I am a terrible parent

august06mom

My son has the worst behavior in the world. I know "blah, blah, blah" it's the age, but I am embarassed by how naughty he is. We have family visiting and I can't keep control of him. He says mean things, acts completely wild and doens't listen. When I discipline, he smirks.  He refuses to do anything for himself (dress himself, entertain himself for 30 seconds). His teachers tell me he's most hyperactive kid in the class and that they've seen in a long time.

I can't take it anymore. I think we need to visit his pediatrician because this just doesn't seem normal.

katie277s

((((hugs)))).  I wish I knew what to say to instantly make you feel better...hopefully the pediatrician can help.

DandelionMom

That sounds really hard.  I hope the pediatrician can help.  Maybe his teachers would know if he could be evaluated by the schools?

Hooray2005

Aw, be gentle with yourself - if parenthood has taught me anything, it's never *all* the child's fault, nor is it ever *all* the parent's  

It sounds like DS is presenting challenges both at home and at school - ask your pediatrician about being referred to a developmental pediatrician - they're expert in the subtle differences in behavior in children, and will save you a lot of time/money/heartache trying to track down the "why" of what's going on for DS. 

They often have long wait lists, and are not always covered by insurance (ugh!), but are well worth your time and $$.  Finding one who also works with a child psychologist is even better - the two in combination can hopefully help you quickly figure out what's going on for DS, and more importantly, give you the support you need and hopefully some good ideas about how to work with DS's "spunk"

(((hugs)))

cnybride2be

nahhh...a terrible parent wouldn't be addressing this behavior at all. 

ditto hooray on the ped.and auntie on your school district,  they (prob. many states do) have a committe on preschool special education that will evaluate your son. we just needed a referral from DS's preschool. but i noticed on the forms that parents alone can request eval. w/out the preschool referral.  They can observe his behavior at home and at school. 

 hugs, i know the feeling and that feeling did get better for me.  it helped that matt's behavior got better too.  the evaluation was an imp. tool for us.

august06mom

Thank you all so much ... a developmental pedi sounds like a great idea.