are you living as cleanly as you would if you were definitely pg?

Doodle2011

I can't seem to give up my morning coffee.  I bought raspberry and green tea instead, and it's just not the same.  And decaf is not the same. 

Also, I am still having the occasional drink or two or three if it's the weekend.  I feel like until I have a BFP it's still fair game! 

I am wondering if hanging on to these habits is possibly part of the problem.  Hmmm........

rabstbmom

At this point, after 2 m/c (at least one of which was a confirmed genetic issue that I could not have prevented in any way), I kind of figure until the stick has 2 lines, I'm just going to keep doing what I do. Granted, I've never been a big drinker, so probably my biggest vice is my large iced tea from McD's most mornings. I guess I figure this TTC stuff can drive you crazy enough, without being too obsessive about what you eat/drink before you even get the BFP. And when I think about what some of our parents did (or didn't do) when they were pg and we still turned out fine, I figure we're still taking better care of LOs in very-early-pregnancy than they probably did, even with a few "vices".

OscarQ

Definitely not living as clean as I lived/will live while pregnant.  As long as you get the right nutrition, exercise and take your multi-vitamin (with folic acid) I say a cup of coffee and a few drinks until you get the BFP are fine.  I even drank coffee after my BFP - just one cup a day most days - and it was fine.  While I ultimately m/c'd it had nothing to do with not living cleanly.

OscarQ

rabstbmom:

And when I think about what some of our parents did (or didn't do) when they were pg and we still turned out fine, I figure we're still taking better care of LOs in very-early-pregnancy than they probably did, even with a few "vices".

Ha!  My mom did the breakfast of champions with me - basically got off the night shift and went out for a drinking session.  It was 1973 and she was 23 years old.  I'm fine - not that she did it repeatedly but I do have to remind myself that sometimes we know a bit too much about the do's and dont's of modern pregnancy - just enough to drive ourselves a bit nutty.

redsoxbono

Definitely not!  I will have a few drinks on the weekend and I have a large tea every morning for the caffeine. 

If the embryo doesn't even implant for 10ish days, I don't think it is even sharing our blood until around the time we would get a BFP.  I may be wrong, but I think in moderation it is fine until (and if ever) I get a BFP!

 

rabstbmom

OscarQ:

rabstbmom:

And when I think about what some of our parents did (or didn't do) when they were pg and we still turned out fine, I figure we're still taking better care of LOs in very-early-pregnancy than they probably did, even with a few "vices".

Ha!  My mom did the breakfast of champions with me - basically got off the night shift and went out for a drinking session.  It was 1973 and she was 23 years old.  I'm fine - not that she did it repeatedly but I do have to remind myself that sometimes we know a bit too much about the do's and dont's of modern pregnancy - just enough to drive ourselves a bit nutty.

Yeah, my mom lived with her parents b/c Dad was in Vietnam. Her dad smoked, and she drank soda like there was no tomorrow. Then my cousin tells the story of finding a photo of my aunt dated about a month before my cousin was born. My aunt has a cigarette in one hand and a beer in the other. Like I said, I think if we turned out OK after that, a daily cup of coffee or even a couple drinks that occur before the BFP arrives are probably fine!

kinsalebride

I think you should live your life as you normally would before you get your BFP - and don't even think twice about it. Something like coffee isn't going to prevent you from getting pg.

 When I was TTC #1 I was overly worried about all of that stuff too, and looking back on it I feel like it was unnecessary and stressed me out more. When we got pg with IVF #1 I was also super cautious - only had meat well done, didn't eat sushi, wore gloves when cleaning bathrooms, etc. I think at the time those things gave me peace of mind more than anything else.

 Flashforward to now: I'm pg naturally and I got pg during a vacation - during which I was definitely drinking. I've also been way lax with 'rules' this time around: i've had my meat medium rare because that's the way i like it, i've had a couple pieces of raw sushi, i don't wear gloves cleaning and i've had an occassional sip of beer/wine. I just had a u/s a week ago and baby looks great and i'm not worried at all with my choices. you just have to do what you're comfortable with, without sacrificing things you enjoy that you may not need to. Everything in moderation is what I follow. Best of luck.

rach2100

redsoxbono:

Definitely not!  I will have a few drinks on the weekend and I have a large tea every morning for the caffeine. 

If the embryo doesn't even implant for 10ish days, I don't think it is even sharing our blood until around the time we would get a BFP.  I may be wrong, but I think in moderation it is fine until (and if ever) I get a BFP!

 

Ditto this exactly!  Couldn't have said it better RSB!!

*Chicken*

I try too but mostly for myself. I exercise and try to eat heathly. Summer is the best with all the fresh fruit. I LOVE coffee so that's my biggest vice. Right now I will drink up (coffee wise) but as soon as I start my injections in June or July I will switch to decaf. I don't drink that much, especially now, so that isn't a problem. ETA: I forgot about the butt load of vitamins I take (PNV,C, b6, b12, & folic acid).

Haribo1

I still drink coffee everyday, and I think I will continue with one cup daily even if/when I get a BFP.  I am drinking normally (glass of wine a few times a week), but I don't drink during the 2ww.  I'm taking PNV, Calcium and folic acid which I will continue to do.