just need to vent!-Friend

WendyK

I have a friend from college who is a SAHM. I work outside of the home but in no way is this post a dig at SAHM. She will email or call from time to time and tell me how rough her life is, honestly I just want her to lose my number. She has a nanny, housekeeper, has groceries delivered, etc. but complains that she is so busy and it is rough being a sahm. I got one of the poor me emails today. Yes for the typical sahm it is but for her not so much. Yes it is hard going to the gym 3 hours a day. How do I disconnect someone like this from my life, I am beyond done!

Halo79RN

maybe she's depressed or lonely?  

then, there are some who will complain about their life no matter what.

if she's that toxic, tell her you need space for a bit... and back off.   

Mickschick

I stay home with my kids and if I could have all that she has I would definitely NOT complain. Hell- if I could just go to the bathroom ALONE I woudldn't complain! LOL

If I was you- I would just keep your responses to her emails light like, 'oh that sucks.' or "i'm sorry" and have that be your only response. If she actually emails something about how short you're being or whatever just tell her your super busy. Eventually she'll get the hint.

 Unless you like confrontation (I avoid it all costs) then you could just come right out and tell her that you don't feel bad for her and you think she's nothing but a whine a$$ LOL!

WendyK

I typically steer clear from confrontation but honestly I am to the point where I do want to call her a whiney little a$$. She does not appreciate anything in her life (including her kids, constantly complains about how horrible they are, etc).

JOEBunny

I don't think being a big whiner has anything to do with SAH or not.  I think some people are big whiners.  I have two little whiners, I don't want another one in my life.  I would just take the good with the bad and if there is not good, start to phase her out.

WendyK

Joe I totally agree. I have SAHM that would kill for the life she has but all she does is whine..I am just going to start phasing her out. I don't have time or patience for it any longer.

penguingrrl

I would forget to reply.  Seriously, I SAH and while there are rough days, just like any WOH job has, in general I love it and am happier than I've ever been.  Not saying it's for everyone and she should love every minute of it, but I'm perfectly happy and I have relatively little help (I do have an aunt who takes the girls sometimes for me and a DH who is very helpful when he's not working insane hours).  Sounds like she has too much time on her hands and not enough to fill it.