VERY good appointment this am, and a question!

MC+KK

So it all went really well, we saw the little arm and leg buds and a real head! I cried of course and I have been so happy all day! My question is...My best friends wedding is 10 days after my due date. it sucks. I am in the wedding of course and I just hate that I prob won't be able to be in it. She is very understanding and 'thinks' my due date is nov 1st, not the 28th. I need to tell her something soon. There is no way I can be in the wedding is there? It is here in Austin just about 20 min away from our house at the Terrace Club. WWYD?

EMTX

First of all, YAY!

So, so happy to hear this!

I would just tell her now. Tell her you just had an appointment and tell her the EDD. You can still help with her shower, etc., but you can't help when you're due! (And believe me, I know you're worried about it now, but you won't care about missing her wedding when you've just had your babe!)

MrsChristmas

Congrats on a great appointment.

As far as the wedding, you never know what will happen. The baby might come early, might come late. I would just tell her when you are due and that you can't guarantee that you will be able to participate and see what she says.

ACR

Glad to hear you had a great appointment! I'd let her know now. It may be that you'll totally feel up for a wedding then...or maybe you won't. Hopefully your friend can be understanding that you can't really commit to anything then.

smb29

First, yeah for a great appointment!   

I don't see why you can't be in the wedding, with a little planning.  You probably won't be able to do the all day, every activity kind of thing, but if you bff is okay with it, you could still stand up with her.  You'll be tired and dress fitting will be a challenge, but its your bff.  You can work it out.  Nursing (if you plan to) would probably be the biggest thing to work out.  Your little one will be wanting to eat every couple of hours at that point.

2bmrslove

So happy to hear you had a great appointment!!  Agree w/PP's tell her now.

risa_4-11-09

congrats on a healthy growing baby. this happened with one of my best friends, she was due 3 weeks before the wedding. I totally understood her reservations... you might ask her if you can decide at the last minute. My friend was able to come to the wedding and it was very odd not having her stand up with us regardless of what she was wearing.

MC+KK

Thank you ladies!! . . . I would totally do it if we could get our own dresses but she is doing a traditional BM dress, in charcoal grey. The dress thing is the biggest issue. My parent are also going to the wedding so I know I'll have tons of help if the baby is here by then, plus blondie will be there too for support! I just don't want to go into labor at the wedding and steal her 'thunder'!

SaraLouiseBride08

I just wanted to say -

HOORAY for a great appointment!!

L L CG

DOOOOODD!!!!!  So, so happy for you!!

ARE WE REALLY GOING TO HAVE BABIES THIS TIME!? 

squeeeeallllllllll!!!!

MC+KK

L*L*CG:

DOOOOODD!!!!!  So, so happy for you!!

ARE WE REALLY GOING TO HAVE BABIES THIS TIME!? 

squeeeeallllllllll!!!!

We fu#k!ng better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OH and we WILL!!!!!!!!!!!

s-a-r-a-h

smb29:

I don't see why you can't be in the wedding, with a little planning.  You probably won't be able to do the all day, every activity kind of thing, but if you bff is okay with it, you could still stand up with her.  You'll be tired and dress fitting will be a challenge, but its your bff.  You can work it out.  Nursing (if you plan to) would probably be the biggest thing to work out.  Your little one will be wanting to eat every couple of hours at that point.

Ditto. If she's flexible, I would definitely try to be in the wedding. And congrats on a great appointment!

AustinAggie

I also think its doable.  A week after DS was born, we went to a wedding that was 3 hours away.  The car ride wasn't fun for me, but it wasn't awful either.  DS did just fine.  At that age he had no idea we were staying in a hotel, in a church, whatever, as opposed to being at home.  I was also nursing and it didn't turn out to be as big of an issue as I imagined.  We stopped at a truck stop so I could nurse and DH read a book. 

Let her know the situation and let her decide.  The dress issue will be a bit difficult, but unfortunately, even if you already had the baby, you will still look a bit pregnant and the dress should still work fine.  But, most likely you'll be able to go and if you're not there, well everyone will know why.    Your BFF will understand and I think you will be sad if you opt out now and it works out that you could have been in the wedding.

Fa1ryG0dm0ther

ACR:

Glad to hear you had a great appointment! I'd let her know now. It may be that you'll totally feel up for a wedding then...or maybe you won't. Hopefully your friend can be understanding that you can't really commit to anything then.

This, and then be understanding that she may have to make some decisions.  Tell her that if you're able, you'd love to participate in any way that you can (maybe you stand up in the wedding for 30 minutes, but that's it?)

thegastons

Yay for a great appointment! I'm so excited for you!!!