Will you go back to your ob next time?

myst33

There WILL be a next time for us!

Personally, I'm on the fence.  I went to a group.  I thought all of the doctors I had were very caring and easy to talk to.  However, I almost felt like they were too laid back with everything and kinda made light of any of my concerns. I'm sure if I had a happier ending, I wouldn't be so critical, though.

magdalina.h

Yes, I have an amazing OB. Our personalities mesh really really well and she has been a huge part of my support system. 

auburn76chic

I will go to the same group, but am going to a different OB. The OB on call the night of my m/c is who I will go back to. He was very caring and wonderful. He actually sat with us for a long time listening and providing support. He told us how he and his wife had been through this too.  I still like my other OB, but I just think the other one knows what I went through and is more understanding.

LisaMarie2217

I will most definitely NOT be going back to the same OB. I LOVED my nurse practitioner (who I've seen since I've found out I was pg). But last night I was in the ER and miscarried. The ER doc told me to call my OB office in the morning to get an appointment there. The MD who I was scheduled to see in two weeks called me back. He was completely insenstive and told me there is really no reason for my to come into the office. He answered none of my questions and completely blew me off. This was my first pregnacny and my first loss...there are so many questions I have that I don't feel comfortable taking advice from "Google" about. I'm so frustrated, devastated, hormonal, emotional.. The MD's reaction was the LAST thing I needed... =(

DRN8302

I have to see an RE, but if we go thru w/ it and end up pg again, I would like to graduate from my RE at some point in the pregnancy and go back to my ob. Both the ob and np that we dealt with are AMAZING and I love them both and they know what we've been thru and they are always so nice, and my husband adores them, which is important to me.

magdalina.h

LisaMarie, that sounds horrible

CashewsMommy

I do have to say, that when i first gave my concerns that her movement was decreasing, she just said "it's normal". I had an anterior placenta, i'm overweight, she was getting bigger.... it is normal. But part of me wants to blame her. To say that if she checked, things might have been different. I did have an ultrasound 2 days later, by someone totally different at the hospital. So i guess if things were wrong then, this other person would have seen something too. ..... my doctor said that she things she died a few days after that ultrasound.

During the whole crisis. My doctor was amazing. She was beyond wonderful. More than words can say really....  i'm totally staying with her. She already has so many plans for us, to make sure the next pregnancy goes to full term.

*K

Since I miscarried so early, I never even met with my doctor regarding the pregnancy.  I went to the ER and they were the ones who did ultrasounds, etc.  I ended up passing the baby at home and it was obvious what happened so after that I just had my blood tests at the doctor's office but never actually saw anyone.  I talked to the nurse each week on the phone when they gave me my blood test results but I never talked with my doctor.  That bothers me a bit but I'm not sure I'll switch.  

jerriesgirl

Yes that's the plan. Since I will be considered high risk I'll be seeing an OB as opposed to midwives more than likely. He already has the plan in mind and will be getting me to the MFM doctor early (whom I have already met).

Buckets of Moonbeams

OMG, yes.  I love him.  He's kind, supportive, knowledgeable, I never ever have to wait for him.  He's a fantastic doctor and he was so, so nice and caring while I was losing Max.

noah-bear

If I could marry my OB (or hire her to be mine and mine alone) I would. She's amazing. She delivered Noah and asked to deliver my next. I only saw her and she has called me personally lately. She is proactive and would give anything to help her patients. 

betizzle73

I will not. I thought she was great, she was so sweet and nice at all of our appointments and made me feel super comfortable, but the more and more we think/talk about what happened with Olivia, the more I think I need to find a new OB. She told me I was measuring "a little" bit small, and to go get an ultrasound sometime within "the next two weeks, but it's probably no big deal so don't worry". Luckily, I was excited about getting an extra u/s so we made an appot for 2 days later. Had I waited the 2 weeks, she would've been stillborn. Also, Liv was only the size of a 26 weeker, and I was 34 weeks... yet she said I was only measuring 32. The perinatologist who actually had to do my c-section couldn't believe how small I was... and looking back at pictures of myself, I look WAY, WAY way smaller than someone who should be 2 weeks away from full term. I don't know... I just feel like she was too laid back.

tiffanysbride

Yes. There are 4 OB's at the practice and I will see all but 1 of them. She is my least fav and the one that saw me Thursday, she didn't seem to take the lack of movement too seriously with the good test results. That said I never really liked her with DS1. I do love my primary and the other OB that delivered DS1. My primary OB was there for almost all of this birth, she had too leave for a family event and then returned after wards before going home to rest to check on me. She was great, called with her cell and home number in case I needed meds or had questions.

I've been assured I will be in the office for a NST test 2-3 times a wk starting around 25 wks. If movements slows they'll also do an u/s. Plus I'll be seeing a specialist. I have more questions at my follow up so as long as that goes well I plan to see them again.

Danie.T

As long as I'm in town. I LOVE my ob. Her personality really clicked with mine.

LisaMarie2217

magdalina.h:

LisaMarie, that sounds horrible

 His comments really belittled me. 

Irishsapphire

I go to an obgyn practice that is all women.  I ended up changing to the obgyn that covered for my original obgyn while she was on maternity leave during my 2nd miscarriage.  I just felt that she handled my 2nd miscarriage better and gave me more options.  And I have been really happy with my new obgyn during this pregnancy. 

shouldbworkin

Yes, I will.  They are really proactive when they need to be, which I appreciate.  They were great with me when it was taking a long time to conceive this time around and great when the PG ended in a m/c.  They aren't so great about healthy PG women complaining, which is good and bad.  I think they have a different perspective since they see sad things happen, but I probably needed to be medicated when I was PG with #2 and didn't feel comfortable telling them b/c they just seem to brush those sorts of things under the rug.  But, I'm afraid to see anyone else for fear that they'll be the same or worse.  Health-wise, I think they are great and I trust them with my babies lives and that is what is most important to me.  They were awesome when I was PG with DS and had a few very minor complications. 

britt_dickey

No.  I really like him, but I just can't.  I feel like I am going to hyperventilate every time I even think about going into that office.  He has been my doctor for all 3 losses and I just think I need new perspective and someone a little more aggressive.  I used to love his laid back attitude and cavalier approach, but now I am SICK of losing babies!!

millejj1

*K:

Since I miscarried so early, I never even met with my doctor regarding the pregnancy.  I went to the ER and they were the ones who did ultrasounds, etc.  I ended up passing the baby at home and it was obvious what happened so after that I just had my blood tests at the doctor's office but never actually saw anyone.  I talked to the nurse each week on the phone when they gave me my blood test results but I never talked with my doctor.  That bothers me a bit but I'm not sure I'll switch.  

I'm in a similar situation,  we didn't know I was pregnant until the m/c so there wasn't much to be done at that point. I'm on the fence about going back though because I guess I just expected more during the u/s than yep that's what happened, and you'll be ok to try again after the bleeding stops.

EntropicEpona

Absolutely I'll go back to her! She's been my gyn for a few years now, and she and her nurse are totally kick ass. Love them!

There are 4 docs in the practice and I like all of them but one...the guy who I had to see when we found out little Thor didn't have a heartbeat anymore (my regular doc was on vacation). He was so matter-of-fact and not at all sensitive to the blubbering woman in his office. The way he treated me made my OB really upset, and both her and her nurse cried with me when I went back a few days later.

julietisthesun99

I switched mid-way through my 1st pregnancy (before my m/c) just because I wasn't impressed with the first OB. I'm now going to a practice and I"m so thankful I found them. They were very supportive about the m/c and really did a good job to calm me down and talk to me about how normal it is, how soon I can try again and just the way they talked to me I appreciated.

butterfly843

I was in the hospital 4 days from when my water broke till I went into labor. I was disappointed that I only saw my ob for about 5 minutes,their main office is a block away from the hospital. I know they switch who is on call for the hospital but I just felt like she could have stayed a little longer. I am now seeing her partner who is in the same practice, but she works out of another office more often. My original ob could still end up delivering me, but I feel more of a bond with her partner who was at the hospital checking up on me often and she was the one who delivered my twins. I would love for her to deliver our full term baby. She also had a loss and was very comforting. All my appts since then have been with the new dr.

Lorange-8

I am going to go with the one that was on call the day everything happened.  The first one I was seeing just seemed like he was always so busy (very highly requested doctor).  The one I saw when eveything was going on was so much more caring and knows everything about what happened so he is my choice now.  We already have a plan set for the next time.  I have another follow up with him on the 20th.

Amanda02a

I'm on the fence.  DH want me to go with the MD that preformed my D&C (the On call Doc) but I liked my OB.  I'm not sure yet.