Family gossip - little vent

clarku2000

Ugh, as if it isn't hard enough carrying multiples and the comments that go along with it ("you have HOW much time left?" and "you look so small/so big"), now I'm finding out that my family apparently likes to talk about me...more like gossip about me.  My older sister (childless, 10 years older than me) came for a visit this weekend (1st time I've seen her in four months).  Apparently she told my younger sister (28 w/ a 4 yo son) that she thinks I'm depressed and she's going to tell our entire family to watch me for post-partum depression.  I asked my younger sister where this came from, and she said that I didn't seem like myself this weekend and she was worried.  As in, not as energetic, wanting to take a nap at 2pm, and just wanting to sit around instead of walking through downtown window shopping.

Well, I'm sorry--she can try carrying around 35 extra pounds and having 2 babies suck all her energy away and see how she feels throughout the day.  I'm definitely not opposed to someone getting help to deal with pp depression, it's very serious, but to just make such a statement, then gossip about me to the rest of our family seems a bit dramatic (and irritating).

SoldiersGreenBean

Did your younger sister defend you at all?

clarku2000

It sounds like she just brushed off the comment and changed the subject.  She did say that she told my older sister that being pregnant can take a lot out of you and that she shouldn't just jump to conclusions, but when my older sister wouldn't drop it she just changed the subject.

cocojack10

Oh no, I'm so sorry you are going through this.  All you can do is continue being yourself.  I'd just try to brush it off, which I know is easier said than done.  Hopefully she drops it, soon.  GL

Sweets2005

Geez, that is annoying! How much energy would she have 30 weeks pregnant with twins! maybe you can email her and tell her thanks for the concern however emotionally you are fine but physically exhausted since being 30 weeks pregnant with twins and it is very tiring.

JUSTBEYOURSELF

I am learning that alot of people speak before they think... Honestly I would just let it go if you can, if you can then say something to your older sister. Tell her that you are doing fine just that you are going to be tired and it can be uncomfortable to do all the things you used to do before you got pregnant.

I hope you sister backs off soon...

clarku2000

Oh boy, the older sister just emailed me.  She said she wanted to check on me and make sure I was okay because I seemed tired when she saw me Saturday.  I bit my tongue, thanked her for her concern, and took a minute to explain that yes, I am extremely tired and have zero energy, but that it's pretty common in someone 30 weeks pregnant, and with twins it zaps your energy even quicker.  Hopefully she'll keep the family gossip to a minimum.