i could get over losing my DH. my DS, never.

The study made mention of that but it still came out that the grief for losing a spouse was harder than that of losing a child.  I think it had to do with length of time in that marriage vs the age of the child (maybe something to do with bonds created, don't know).

As for getting over losing a spouse: my mom did 15 years ago and is still not over it in the least bit and they were only married for 14 years.  My grandmother slowly got over losing my dad as the years passed on.

jenn_darrin1515

Shellbelle22:

This is probably going to sound heartless. But remember, Jin has never met their baby.  I doubt his emotional attachment to the child is that strong. And her dad is a stranger to her as well.  Sun, however, is Jin's wife. Someone he has loved for years, has been through so many trials with, and someone who he was recently separated from for an extended period of time. I think it makes total sense that he stayed.

I totally agree that it makes sense that he stayed...i'm mad tho that they killed off them and kate is still running around anooying me.

amys715

Shellbelle22:

This is probably going to sound heartless. But remember, Jin has never met their baby.  I doubt his emotional attachment to the child is that strong. And her dad is a stranger to her as well.  Sun, however, is Jin's wife. Someone he has loved for years, has been through so many trials with, and someone who he was recently separated from for an extended period of time. I think it makes total sense that he stayed.

Everytime they showed Sun's face I thought for sure she would mention the baby and convince him to go, insist on it.

 

Shellbelle22

jenn_darrin1515:

Shellbelle22:

This is probably going to sound heartless. But remember, Jin has never met their baby.  I doubt his emotional attachment to the child is that strong. And her dad is a stranger to her as well.  Sun, however, is Jin's wife. Someone he has loved for years, has been through so many trials with, and someone who he was recently separated from for an extended period of time. I think it makes total sense that he stayed.

I totally agree that it makes sense that he stayed...i'm mad tho that they killed off them and kate is still running around anooying me.

LOL I know!! When Kate got shot, I said "OMG! Are they going to kill off Kate?? That would be awesome!"  I've always found her "I have to be a part of everything" mentality to be obnoxious.

ashleyc55

there are a lot of kate haters out there...what's up with that?  She doesn't really bother me.  Now Juliet, that's another story!

grayeyes

StrawberryBlondeMomma:

mavilabride:

I talked about this with FI last night.

He said that if it were him trapped he would want me to leave to be with DD.  But if I were trapped, he'd have a really hard time leaving and probably wouldn't.

Another interesting tid bit: there was a study done years ago that measured the grief a person feels when they lose their child vs when they lose their spouse.  The grief over the spouse was found to be the most devestating.  I was in an MBA course when they mentioned the study (can't remember the name of it) and was shocked to hear it but can see why that would be true.

my mom used to be a counselor and said that a lot of marriages don't survive the loss of a child.

i think i could get over losing my DH. my DS, never.

I know a few couples that have lost children and they are all divorced. Honestly, I don't think my marriage could survive it either. Every single thing about my DH would remind me of my child. I don't know....it's hard to think about. I, too, could survive losing my DH, but I don't see how I'd ever recover losing one of my kids. The only thing that would get me through life would be the surviving child. Ugh, I shudder just thinking about it. Why did I open this post? I don't even watch Lost.