Any moms of onlies on here?

WendyK

So DH and I decided a week ago that DS will be an only ( I am too). Just curious if anyone else on here is in my boat. It seems like most women on here want at least two. I actually had someone yesterday tell me they were sorry when I said DS will be an only..

karen6784

DD is our only.  We are not 100% sure if she will have a sibling or not.  Everyone has an opinion on what is best for you.  If you and your DH are comfortable w/ it, that is all that matters.

 

belle204

I'm probably one and done. I would like another but I don't foresee getting married (anytime soon) and don't want anymore while single. And, no offense to older moms but I didn't really want to have kids after 30 and still kind of feel that way. Why would someone say sorry? It's not like you're torturing the kid os something.

olsentobe

Im an only and as of right now I am one and done but dh is back and forth and DS just decided the other day that he wants a baby brother not a sister, oh ok, ha!

if and thats a BIG if we had another one it wouldnt even be a thought for 2 more yrs and DS will be 4 in dec so im not too sure how i feel about that many yrs between either!

WendyK

It just seems when you tell people you are just having one they look at you like you have two heads or something. I am happy with our decision.

firefightersgal

My DD is an only and could possibly stay that way.  We have been trying for another baby for almost a year and a half and have decided to take a break.  Most people know we've been trying and had a m/c, though, so our situation is a little bit different.  I, like Belle, do not want to have babies in my 30's, so my time is limited.  

oparcm

Well I'm one, done and almost 41.  I do get ppl who make comments but one is what we will have.

Temp108743750006959

DS might be an only. I'm going to be 39 and I still have six frozen embies...but I just can't decide. We're having a great time as a family of three. People do think you're nuts if you only have one. It's silly -- you have to do what is right for you and your family.

Katesmama

K is an only.  We did IVF with PGD and it cost $50k to have her.  We knew going in she would be an only.  We don't regret it. 
We've made sure she has plenty of activities to combat the only child syndrome.  We even enrolled her in preschool 2 half days a week to help. 
We're happy with our decision. 

I agree when I say we're one and done people give me their condolences.  WTF people we have a healthy, happy, well rounded kid, no condolences needed.

 

WendyK

I love our little family. I have struggled with if we would have #2 (kept thinking dh wanted a 2nd), I never really wanted a 2nd. I am so happy we have the decision made.

mgfit1

We have only one.  I am glad I am not the only person on here with only one too.  I am so sick of people asking why only one and pushing for me to have another...hellooooo I am going to be 45, when would you like me to have another one!?!?  People act like it's horrible to only have one.  Sometimes you have to just embrace what life brings.....sometimes it's only one

JOEBunny

I have two.  I feel like one is/was way easier.  I love both my kids, but when my friends ask me, and my BFF has one who is 5 purposefully, I tell them one is much easier.  If you are happy with one, go for it. IMO.