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A baby shower invite on Facebook? WTH!
Sorry, but I find this tacky. And, to top it all off, the mother-to-be is sending it and asking for RSVP's.
I feel if you are asking people to give you items for the baby, you should at least spend some money on a written invitation. I treasure my invite from DS's shower and included it in his baby book.
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Re: A baby shower invite on Facebook? WTH!
Brady Phoenix, 8.29.09
Claire Zoe, 10.26.10
I guess it would have to depend on how tech-savvy the invitees are...!
I see no problem sending invites in whichever manner you see fit for the 'type' of guests you're inviting. Liberal v. conservative, internet-savvy v. non-internet-savvy, etc.
But for the honoree to be sending them out? Definitely not right!
A times they are a' changen I guess. I would never do it. I would not care if someone invited me this way.
Times can change but FB should never be an acceptable way to send out shower invites unless the Postal Service and any other aceptable form of mailing no longer exists. Buy a freakin invite and stamp for crying out loud. Stop being tacky and covering it as "forward thinking". That last statement is to the general public- not you delg!
Really? What area? I know it's not common in the midwest where I've lived my entire life - MN, IA., MO.
J - you're confused. We are talking about the pregnant lady hosting - the mom-to-be. Not the grandmother!
I'm torn about this. If the idea is to prevent creating more eventual clutter/trash and save money, then I think it is smart. If it is done just to invite every single "friend" to a shower with the expectation of a ton of gifts, that's tacky.
It's just a baby shower, not a coronation or the academy awards. It's not the cultural event of the year, so I can't see outrage or offense over this.
Even the grandmother isn't common for the midwest areas I've lived in (and we're anything but the bible belt). Typically for weddings it's the BTB sister/aunts/MOH that coordinate and for baby it's the MTB's sister/friends.
We were invited through evite to a baby shower for my DH's best friend & his wife. I see no problem with it, everyone in attendance is super tech savvy (DH & his friend are both IT managers) so I didn't think twice about it.
I recently attended a wedding where the only thing sent to guests was a save-the-date magnet with their website on it - you went to the site to rsvp, select food preference, check out where they were registered, etc. I loved it and thought it was hip, environmentally friendly, and them - they are both employed in the tech world as well.
Facebook specifically is too casual for my tastes, but using the internet in general for those sorts of things is totally fine by me.
Lol. I like paper products too much to not do it via mail. I'm feeling like crap because I thanked someone on FB for a gift just because I wanted to tell them right away and I don't know their phone number. But I'm sending out cards right now!!
I love Tiny Prints. We are having our baby announcements done from there. The past two Christmas cards have come from there too!
First, the mother-to-be should not be throwing the shower. Is it possible though that she is sending the facebook invites out simply because the contacts are her friends, and the hostess may not have their facebook contacts? (It's more or less like me addressing the envelopes for my shower if my hostess didn't have them all, and I was helping out by doing that.)
But as for the shower invites themselves, I'm split. I like getting shower invites, but I rarely actually keep them. So, a facebook invite to a shower doesn't strike me as a bad idea, but I'd probably end up printing it out because I want the registry info and the details of the shower (location, time, etc.) with me when I go to the shower. Usually they're at someone else's place, so while i know how to get to my friend's places, I don't always know how to get to their best-friend-from-college's place, etc.
So I don't even know if it wins for "eco-friendly" because of that.
But would I turn my nose up at a facebook invite? No. Assuming it was done tastefully otherwise, i.e., not thrown by the mom-to-be herself, not a gift-grab for a 3rd child of the same gender, or with big letters saying "cash only!", I would not have a problem with it. I'm not that hung up on etiquette without a reason. Yes, a nice invite is cute, but certainly not mandatory. If it would turn me off from going, it would be because the person isn't someone I'd want to celebrate anyway.
Then again, I also got a call from an old friend who had moved back to the area with his wife, she wasn't from the area, and they were expecting, and since she didn't know many people, he invited some of his old female friends to make her feel welcome. He said don't bring a gift (which I ignored) and it was a nice time. All that and I was invited verbally. Didn't bother me a bit.
My cousin sent her invites(to her own shower) out through facebook,
One word.
TACKY
It probably isnt ideal to receive an invite through facebook, but invitations are sometimes pricey- maybe they're working with what they have! Maybe she would rather spend the money on nice thank you cards instead of invitations.
exactly this. And I'm sorry, if the hostess doesn't have an address, you find it!
The mother to be sending it out herself is the tacky thing. Who cares how the invites are sent out!
My first baby shower with DD was planned really quickly. We didn't think we'd make it down to see our family and friends before I had the baby because of DH's work schedule and wanting to save vacation for after she came. Well, we ended up making it down for a long weekend and a couple friends of mine really wanted to throw me a shower but it was super last minute (we literally decided the week before to fly down). They sent out an e-vite to save time and it was no big deal at all. We had a great turn out and everyone was excited they could celebrate with me and I was really touched that they planned such a sweet party on such short notice. Not having a paper invite was the least of my worries.
1. 50 invites weren't enough for a baby shower??? That's just nuts to me, you must have a big family.
2. I think we're all within the same "generation" and most agree on here that evites of any sort for showers are tacky - young or old invitees. Regardless, it sounds like your shower went off without a hitch and noone cared about the invites/evites.
3. Charging for a shower? Say whaaaa??? I don't even know where to go with that one, I've never heard of such a thing.