NBR FB question. WWYD?

batsteph

Speaking of FB...

One of my FB friends (she's a business acquaintance, not a friend in the true we-pal-around-and-chat-on-the-phone-and-invite-them-over-for-dinner kind of friend) just joined that "Dear God you took my favorite entertainers home this year now please take my favorite president" group.  I find this utterly disgusting.  My personal politics don't even enter into it; I just can't believe there are people publicly praying for another person's death, regardless of who that person is and how they feel about him or her.  And I really can't believe they're hiding behind the excuse, "Oh, but it's just a funny joke."  Whatever.

So my question:  I'm going to defriend her.  I don't associate with people who wish death on others.  Should I tell her why I'm defriending her, or just do it and move on? 

AustinBride06

I'd do it and move on, especially if it's a business connection.

mlf625

That's gross.  I'm no fan of the Pres., but I can't believe people take it THAT far.  And bring God's name into it, no less.  Grossburgers.

Defriend, don't explain.  Most people don't even notice when they've been defriended.  Plus, I feel like even if you explained, it would fall on deaf ears.  She was dumb enough to join that group in the first place, kwim? 

s-a-r-a-h

I'd just do it and move on.

thethomps

AustinBride06:

I'd do it and move on, especially if it's a business connection.

Agreed.  If it were a closer friend, an explanation might be nice, but it's not necessary in this case.

I also agree that the group is horrible.  I can't believe someone would joke about praying for the death of the President, no matter who he is!

batsteph

Okay, thanks!  I've never defriended anyone before; I didn't know if there was a specific etiquette that demanded an explanation or anything.  

richardslove

I would just de-friend her and move on.  You never know she may have voo doo dolls and you don't want a voo doo batsteph! 

Chicklit

Short answer: Just do it and move on.

TL;DR answer: If you think that she's open minded enough to accept what you have to say, then maybe it wouldn't be such a bad idea to contact her, politely say that you don't agree with the group, and point out that she may be losing customers or alienating colleagues by mixing her personal and business personas on facebook. Unfortunately, in my experience, people aren't usually open minded enough to see how their actions may be the problem and she may get defensive and you might harm a working relationship. So the safest approach is probably just to unfriend and not say a thing about it. 

kiarox2002

I would just defriend her and move on.  Honestly she probably wont notice.

libbyann

I just defriended someone for the same reason. I really don't like Obama, but to wish another person's death is just disgusting. I messaged her before I defriended her and explained why.

s-a-r-a-h

Some of my FB "friends" just joined the group, too. The full name is "DEAR LORD, THIS YEAR YOU TOOK MY FAVORITE ACTOR, PATRICK SWAYZIE. YOU TOOK MY FAVORITE ACTRESS, FARAH FAWCETT. YOU TOOK MY FAVORITE SINGER, MICHAEL JACKSON. I JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW, MY FAVORITE PRESIDENT IS BARACK OBAMA. AMEN." 

::dislike::

rssnlvr

I just blocked one of my friends for the same message. I can't defriend her because technically she's my stepsister.

batsteph

Defriending accomplished with no explanation.  I did take a look at her friends list before I did it, though.  We used to share a whole bunch of friends; that section was down to just one shared friend.  Looks like there was more than one defriendathon going on on FB today!

karen2508

AustinBride06:

I'd do it and move on, especially if it's a business connection.

 

This. If it was anything other than a business -related acquaintance, I'd probably say why in a private message. but if it's business, even if you disagree, you probably shouldn't burn the bridge.