IVF #1 = m/c

c0debabe

I went in to see the MFM yesterday and he decided to do an ultrasound.  The baby hasn't grown since my last ultrasound at 8 weeks (I'm supposed to be 10 weeks along) and we couldn't see a heartbeat anymore.  I had to go in today for another ultrasound to confirm--we lost the baby.

It's a shock.  Although my initial betas were really low (5 and 26), I had normal ultrasounds at 6 weeks and 8 weeks.  I had morning sickness.  We are devastated.  I can't think about it without crying.  If anyone has advice on making it through these next few days, I would love to hear it.

I just want to say thank you again to everyone who makes this such a great supportive board.

BMWwife

I dont have any advice for you, but I just wanted to say that I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. (((HUGS)))

Sarahp63

I am so sorry hun. ((hugs))

lmc5004

OH NO! I am so sorry that this is happening to you. My only advice is cry your heart out and share your feelings... dont shut down. You and DH will be in T&P!

MrsAMR

I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts will be with you. (((Hugs)))

DaniGirl0517

I don't know what to say other than my heart goes out to you and your DH right now.  I am so sorry.  (((HUGS)))

wiscgirl95

Oh no.  I'm so sorry.

madelyn07

I'm so sorry.

hillaree

(((hugs))) I am so sorry

MrsRumpf

Another dose of (hugs)! 

 I have no sound advice other than to say I wish you the VERY BEST.  I also hope you find the family you have always dreamed for--very soon! 

 My husband always tells me I'm hard headed and it takes me a few more times to do anything.  I feel for me, babies are just around the corner.  I hope for you as well!   

Ginger71

I am so very sorry you have to go through this. I also lost my baby at 10 weeks. It is devestating and I am so sorry. I had my d&c around mothers day last year and it was hell. My mom had even bought me a mothers day card.  It just sucks and you need to give yourself time and you need to give yourself a break. While I don't believe time healed me, it gets a little easier every day. Just lean on your Dh and family and friends as much as you can and try not to obsess about why it happened. (I don't mean the medical reason....I mean the more philosophical reason) That's what I did and it made things so much worse. There just isn't a way that we will ever get that answer. It just sucks. Also, try to do nice things for yourself every day. Even if it's just going out for ice cream or buying a new magazine. And visit this board when you need a hug or some kind words...we'll be here. (hugs hug) Again, I'm sorry.

PoeticJustice

Sweetie I am so very sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself. You and your DH will be in my T&P's ((HUGS))

QuiltingBee

I'm so, so very sorry.  Lots of hugs.

Jlynn3

I am so sorry...

(((hugs))) 

MrsTeacherTrooper

I am so sorry for you loss and wish there were better words to comfort you.  Know that you and your DH are in my thoughts and prayers.  (((HUGS)))

c0debabe

Thank you everyone.  I really appreciate all your kind words.

onedaychristinak

I am so sorry about your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you. I also had a m/c at about 9 weeks. I know that there is nothing to say that will make you feel better. I wish i knew of the bump during mine. Lean on your dh, friends, and family as well as us bumpies! I also went out at bought myself an iPhone. Figuring it out was a pretty good distraction. One thing I wish I would have started then was journaling. This may be something to consider. (((hugs))) hun.

kakunaa

I am sooooo sorry to hear this  

cara-n-steve

I"m so sorry

ichoosehope

I don't have any advice, I just wanted to tell you that I am so sorry for your loss.

maddie789

I'm so so sorry.

ashonkwiler09

I'm so so sorry hon.

Nesting.Away

I am so so sorry. My only advice is to take it minute by minute, not even day by day, and remember to breathe. No one should have to go through this. ((Hugs))

nikinikinine

oh gosh honey I'm so sorry. My last m/c was with IVF #1 and it wasn't a complete shock but it was still devastating. My advice: 

* take some time off of work.

* take time to grieve.

* promise yourself you will try to be just a tiny bit happier and a tiny bit more positive with each passing day.

* don't let them convince you to m/c naturally (unless that's what you want to do)

* try to take a little trip or something with just your husband to get away and refocus.

Best of luck to you. 

juliannat

I am so so sorry. (((hugs)))

scooterq

I am so sorry!

roselln2

I'm so sorry. I don't have any advice but I wanted to tell you how sorry I am. (((hugs)))

betheveh

I am so sorry for your loss.

mrslovebug

I'm so sorry

Dragonfly1226

I am so, so sorry for your loss hon. I had a very similar experience. Honestly, the only thing that got me through was taking a few days off from work and grieving with dh. In time, the pain has lessened. 

Just take care of yourself and do whatever feels right for you. If that means staying in bed for a while, do it. If it means going on a shopping spree, go for it.

Sending tons of (((((hugs))))). 

theworms

I am so sorry, this is heart-breaking.

(((HUGS)))

missred75

I'm so sorry, hun. I know there is nothing that I can say that will help alleviate your pain, but my heart goes out to you tonight. ::hugs::

musubigirl

I'm sorry.  ((((((((Hugs)))))))))

Sunshine05

Oh no, I am so sorry for your loss.  Take care of yourself during this time.

Amie8301

My heart is breaking for you. I'm so so very sorry for your loss.

AletheaP

I'm so so sorry.  *hugs*

patchen30

I am so terribly sorry for your loss.  I wish there was something else I could to take the pain away for you.  ((hugs))

jdeats71

I am so so sorry for your loss.  you are in my T&Ps.

flutterby918

Aww, honey, I am so very sorry for your loss!! ((((HUGS)))))

BigHairQueen

I am so, so, so sorry. My advice is to take time a grieve and know that what you are feeling is normal. (((HUGS)))