How do I talk DH into going with the name I want?

beebcaf

We have a girl's name chosen but can't seem to agree on a boy's name. I like William, he likes John. Not that I want to trick him into agreeing to my name but does anyone have any suggestions? I hate to pull the "I carried it for 9 months and then pushed it out so I get to pick the name" card but I will do what I need to. ?:)

BizEB

I just started calling our boy by the name I wanted- not in a mean or pushy way but kind of lightheartedly.  I'd say things like "Oh, X will love this" and I'd make up cute nicknames.  It just kind of grew on DH and now he loves the name.  GL. 

beebcaf

I think that's what my husband has been doing to me! He always asks how little Johnny is doing. I guess I should start replying that Will is doing fine. Poor thing if it's a girl and we've been calling it John and Will for the next 3 months...

jennicg27

Could you tell him you used to date a guy named John so you think of him everytime you say the name? 

I love the nn options with William.....Will, Liam.  So cute!!  I would definitely fight for it!

llk08

I love William! My DH and I fought over a girl name and he will not give in, so frustrating!  I say try calling the baby what you like now and see how it goes over.  I changed my mind near the end last time too, so you never know.

brookelynpaisley

Can you compromise and call him William John? Point out that William has nicknames and is more versatile?

sunnyday016

Oh yea, I think William over John is worth the battle

I'd pull the "I carried it 9 mo. and pushed it out" card. He can't win! 

CrazyToast

This probably doesn't work for you, but this is how I have "final say" over our LO's name:

DH has a hyphenated last name (his parents kept their own names once married).  I didn't take his name because I didn't want a hyphen that wasn't with my name.  DH wants his last name passed on to our LO, so I finally caved and said the LO can have his last name.  DH said he wanted the LO's middle name to be my last name.  I said it was ok ONLY if I got final say on the first name.  

This was before we found out our LO is a girl...and we're having a hard time with girl names. 

Hambly

My boyfriend hates the name that I am completely in love with. He keeps suggesting names that I associate with little old ladies. I'm with you in the not wanting to trick him into anything but if he can't come up with some thing that I love as much as my chosen name then I will pull the "I did all the work" maneuver!

ttmccoot

hard as it may seem, i think you should focus on finding a name that you are BOTH in love with. getting what you want (either of you) is not worth hurt feelings, IMHO.

good luck!

schmidtapril

LOL! Im going through the same thing with my DH.  I really want to name our little girl Stella but he doesnt like that name so we had to compromise on Claire.  So if you find out a way to convince him let me know theres still hope!

Malibuxo

What about using one for a middle name?

Jonathan William?

William Jonathan

 

AnneEB

I know it's tough when you have your heart set on a name that DH doesn't love, but you wouldn't want to settle on a name he likes and you don't, would you?  I think you maybe need to compromise on a completely different name if the two of you don't both love it, because you both need to

beebcaf

I know we should compromise but his reasons for liking John are so stupid. He says that John is an all american name, like John Wayne and John Conner (yes, he wants to name our baby after John Conner.) William would be named after a family member of mine. And my big problem with John is that it makes me think of toilets and men who frequent prostitutes.

funnibaby

beebcaf:

I know we should compromise but his reasons for liking John are so stupid. He says that John is an all American name, like John Wayne and John Conner (yes, he wants to name our baby after John Conner.) William would be named after a family member of mine. And my big problem with John is that it makes me think of toilets and men who frequent prostitutes.

Wow, you have great points a) family name b) negative connotations with the name John.  What does he have to say about it (considering he has no attachment to the name John other than a movie star and a fictional character from a 80's movie)?

I personally feel we both have to agree on a name.  If DH vetoes a name I love then I grudgingly go with it but DH also allows me to veto a name he suggests without argument.