BM Consideration - Poll

*Willis*

So while I site here and obsess, I thought I'd take a poll:

1.  How many BM were you presented to before you were matched?

2.  How long did the BM consider profiles?

Our facilitator told us it could take around 10 days, but they thought we might hear something by today.

And just for fun - a story.  DH and I went to PF Chang's last night after walking around Ikea.  My fortune cookie said Mother.  DH's said "An exciting opportunity lies ahead of you." 

They almost had to wheel me out of PF Chang's on a gurney because I about had a heart attack.

Art Teacher

We were shown to about 5 birthmothers before we were picked.

I think she took a couple months to choose our profile -- she had quite a few of them and looked through them with her mom.

I hope your fortune comes true!

lisanjay

we were shown to about 5-10 expectant moms a month. Average wait for them to decide on couple was about a week to ten days. The birthmom that chose us, saw us on our agency's parent profile page before even contacting our agency, picked us, then called the agency to tell them her plans and her choice.

 It seems like so many or my friends who have adopted have gotten similar fortunes right before the match!

 

babywisher

Ok, your fortunes are awesome! That is just crazy. I think I would have had the same reaction as you that is for sure.

1. We were shown to 2 bm and chosen by both. The first one fell through before we even knew we had been chosen by the 2nd bm. Our profile was the 3rd in the stack and she did not even look at any of the others. She knew right away that we were the ones. The agency made her think on it for the night and she called them first thing the next morning to say to call us. Well, that was kind of both questions in one.

I really hope you hear something today.

Dr.Loretta

1. I don't know. We had a status one month, but things got crazy the next month or 2 and we didn't get the stats. Maybe 10 total?

2. We have no idea.

Cute story!

PSU-NCBride

It was so vivid last year but now i'm getting fuzzy. I think we received about 30 cases and decided to be shown to 5. The first four who didn't choose us took a week or so. Our BM took 24 hours to pick us. 

Amy720

We were called for about 5 situations (in about 4 weeks time)- we were shown to 3 of them.  When our first match was done, we didn't even know we were being shown (the agency turned out not to be that great or helpful).  We wanted the opportunity to say whether we wanted to be shown or not.  If we'd known about all the things that BM had done previously to other couples (like shopping her baby around) we would've turned it down.  But instead went to meet her and had a match for about 2 months until we couldn't do it anymore because of her threatening to leave us if we didn't give her more money.   Ben's was sorta of the other way around where the BM didn't pick but our facilitator picked us and we had the opportunity to say yes or no.

In the cases where the BM looked at our profile, it was a week to 10 days before we heard anything.

Crossing my fingers for you!

crystalpopcorn

1) I'm not sure how many we were actually presented to, but not many. We turned in our books the week before Christmas.  We now know that we were picked December 30.  I can't imagine we were shown to many BMs during that time.

2) Our BM was pretty far along in the pregnancy when she started working with the agency. The SW took books to the BM at one of their first meetings.  BM and BF picked us at that meeting.  They said they had a checklist of things they wanted, and we met all the criteria.

rwunderlich13

1) I don't know. Our facilitator purposely does not tell us. I'm SO thankful for that too, I don't need to know every time that we WEREN'T chosen. I do know of 4 BM's and they all chose us. This last one being our perfect match!

 

2) I have no clue how long she considered all the profiles. From what I've heard from our facilitator, the girls that picked us did so within the time they were meeting. (an hour or two) Of course they decided to keep our profile book to go over again and again once they were home though. 

kmkaull2

We were selected by the first birth mom who saw our profile.

She looked at 5 profiles (couples who met her criteria), then narrowed it to 3 . . . 2 . . . and finally us.  Took about a month for her to decide.  What we didn't know is that she wanted her mom, who lives in another city, to look through the books, too.

While we were waiting for her decision, we had another birth mom ask to see our book.  You never know--when it rains, it pours!

sh4602

we were shown about 10 times. we were chosen2 times each of these times the girls asked the agency to pick the the couple. after we talked to the second bm we were matched and we really got along well,