Hello ladies

eawebster

I hope everyone had a nice weekend. I just couldn't bring myself to pop in over the past coupe of days. I think I finally hit a brick wall Saturday night and had a big breakdown (at midnight none the less, poor DH). I really thought I had been doing as "okay" as I could be, but obviously I was wrong. I really think I'm to the point where I need to talk to someone in a counseling capacity, but I have no idea where to start. I don't know if I should find out what my insurance covers, my manager forwarded some info on our program here at work, and of course I could talk to an army counselor. I just don't know what to do. I've talked to DH, it's not like I've kept it all bottled up, but I think it'd be better to have someone help me understand my feelings rather than trying to figure it all out on my own. Have those of you who have gone to counseling seen someone who specializes in grief counseling or was it just a counselor?

SassyMamainVA

I'm so sorry you had a rough weekend.  I did as well and it sucks.  I go to a psychologist that a friend recommended.  Luckily I clicked with the therapist and it's worked out really well.  My insurance doesn't cover very much of the session, but it's worth the money.  It's nice to talk to someone who is not in your life and who can help you sort through your feelings.  My therapist doesn't specialize in pregnancy loss or grief, but looking for those specializations could be a good way for you to start to find names.  You can call and "interview" them to find out if it's a good fit.  Don't feel like you're obligated to go to the first person you call. It was extremely difficult for me to pick up the phone to call the therapist, but I'm so glad I did.  I hope you can find someone you like and I hope it's beneficial for you.  Good luck and feel free to ask me any questions you may have!

elizabeth&james

I was recently thinking the same thing- I posted about this mid-late last week and got some good tips from other ladies who have gone this route. I think you can search posts by my name. Good luck-- I'm in the same boat- hoping this gets easier and thinking that counseling could help.

jerriesgirl

I have not sought out counselors, but the hospital social worker did give me some.  Also, check with your OB's office.  They may have a listing.  If your insurance has a prenatal program, they may be able to give you some names, plus you will know what is covered.  I hope that you find someone you like and that things will start getting better.

bgarson

I love going to my counselor. We started going a week after we lost Victoria. I started off by looking up who my insurance would cover. Then when I got that list of names, I looked them up online. Some had web pages and I based it on who I thought I would connect with best. She doesn't necessarily specialize in grief, but she has helped me so much. I hope you find someone you really like.