Another ex question...

TheQuietThings

Father's day.

 For my Ex's bdays, and father's day, I always did some sort of craft/project with DS's handprints on it, with the year.

I went ahead and did it for his bday this year (even though we were already separated at the time).

I feel like I should go ahead and do it for Father's day.  I mean, as much of a jerk as he is to me, and as little as he does spend time with DS, he is still a great dad when he chooses to be.  

Stupid if I go ahead and do it?  I never amounts to more than $10.   

Gah.

Why don't they give you an Ex Ettiquette book? 

 (And, before it gets said, I am sure that he won't get me anything for mother's day.  That's okay, because I have an amazing necklace!)

braesmommy

I say go for it.  When I got divorced I still had DD make things or pick out a little something for her Daddy for Father's day, his b-day and Christmas.  The presents were from DD and I know she liked giving him the presents.

Mominator

I say do it. I will probably do something for my exH for Father's Day even though I'm quite sure that he won't do anything for me for Mother's Day. Then again, he never did when we were married either

TheQuietThings

Mominator:

I say do it. I will probably do something for my exH for Father's Day even though I'm quite sure that he won't do anything for me for Mother's Day. Then again, he never did when we were married either

True story. 

luckyluvr

DH & his ex both did this until their son was old enough to buy or make gifts himself.

firefightersgal

I would.  It will set a good example for Lucas and give you some good karma.

skippy2310

I would still do it. He's still your DS's dad and I think he'd enjoy making his daddy something. Soon he'll be old enough to make a card on his own and you won't really have to be involved in the actual making of the gift.

 

4Speedy

I would.  You would be doing it for your son, not for Ex DH.

ali-1411

I would not.  DH and I don't celebrate Mothers/Fathers day anyway.  But I wouldn't spend time and money on a part-time dad.

jettagurl

Definitely do something.  My BFF is divorced and she gets NOTHING, and it really hurts her.  After a couple  years, she quit doing stuff for XH because he never reciprocated with their DS.  At the very least have DS make a card - that should really cost nothing....a piece of printer paper and grab the crayons.  

ak071401

I plan on doing something from ds for ex for father's day and his birthday. I am doing it more for ds than for his dad, though. I know ds wouldn't understand why he didn't have a gift to give his dad, and that would upset him (ds). I have only been divorced about 6 months, but for everything that has happened in that time -- Christmas, Valentine's Day, Easter -- my parents have helped ds make something for me. So I think ds would be confused if he always gave mommy a gift and not daddy.

OctoberBrideNYC

I would do it.  What a great away to show your son that you and his father are still parents, even though you're not husband and wife.  A  good relationship with him in this new realm is what you should be working towards.  You'd be a great example to be the bigger person.