FFC - is there ever a time where you say....

just_peachy

I will never do this again. It's too hard.

 

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wordtoyourmother

she's teething, 6 months and not STTN yet... I feel like  other moms have a better hang of this than I do. 

just_peachy

wordtoyourmother:

she's teething, 6 months and not STTN yet... I feel like  other moms have a better hang of this than I do. 

can we be friends? lol

littlemissy

YES.  I am doubting myself alot and I am a THIRD time mom.. because DS3 is SO different than the other two, and I am trying to balance the needs of a 5 y.o., just turned 3 y.o., and a 5 month old.

littlemaybaby

Let's see:

He fusses - a lot.
He refuses to nap - no matter what we do.
He has STTN less than 5 times ever - and is currently waking 2-3 times a night.

And everyone IRL keeps telling me that when I just stop this silly breast feeding that everything will get better.  Even my mom who EBFed my brother and I past 1 year of age asked me yesterday if I should try formula to fix DS's fussiness.

Oh, and to make matters even more frustrating, my brother and SIL have a little girl 2 weeks older than DS who is a very easy baby who happens to be FF - and people are always comparing my "grumpy" DS to her.

So yeah, I voted for having doubts all the time.

just_peachy

wow, based on the response so far, it looks as though I am totally not prepared to be a mom.

I doubt myself, feel overwhelmed most of the time and think other women just embrace motherhood much more better than I can.

I'm working to change this but I feel like the bump world is almost perfection stepford wives (don't take it personally, it's just my insecurity talking) and I am the odd, irregular gal out in left field.

kudos to all of you who are confident and strong!

oh, and to the rest of you like me, i love you and send me a private message so we can talk some more!  we'll survive and get through this stage and enjoy it someday (right? right?!) looks around

littlemaybaby

just_peachy:

wow, based on the response so far, it looks as though I am totally not prepared to be a mom.

I doubt myself, feel overwhelmed most of the time and think other women just embrace motherhood much more better than I can.

I'm working to change this but I feel like the bump world is almost perfection stepford wives (don't take it personally, it's just my insecurity talking) and I am the odd, irregular gal out in left field.

kudos to all of you who are confident and strong!

oh, and to the rest of you like me, i love you and send me a private message so we can talk some more!  we'll survive and get through this stage and enjoy it someday (right? right?!) looks around

I have to say, I'm pretty surprised by the votes too.  You are definitely not alone though, I assure you of that!

amandopolis

This was hard to answer.  Do I have all the answers?  Absolutely not.  But motherhood has come very naturally to me.  I feel like I'm in my element.  Even when DD screams her head off and I get frustrated, I feel like things are right.  I always go with my gut, and though I get frustrated sometimes, it never makes me question my abilities as a mom.  Does that make sense?

AFWife1229

you're not alone...i voted yes. i feel like some aspects came easily...but i really don;t know if i want to go through it all again

llc730

littlemaybaby:

Let's see:

He fusses - a lot.
He refuses to nap - no matter what we do.
He has STTN less than 5 times ever - and is currently waking 2-3 times a night.

And everyone IRL keeps telling me that when I just stop this silly breast feeding that everything will get better.  Even my mom who EBFed my brother and I past 1 year of age asked me yesterday if I should try formula to fix DS's fussiness.

Oh, and to make matters even more frustrating, my brother and SIL have a little girl 2 weeks older than DS who is a very easy baby who happens to be FF - and people are always comparing my "grumpy" DS to her.

So yeah, I voted for having doubts all the time.

This sucks....I HATE when people compare babies. My mom kept telling me that she "told" my two bros and I when we were 6 wks that she was done getting up and we all started STTN. I told her she was either senile and not remembering things so well or possibly the luckiest mom on the planet. Is it bad if I hope your bro's DD turns into a really difficult toddler?

MelodyMoonstone

He had food intolerances and doesn't sleep 12 hours and the first 2 months were awful.  I felt like everyone else around me was having so much fun with their babies and I was crying every day.

DrDPM

littlemissy:

YES.  I am doubting myself alot and I am a THIRD time mom.. because DS3 is SO different than the other two, and I am trying to balance the needs of a 5 y.o., just turned 3 y.o., and a 5 month old.

Ditto - I'm also a 3rd time mom with 3 under 3. My older 2 are going through a defiant streak and can be quite a handful right now.

wordtoyourmother

just_peachy:

wordtoyourmother:

she's teething, 6 months and not STTN yet... I feel like  other moms have a better hang of this than I do. 

can we be friends? lol

ha! I'm very surprised by the answers too.  I guess I gotta fake it 'till I make it. 

abrazz

I voted that I have it under control, but mostly for the part that says things will work out.  I doubt myself a lot and wonder if I am doing the right things to make her life the best it can be.  I will do this again though, even though my body advises against it. 

wordtoyourmother

amandopolis:

This was hard to answer.  Do I have all the answers?  Absolutely not.  But motherhood has come very naturally to me.  I feel like I'm in my element.  Even when DD screams her head off and I get frustrated, I feel like things are right.  I always go with my gut, and though I get frustrated sometimes, it never makes me question my abilities as a mom.  Does that make sense?

Rub some of that off on me please? 

piper09

littlemaybaby:

Let's see:

He fusses - a lot.
He refuses to nap - no matter what we do.
He has STTN less than 5 times ever - and is currently waking 2-3 times a night.

And everyone IRL keeps telling me that when I just stop this silly breast feeding that everything will get better.  Even my mom who EBFed my brother and I past 1 year of age asked me yesterday if I should try formula to fix DS's fussiness.

Oh, and to make matters even more frustrating, my brother and SIL have a little girl 2 weeks older than DS who is a very easy baby who happens to be FF - and people are always comparing my "grumpy" DS to her.

So yeah, I voted for having doubts all the time.

You can't tell from your siggy pic that he's a fussy butt!  Seriously, that is one of my favorite pics on TB...  He is soooo cute! 

littlemaybaby

piper09:

littlemaybaby:

Let's see:

He fusses - a lot.
He refuses to nap - no matter what we do.
He has STTN less than 5 times ever - and is currently waking 2-3 times a night.

And everyone IRL keeps telling me that when I just stop this silly breast feeding that everything will get better.  Even my mom who EBFed my brother and I past 1 year of age asked me yesterday if I should try formula to fix DS's fussiness.

Oh, and to make matters even more frustrating, my brother and SIL have a little girl 2 weeks older than DS who is a very easy baby who happens to be FF - and people are always comparing my "grumpy" DS to her.

So yeah, I voted for having doubts all the time.

You can't tell from your siggy pic that he's a fussy butt!  Seriously, that is one of my favorite pics on TB...  He is soooo cute! 

Thank you!  Your DS is adorable too!

About 10-15 minutes after eating DS is in a great mood - and that's when I take ALL of his pictures!  LOL!

jennyandty

I know I want to do this again but it is so hard right now.  I have been crying a ton lately.  Thanks for posting this so I know I am not alone.  The root of all my insecurities are comparing myself and my baby to others.   I have made a promise to myself that I will stop those negative thought patterns.  We will survive and it will get better!!

ninasc

Yes, especially in the middle of the night when I'm getting up for the 15th time to soothe him back to sleep. I know I'll do it again sometime (maybe two more times even) but it may not be as soon as I originally planned.

just_peachy

jennyandty:

I know I want to do this again but it is so hard right now.  I have been crying a ton lately.  Thanks for posting this so I know I am not alone.  The root of all my insecurities are comparing myself and my baby to others.   I have made a promise to myself that I will stop those negative thought patterns.  We will survive and it will get better!!

awww, and a message board like this, while helpful, can sometimes create more harm than good because we are constantly comparing ourselves to other's standards.

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jennyandty:

I know I want to do this again but it is so hard right now.  I have been crying a ton lately.  Thanks for posting this so I know I am not alone.  The root of all my insecurities are comparing myself and my baby to others.   I have made a promise to myself that I will stop those negative thought patterns.  We will survive and it will get better!!

Oh honey, you are NOT alone. I love my kids to death, but some days (like today) I just don't know how I'm going to do it all again tomorrow. Being a mom is hard! It will get better though. 

If you're crying a lot, I just want to make sure you know it's ok to talk to someone, or ask for help. No shame in letting someone know that you're going through tough times. Your OB may have some advice for you. ((HUGS))

jennyandty

Rach03k:

jennyandty:

I know I want to do this again but it is so hard right now.  I have been crying a ton lately.  Thanks for posting this so I know I am not alone.  The root of all my insecurities are comparing myself and my baby to others.   I have made a promise to myself that I will stop those negative thought patterns.  We will survive and it will get better!!

Oh honey, you are NOT alone. I love my kids to death, but some days (like today) I just don't know how I'm going to do it all again tomorrow. Being a mom is hard! It will get better though. 

If you're crying a lot, I just want to make sure you know it's ok to talk to someone, or ask for help. No shame in letting someone know that you're going through tough times. Your OB may have some advice for you. ((HUGS))

 

Thanks, the encouraging words help so much!  Today was just a really hard day.  It is bathtime for DS and tomorrow is a new day.  Have a good night everyone! 

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jhenry1204

just_peachy:

wow, based on the response so far, it looks as though I am totally not prepared to be a mom.

I doubt myself, feel overwhelmed most of the time and think other women just embrace motherhood much more better than I can.

I'm working to change this but I feel like the bump world is almost perfection stepford wives (don't take it personally, it's just my insecurity talking) and I am the odd, irregular gal out in left field.

kudos to all of you who are confident and strong!

oh, and to the rest of you like me, i love you and send me a private message so we can talk some more!  we'll survive and get through this stage and enjoy it someday (right? right?!) looks around

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I am very surprised.  But, you're not alone.  I'm a SAHM and full time college student.  I am about to graduate in August but between taking care of the house, taking care of LO, going to classes, by the time I sit down to study I am so exhausted.  LO is a pretty easy baby (I got lucky) but with all the other stress going on, when she gets fussy I feel like I am fighting a losing battle.

I even told DH last night I want to just drop out of school.  I have a week and half left in this semester and 3 weeks of an intense class.  Then done, I just have to finish my internship.  I'm so overwhelmed that I second guess everything I'm doing.  I feel like I'm not taking care of LO the way she deserves because I'm so preoccupied with cooking/cleaning/studying/etc. 

I'm worn out.  I'm stressed.  I'm just beat to hell.  And yeah, sometimes it feels like a lot of the moms have it more together than me.  And for the most part, I'm sure they do.  But I think a lot of us are all in the same "WTF am I doing" boat.