If you've ever given a pet to a new home...question

xbrooklyngrl

In January we had to find a new home for my Boo. I don't want to get into the details but it wasn't my idea and I've been really sad over it. A lot of you know I'm not a pet person but I fell in love with Boo.

Anyway, how much is too much contact with the new owner? I email her now every few weeks to see how Boo is and lately she doesn't respond. Am I too much? DH says I need to leave her alone now but I just want to know how Boo is.

Am I insane/annoying?

docmay25

We had to give up our dog when Jack was a baby because he has asthma and the dog hair was making it worse.  We were so sad to give her up, but found a great woman to take her.

I e-mailed a few times just to be sure that everything was working out and that our dog was in a good home.  She sent me a couple pictures with updates.  After a few e-mails I stopped contact becasue it was too painful for us.  I only kept contact long enough that I knew our dog was safe and in a happy home.

nettie

I gave my cat away back in December because she started peeing all over our house and I tried all kinds of things to remedy the situation but nothing worked. I had the cat for 7 years, So I was really sad, but luckily I found a home for her because sometimes it can be hard to find a new home for a cat. Anyway, a professor at the university I work at rescues cats but didn't have room, but his friend did so I asked the professor a few times if he knew how our cat was doing at the new home. One time he seemed irritated, and said something like, "She will be fine, Melanie" but then other times after that he has brought her up to me and said she was finally bonding well with the new owner. My cat was kind of a bad cat so that's why it worried me-she is very tempramental (sp?). I think if you ask a few times it is okay and then just see what kind of feeling you get from their response as far as asking again...

xbrooklyngrl

Thanks girls. I guess there does come a point where I need to leave her alone. It sounds like Boo has bonded great with them, she said she spends half the night in her bed and the other half in her daughters bed. She told me about what a great, funny personality she has so it sounds like Boo is comfortable there.

 

sarahslost

I'm so sorry, xbg.  It sounds like this whole thing was really hard for you.  I don't really have much experience with this other than we did have to give our cat away after Brooke was born. But we gave her to family and know she is doing well.

As much as I hate to say it, you may have to try to let this go.  I'm sure it hurts.  Hopefully the new owner will think to contact YOU from time to time.

*hugs*

xbrooklyngrl

sarahslost:

I'm so sorry, xbg.  It sounds like this whole thing was really hard for you.  I don't really have much experience with this other than we did have to give our cat away after Brooke was born. But we gave her to family and know she is doing well.

As much as I hate to say it, you may have to try to let this go.  I'm sure it hurts.  Hopefully the new owner will think to contact YOU from time to time.

*hugs*

you are right. Thanks for saying it nicely

wildfloweragain

I wish I were someone who puts things as nicely as sarahslost, but pretty much what she said.  After a while I would be irritated, thinking I don't know what else to say to this former owner.  It sort of reminds me of parents who e-mail me constantly asking how their child is doing now.  And how about now.  I want to tell them "Same as last time, and I don't know how many times I can say the same thing to make you feel better."

xbrooklyngrl

lol wildflower, I can handle it said not so nicely as well. Good point.

OctoberBrideNYC

I have no words of wisdom, but I'm sorry you had to give up your dog . I hope the new owner contacts you, so you don't have to feel like a pest, but you'll know that everything is ok. 

xbrooklyngrl

Boo is a cat but thanks A!

DandelionMom

With my foster dogs, I only email the new families around Christmas.  There are a couple that I hear from more regularly and I respond so we communicate more frequently but that is only 2 out of 12 fosters.