NIFR...am I too cynical?

QuiltingBee

I hope I'm not becoming hopelessly jaded.

When I heard that story about the 11 y/o girl with autism who was found after 5 days in a FL swamp by a family friend (who was able to find her despite rescue teams being unable to locate her for days)....I immediately suspected him for being involved in some way.  My first thought was, "wow...what a happy ending."  But my second thought was, "that's awfully suspicious." 

Not saying that he was anything but a hero (I think the police even questioned him and he was clear)...and it really is a great outcome...I just hate that I've seen/heard enough wackness in the world that I would even question it.

So...long stream-of-consciousness rambling over. 

madelyn07

Maybe you are cynical and jaded but if you are, I am too.

I definitely had that thought this morning---I'm probably wrong and I hate that I assume the bad in people instead of seeing the good..but..I do have a hard time believing stuff like that.

But I think we only question things like this because there is so much craziness out there. And we do it subconsciously to protect ourselves, too..

QuiltingBee

madelyn07:

Maybe you are cynical and jaded but if you are, I am too.

I definitely had that thought this morning---I'm probably wrong and I hate that I assume the bad in people instead of seeing the good..but..I do have a hard time believing stuff like that.

But I think we only question things like this because there is so much craziness out there. And we do it subconsciously to protect ourselves, too..

I hope for the little girl that he really was a hero and she is okay.   But I agree...I think that we do it to protect ourselves a bit. 

mrshoppy_1231

I must be jaded too then because I agree with you, I'm the same way. It's incredibly sad but adults do bad things to children. I hope that's not true in this case but the way the world is causes us to question everything I think.

juliebee80

I had similar thoughts when watching the Today show.  My first  thought was how incredible it was that he found her after four days. My next thought was "we will find out tomorrow he lead her in to the swamp and than 'magically' found her".  I hate thinking that way but sometimes you are duped by the 'hero'.

roselln2

I missed that whole story, but I have to say that I immediately suspect the husband anytime a woman goes missing. I think it's natural... that or I'm cynical too!

LaneyLooLoo

Cynical:

adjective

1.like or characteristic of a cynic; distrusting or disparaging the motives of others.

2. showing contempt for accepted standards of honesty or morality by one's actions, esp. by actions that exploit the scruples of others.

3. bitterly or sneeringly distrustful, contemptuous, or pessimistic.

 

I would have to say that it sounds as though you fit the first definition.  So do I.  However, you do not meet the definitions of either 2 or 3.

 

On a different, but related tone, it worries me when people stop listening to any rational reasons to distrust.  Each of us is born with a tiny voice that warns us of impending dangers.  Hairs on the back of our neck and pits in our stomach sould be heeded.  All to often, we ignore these  instinctful insights

I spent many years learning to trust my instincts or gut.  It's almost always right.

 

susanc07

i think a lot of us have become that way because, unfortunately, in most cases, the "hero" turns out to be not so heroic.  or like when parents go on TV begging people to help find their child - the same child they murdered only days before.

it's awful that that's the way it is, but i'm right there with you.

QuiltingBee

LaneyLooLoo:

 

On a different, but related tone, it worries me when people stop listening to any rational reasons to distrust.  Each of us is born with a tiny voice that warns us of impending dangers.  Hairs on the back of our neck and pits in our stomach sould be heeded.  All to often, we ignore these  instinctful insights

I spent many years learning to trust my instincts or gut.  It's almost always right.

 

I completely agree.  I use my "gut" all the time.  When I go against it I always regret it.

*Willis*

Funny we talked about this last night at dinner.  The table was 50-50 split.  FWIW, I was on the jaded/cynical side