is this flameful? re: FB

ali-1411

Why do people post mushy crap about their husbands/wives on Facebook?  Here's todays example:

he makes me excited, he makes me smile, he makes me googly inside, he makes me feel beautiful, he spoils me rotten, i am a better person because of him....he is my smiley Boy....he is my Pablo...he is my husband! I am sooo thankful to have you and wouldn't ask for anyone else. Because noone else could ever be YOU!

Really, does anyone read that and think, Aww how sweet?  Because I roll my eyes and think its pathetic.  Especially since I know all the backround swinger crap they got going on....

ssinca

I'm not a mushy person so yes, this would definitely get an eyeroll or 5 from me.

and it also makes me want to

thethomps

I posted this morning that my husband was sweet for going to pick up kolaches for breakfast.  I hope that doesn't make anyone want to barf.  

I probably wouldn't go to the extent above, though, because DH would probably never hear the end of it from his friends. 

michelleaxo

That is one of my biggest pet peeves. One of my friends is always posting "My DH is soooo amazing", "Date Night! I'm so excited and lucky to be married to such an amazing man" and on and on and on. Like every other day. My reaction is usually   It's one thing to give DH props once in a while but always talking about how amazing he is just makes me sick. Especially b/c I knew him in college and let's just say she might not think he was all that amazing if she knew some of his past.

ali-1411

thethomps:

I posted this morning that my husband was sweet for going to pick up kolaches for breakfast.  I hope that doesn't make anyone want to barf.  

I probably wouldn't go to the extent above, though, because DH would probably never hear the end of it from his friends. 

LOL, I wouldn't make fun of you for that!  That's just bragging on your part

And yeah, DH would hate if I posted crap like that.

ssinca

thethomps:

I posted this morning that my husband was sweet for going to pick up kolaches for breakfast.  I hope that doesn't make anyone want to barf.  

for the record, this would not make me barf. 

batsteph

The ones I don't get are the ones who have mushy conversations on FB.  Made up but pretty accurate example:

SHE:  Hey babe!

HE:  Hey babe!

SHE:  I love you so much!

HE:  I love you too babe!

SHE:  Can't wait to see you after work today.

HE:  Me too.  I'll be thinking about you all day.

SHE:  I'll be waiting with kisses!

Do you guys have friends who do this too?  I think it's so weird to do this on FB, or any other public forum.  Can't they just text one another? 

thethomps

batsteph:

The ones I don't get are the ones who have mushy conversations on FB.  Made up but pretty accurate example:

SHE:  Hey babe!

HE:  Hey babe!

SHE:  I love you so much!

HE:  I love you too babe!

SHE:  Can't wait to see you after work today.

HE:  Me too.  I'll be thinking about you all day.

SHE:  I'll be waiting with kisses!

Do you guys have friends who do this too?  I think it's so weird to do this on FB, or any other public forum.  Can't they just text one another? 

That is definitely gaggy.  I think DH would text me back at some point and tell me to stop wasting our texts like this. 

katattack

ssinca:

thethomps:

I posted this morning that my husband was sweet for going to pick up kolaches for breakfast.  I hope that doesn't make anyone want to barf.  

for the record, this would not make me barf. 

It's a little mean to rub other's faces in your kolache good fortune, but not barf worthy.

ali-1411

batsteph:

The ones I don't get are the ones who have mushy conversations on FB.  Made up but pretty accurate example:

SHE:  Hey babe!

HE:  Hey babe!

SHE:  I love you so much!

HE:  I love you too babe!

SHE:  Can't wait to see you after work today.

HE:  Me too.  I'll be thinking about you all day.

SHE:  I'll be waiting with kisses!

Do you guys have friends who do this too?  I think it's so weird to do this on FB, or any other public forum.  Can't they just text one another? 

Hahah YES they do that too!  I don't get it.  But then DH and I don't talk or text at all throughout the day.  I just saw him in the morning, and I'll see him when he gets home from work.  What is there to talk about?

I swear, I think its really insecure couple that do this.  They have to be over-the-top romantic so that everybody else thinks they are so great together.  But they are actually just covering up the fact that they secretly hate each other.  Now that's probably flameful 

michelleaxo

ali-1411:

I swear, I think its really insecure couple that do this.  They have to be over-the-top romantic so that everybody else thinks they are so great together.  But they are actually just covering up the fact that they secretly hate each other.  Now that's probably flameful 

Now there is a theory I can get on board with!

NoVA-grl

ali-1411:

Why do people post mushy crap about their husbands/wives on Facebook?  Here's todays example:

he makes me excited, he makes me smile, he makes me googly inside, he makes me feel beautiful, he spoils me rotten, i am a better person because of him....he is my smiley Boy....he is my Pablo...he is my husband! I am sooo thankful to have you and wouldn't ask for anyone else. Because noone else could ever be YOU!

Really, does anyone read that and think, Aww how sweet?  Because I roll my eyes and think its pathetic.  Especially since I know all the backround swinger crap they got going on....

Dude, thanks for sharing my FB message....geez!!

Totally kidding - I would never do anything like that!  Except for maybe a mushy anniversary message or something, but not THAT mushy.

Ruby44

michelleaxo:

ali-1411:

I swear, I think its really insecure couple that do this.  They have to be over-the-top romantic so that everybody else thinks they are so great together.  But they are actually just covering up the fact that they secretly hate each other.  Now that's probably flameful 

Now there is a theory I can get on board with!

Ugh!!! I thought it was just me who can't stand this type of stuff. I totally agree w/ this quoted post... but I am also NOT a mushy person at all.

thethomps

katattack:

It's a little mean to rub other's faces in your kolache good fortune, but not barf worthy.

Heh heh.  I am pure evil when it comes to broadcasting my kolache news.   (I mean, I even Googled to make sure there was a kolache place in Indiana, because how am I supposed to survive the rest of my pregnancy if there isn't?)

Nikison

I've only ever posted one or two 'mushy' type FB messages about how amazing my husband is. Once he brought me breakfast in bed before work, and I think the other was our wedding day. The rest of our FB conversations are filled with snark and humor. 

txbabs111

I'm guilty of this. I posted about a month ago about how I have the best husband ever. But there was a specific reason that I posted it and I didn't want to get into the details because they were really depressing. If you're doing it everyday, or over the top, then yeah, that's gross. But every once in a while, I think that giving a shout out is fine.

libbyann

It doesn't bother me and I think it's sweet. But then again, I think calling your kid a "lil sh*t" on FB is offensive when the board as a whole didn't, so I'm probably not the best person to ask

CollieJade

I think if it were their anniversary or he happened to do something over the top romantic that she wanted to share, that's no big deal to me.  However if it's something they're posting all the time and never shut up about how romantic and great their partner is, it'd get an eyeroll from me, too.

SaraLouiseBride08

I'll post an update from time to time about how excited I am that my husband is home, or how we had a great date night.

However, something like what you posted is just annoying. I've noticed that it's usually from women who I find annoying in general and often have bad marriages, ironicly enough.

The occasional gushy update is fine with me, especially if they earned it. However, over the top and all the time - gag me.

KittyFX

batsteph:

The ones I don't get are the ones who have mushy conversations on FB.  Made up but pretty accurate example:

SHE:  Hey babe!

HE:  Hey babe!

SHE:  I love you so much!

HE:  I love you too babe!

SHE:  Can't wait to see you after work today.

HE:  Me too.  I'll be thinking about you all day.

SHE:  I'll be waiting with kisses!

Do you guys have friends who do this too?  I think it's so weird to do this on FB, or any other public forum.  Can't they just text one another? 

I knew a couple that used to do this through their status updates not just on each others wall. It was hilarious!!! and so annoying. They eventually figured out how to use FB.

texansarah

michelleaxo:

That is one of my biggest pet peeves. One of my friends is always posting "My DH is soooo amazing", "Date Night! I'm so excited and lucky to be married to such an amazing man" and on and on and on. Like every other day. My reaction is usually   It's one thing to give DH props once in a while but always talking about how amazing he is just makes me sick. Especially b/c I knew him in college and let's just say she might not think he was all that amazing if she knew some of his past.

There is a couple that we are friends with like this, and she does this all.the.time. And it was especially obnoxious when I knew he was complaining about her to my DH at the beginning of the relationship and what a *** she was. I think they are better now (couples counseling is a beautiful thing!) but I definitely think a lot of those people who post like that are trying to compensate for something missing. If you are that happy, you usually don't feel the need to prove it to everyone, IMO.

FeistyFille

ali, I double-dog dare you to type "*gag*" as a comment. 

MrsMillerTime

FeistyFille:

ali, I double-dog dare you to type "*gag*" as a comment. 

I do that to my friends all.the.time.

AustinMimi

It doesn't annoy me, but I honestly just kind of gloss over those kinds of updates the same way I do with FB updates about dirty diapers. 

ThisGirlInAustin

I will readily admit that I am the sappiest person I know and have a bad habit of saying (or posting) whatever comes to mind without much of a filter. So I don't find that gag-worthy, though it is a bit over-the-top, even for me. But I'm the same person who texts my husband a couple times a week randomly, just to tell him that I love him, miss him, can't wait to see him, etc. Frequently when we're just sitting around I look at him and get all warm and gooey and have to tell him I adore him. I posted last week on FB that I couldn't wait to get home and make him dinner. Thats the type of person I am and I'd hate to think that less gushy people see such things and assume that we must have a bad relationship and I'm trying to cover it up by public expressing my feelings for the person I love more than anybody on this earth. It makes me sad that that is the assumption people jump to at posts like that.*

*Disclaimer: I know that you are referring to this specific couple, Ali, and have witnessed that they do have problems, not that you're necessarily saying anybody who gushes over their spouse is over-compensating.

btrrcupbride

libbyann:

It doesn't bother me and I think it's sweet. But then again, I think calling your kid a "lil sh*t" on FB is offensive when the board as a whole didn't, so I'm probably not the best person to ask

Uh oh, I called my DD1 a "snobby lil sh!t" on the board yesterday.  Just keeping it real.  I am NOT very Pollyanna.  Sorry if I offended!
I don't call DD2 by the same... she lovingly gets the term "lil toot" instead... I am sure she will graduate one day. 
Really, it would never even cross my mind that would offend someone. My apologies!

ali-1411

ThisGirlInAustin:

I will readily admit that I am the sappiest person I know and have a bad habit of saying (or posting) whatever comes to mind without much of a filter. So I don't find that gag-worthy, though it is a bit over-the-top, even for me. But I'm the same person who texts my husband a couple times a week randomly, just to tell him that I love him, miss him, can't wait to see him, etc. Frequently when we're just sitting around I look at him and get all warm and gooey and have to tell him I adore him. I posted last week on FB that I couldn't wait to get home and make him dinner. Thats the type of person I am and I'd hate to think that less gushy people see such things and assume that we must have a bad relationship and I'm trying to cover it up by public expressing my feelings for the person I love more than anybody on this earth. It makes me sad that that is the assumption people jump to at posts like that.*

*Disclaimer: I know that you are referring to this specific couple, Ali, and have witnessed that they do have problems, not that you're necessarily saying anybody who gushes over their spouse is over-compensating.

Pffff.  You're a newlywed.  Let's see how gushy you are in a few years and after having a couple of kids

FireChiefsBride

MrsMillerTime:

FeistyFille:

ali, I double-dog dare you to type "*gag*" as a comment. 

I do that to my friends all.the.time.

I'm so glad you don't take fb seriously.  Awhile back I made a comment to one of your comments, and I have seriously stressed about it since then, hoping I didn't offend you or someone else you were friends with.

Now offending your ride, that's a whole other story...  

NoVA-grl

MrsMillerTime:

FeistyFille:

ali, I double-dog dare you to type "*gag*" as a comment. 

I do that to my friends all.the.time.

It's true!  

EMTX

thethomps:

I posted this morning that my husband was sweet for going to pick up kolaches for breakfast.  I hope that doesn't make anyone want to barf.  

I probably wouldn't go to the extent above, though, because DH would probably never hear the end of it from his friends. 

This... yikes! He would kill me.