What's with the pissing contest here?

Heather1979

Seriously?

 

SWMcFarland

I think this was addressed very appropriately with ljack's post below.  This post just continues to drag out the b.s. and would be best deleted.

Heather1979

I mean, really, it makes me mad.

I came here back in October because I needed help coping. And what did I find? I found a plethora of ladies (sorry if I am overlooking any men on here) who sat there and patiently fielded my questions and made me feel like I was supported and understood when even some of my closest friends couldn't do that.

If someone had even once alluded the whole be thankful for what you have, I think I would've lost it. And I probably would have missed out on a great opportunity to bond with some fantastic people.

Personally? Now that I have some time to distance myself from my daughter's birth? Sure, I can look back and be soooo thankful that I have a happy and healthy LO (*knocks wood). But at the time, hearing some words like what have been said on here can be devastating.

It's heartless. And I am saddened whenever a valuable resource changes for the worse.

SWMcFarland

Heather1979:

I mean, really, it makes me mad.

I came here back in October because I needed help coping. And what did I find? I found a plethora of ladies (sorry if I am overlooking any men on here) who sat there and patiently fielded my questions and made me feel like I was supported and understood when even some of my closest friends couldn't do that.

If someone had even once alluded the whole be thankful for what you have, I think I would've lost it. And I probably would have missed out on a great opportunity to bond with some fantastic people.

Personally? Now that I have some time to distance myself from my daughter's birth? Sure, I can look back and be soooo thankful that I have a happy and healthy LO (*knocks wood). But at the time, hearing some words like what have been said on here can be devastating.

It's heartless. And I am saddened whenever a valuable resource changes for the worse.

Oh, I don't disagree with a word you've said.  I have no idea where these ladies get off with their attitudes and deciding who is welcome here and what feelings they are allowed to have, because last time I checked, an hour of NICU time is too long and a day premature is too early.  Period.  End of story.

My point was we really don't need another post about the same problem.  It just perpetuates the isse and opens the board up to more drama, which we certainly don't need.