s/o Why would you do a mass defriending?

MrsAJL

I can understand not wanting to read inflammatory or inappropriate FB status updates and making the decision to defriend one or two people.

But I don't understand why someone would defriend a whole group of people who have one obvious connection (i.e. per the post below: the nest/the bump)

What would piss someone off enough to be so childish?   Just curious.  

Temp919044062507573

I?m curious too?even through my divorce I only defriended my ex and maybe 1 other person but still have his entire family on my FB

maybe privacy?

MrsAJL

kerij1028:

I?m curious too?even through my divorce I only defriended my ex and maybe 1 other person but still have his entire family on my FB maybe privacy?

I could understand the privacy thing, but I think that She-Who-Mass-Defriended had other intentions?

How did the Internet become just another pseudo-high school?  [

OrangeFelt

I actually did a cleaning pretty recently - and it was just me de-friending a lot of acquaintances from work.  These people were mostly in another country working at a call center I used to travel to a lot, but I recently decided I wanted to keep myself a bit more private.

 I figured I'd just put them on my LinkedIn instead, so if they figured it out - they could make the delineation between personal and work.   It took me from something crazy like 520 to 315.  I mean, 314 today.

 Oh, and I have to qualify that I had gone through about a bottle of wine beforehand.. may have made me a bit click happy. :P

MrsNole

I did a huge defriending about a couple of weeks ago.  I got rid of people that I NEVER talk to or would EVER talk to again.  These were people that I have not talked to since college, which is 5+ years ago!  I was friends with a whole lot of aquaintances or people I have hung out with a handful of times or exboyfriends of friends that have since moved on. That was back when FB first came out and it was only for college kids and you had to type in www.thefacebook.com to get to it! 

SaraLouiseBride08

Pseudo high school!

I love it, and am terribly afraid all at the same time.

2bmrslove

OrangeFelt:

I actually did a cleaning pretty recently - and it was just me de-friending a lot of acquaintances from work.  These people were mostly in another country working at a call center I used to travel to a lot, but I recently decided I wanted to keep myself a bit more private.

 I figured I'd just put them on my LinkedIn instead, so if they figured it out - they could make the delineation between personal and work.   It took me from something crazy like 520 to 315.  I mean, 314 today.

 Oh, and I have to qualify that I had gone through about a bottle of wine beforehand.. may have made me a bit click happy. :P

This is what I've been doing lately.

kiarox2002

I just hide people, I don't ever defriend them.

Chicklit

The internet has ALWAYS been a psuedo high school. We only notice it more since Facebook has connected us to everyone we've ever met.

::Confession::

Way before FB, I did something kind of similar on another site. I didn't really announce it to anyone, but I essentially unfriended a bunch of people and kept only my "core" group of close friends.

The reason? I was going through some pretty bad stuff job wise. I was unhappy and frustrated and I wanted my privacy. It was totally childish and very "I'm taking my toys and going home" of me, but I was annoyed and in a bad place and, honestly, none of them were great friends anyway. On the other hand, I found out later that I alienated some people that really did care about me. Lesson learned and moved on.

 

MrsAJL

I totally get the privacy, cleaning up a really big friend list that is mostly acquaintances, etc. 

That makes sense. 

Nikison

I can only keep up with about 150 people. Currently it seems like every single person I went to HS with joined FB and wants to be friends. Honestly...I don't really care what most of them are doing. I have a tendency to add/then defriend after a couple of days... 

JezcaM

i've recently been a little freaked out by some high school friends of mine.... and wish i hadn't friended them in the first place. we're certainly not the same people we were in high school! i haven't done a mass defriending but have thought about it, especially when i think of it in terms of 'do i want this person to know personal things about me/my family?' hmmm...

smatthe

kiarox2002:

I just hide people, I don't ever defriend them.

Can't they still see what you write, tho'?  I don't know...just asking.

Yeah, I got scared when I added alot of the "nesties" to FB...all of a sudden, people that I didn't know knew aaaallll about me, heh.  BUT, it doesn't intimidate me anymore.  Most people are lurkers...the more vocal ones are super cool.  

.oO(Errr...maybe that IS a little creepy to have lurkers...)

ENH, and then when it comes to volume, I can sort the info by lists...only see posts from nesties/bumpies, or family, or whatever.