Intro./Twin ?

JuneBridexoxo · May 2010

Hi Ladies,

I am 21 weeks pregnant with our first and my husband and I just found out that we are having twin boys 3 weeks ago! We were a little nervous that day of leaving the ultrasound, but we are now so thrilled and excited. It came as a shock to us bc we got pregnant my first cycle off of bcp and there are no twins in our family. As I am sure all of you know we get so many comments from people once they hear we are having twins. I am pretty good at letting most of them roll off of my back. However, one that bothers me is that most people tell us how lucky we are bc we only have to do this once now and be done. I know that we are at risk for having twins again, but my husband and I are for now leaving the door open on having a third a few years from now. Did anyone else feel this way or get pregnant again after having twins?

lisa&andy · May 2010

First, Congrats on your twin boys and welcome!

As for the comments, I'm sorry to say that it doesn't get any easier once they get here. We get the same comment as you, "oh you have the perfect family, you don't need to have anymore." It drives me crazy, because like you, we have not decided if we would want another child. Most times I just smile and as I walk away, roll my eyes, sometimes I say something, it just depends on my mood. Try not to let them get to you, as annoying as it is, some people do not think before opening their mouths.

MrsAmyB · May 2010

Congrats and welcome! You'll learn pretty quickly that not having twins in your family doesn't mean much. I had once instance of twins in our family that we learned about after the fact and we ended up with triplets (fraternal twins, then one split to identical twins). The culprit may be that it was your first cycle off BCP.

People are clueless. They shouldn't guess how many kids you want. Its a common complaint here. When people say it to me, I say "But, we only wanted 1 more...not 3!"

shellshavintwins · May 2010

We are planning not to wait too long to try for another one, due to severe endometriosis, and ovarian cyst being removed 6 weeks before girls were concieved, if we wait too long we could have alot of trouble concieving again.

katsblaze · May 2010

I am 36 and this is my first pregnancy as well. There are not twins in my family. DH and I just talked about this yesterday. We want to leave our options open to try for a 3rd. When people make that type of comment to me, I Just say, "Sure, but we will decide later if we are only going to have 2." It is no one else's business.