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TTC after 35
:::Waves hello to everyone::::
Hello, friends!
Gosh, it was so sweet of you, Izzour, to open up the bar in my absence. And thanks so much raising your glasses to me. I miss all of you, too.
I just tried to get caught up a bit. I hope I'm not missing anything here:
Saver - OMG!!!! I'm so, so beyond thrilled for you, girl!!! Sticky, growing vibes by the caseload!
Shy and Chicken - Happy Birthday, girls!
And Happy Anniversary, MAH - one glass of wine isn't going to matter. I'm so glad you celebrated!
Chicken, I'm so sorry about your betas. ((hugs)). Believe me, I know what it feels like to have bouncing betas when you just want them to go down. It did a bit of a number on me emotionally, frankly. I hope you're doing much, much better.
Holly, sorry to read about your response. Did the IUI happen yet? I'm praying whatever happened worked!
RedSox, you could not be more correct: Blue Cross, and frankly, all the insurance providers, can kiss our collective 35+ bottoms!! I hope your doc or someone can get them to change their minds and cover you sooner.
As for me, I'm doing pretty dang great. My hair is colored. My body is caffeinated. And I have new fur-babies! Lily and Rex, our two new kittens, came to live with us Sunday morning! They are six months old, sweet as pie, and since their foster family had a greyhound, they get along just great with our sweet boy. So, it's a big love-fest over here!
TTC-wise, I think I might be done. Not that we will prevent. But I don't want to chart in any way, shape or form. I don't want to plan trips or even nights out with the girls around O time. I am just sick of the whole thing.
You might remember that our RE said he'd give it a go with my eggs. If we were not considering adoption, I might go that route. But I feel like I'm only going to be able to lay out $15-20K once or twice, and I'd rather do that on something that is more certain for us, with our issues.
Maybe what this is, is a break. We'll see. All I know is, right now, I'm feeling a huge amount of relief and peace! I'm feeling it may be time to start accepting that biological children are not in our future, so that we can grieve that. I think only after we have grieved can we make a real decision about adopting or choosing not to have children.
Woo, that got long! Sorry about that.
(((hugs))) to all of you. I've missed ya!
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Re: :::Waves hello to everyone::::
Joyful, wow, it seems like you are in a really healthy place right now! Sometimes it is so important to take a break, step back, and figure out what's best (for you, DH, and your family - fur babies included!). There is certainly so much to consider when it comes to starting a family and it is different for each person. I hope you and DH take time to look into your hearts and finds what will make you truly happy. The DH and I will also consider adoption once we have expired all other options (that we can afford). I am the only child of an adopted mother, so I've always considered it something that only people with really big hearts and bushels of love to give can do........which you clearly have both!
I'm so happy to hear about your new fur babies.........I bet they are adorable!
Best of luck to you and DH on whatever your decision is and I hope to still see you on the boards!
Hiya Joy...glad you are feeling better...mani/pedi and caffeine can do wonders!! LOL!!
Best of luck to you and DH on whatever your decision is and I hope to still see you on the boards!
Hi!! *waves back*
You sound like you are good spirits, I bet it helps that you two new fuzzy kittens that you need PIP for us. I love kittens!!!
Thanks for thinking of me.
Other then the betas being stupid I feel good, I did see my Dr today and he said everything looked good and we just have to watch to make sure those f*ers (I inserted this word myself) start going down. He said it could take up to two weeks. Fine, as long as they go down. I also had my genetic test (karyotyping) done but I don't know if I have a third arm growing off one of my chromosomes for awhile.
If I don't get pregnant again/have a successful pregnancy by fall (or 3 more rounds of injections whichever comes first) or if either one of our genetic tests come back abnormal we will be making the decision to adopt or be child free. I'm leaning more towards adoption but the disappointments through this whole process grate on you and makes you think things that you (well me) probably wouldn't normally thing think (like, is it worth the heartache, maybe we are suppose to be child free). Whatever decision you make you won't regret it.
Now PIP those kittens!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Congrats on your kitty cats!! That is exciting!!
As for not actively TTC, let me tell you it is liberating not to think about OPKs, charting, O, planning travel, TI, etc. You don't even care so much when AF comes. There's no more of that hopeful 2WW and disappointment and even anger when AF comes.
And the thing is, if it happens it happens - you never know!
Hi Joyful,
It's so great to hear from you! You sound like you are in such a good, healthy place in your life. I do believe that what is meant to happen, will happen, and somehow, all things fall into place at their right time. Congrats on the new kitties, would love to see pics. No matter what you decide long-term, I hope you will still be around
Joy - Im so glad you came on and posted. I have been thinking about you. I am inspired by your strength and courage. You really do sound at peace. Good luck with whatever option you choose - adoption, IVF, or childess. You will choose the right path, Im sure.
Can you do a PIP of your new kitties? I would love to see them.
**Waves back**
You have such an amazing and positive attitude!! Happy you are at peace and from there can make the decisions that are best for you and your DH. Whatever road you all take you will have loads of support...and we all hope to still see you here!
Let's see some furry cuteness!
Hi Joy! :waves back: Your strength and poise through these difficult times always makes me certain at what a wonderful woman you are! I am so glad to call you my "friend"....even if it is just in the cyber world
I am also glad that you are in a good place and I know whatever you decide your life will be full of happiness and love. I am sure those 2 little kitties are lovin you!!
Now...as Chicken said...PIP those kitties!!!
::muah:::
Hi Joyful-
What a sweet posting! I know you are in a tough place, and it is so sweet that you have kept up with everyone.
It sounds like a break is just what you need. I hope that you can find some peace. I hope that you will be here when you feel like you can be, we need your joyful nature here!
I don't really have any words of wisdom but I want you to know you and your ovaries are in my thoughts and prayers. I really hope a biological baby is in your future but if not, adoption sounds like a great idea and the two new furbabies are a quick fix to a somewhat broken heart. Lots of purring to keep you comforted.
I hope you will stick around. I enjoy having you here.
Joyful, I can only echo what the others said! I was so glad to see your post and you came across as being so free and unstressed. We are considering IUI in June so we'll see how that goes.
So glad you're doing well.
I am late, as usual! I'm so glad you're back to feeling like yourself again, what with a glamorous 'do and some coffee to keep things moving! Whatever path you and DH decide to take, it will be the right one. I've really stepped back and have decided to focuse my energies on other, positive things in life. I guess that's the best we can do under these circumstances. I hope you are at peace with where you are now and look hopefully towards the future, whatever it may bring.
And where are those kitties?????