Am I just oversensitive? (ventish)

smittysoup

Something that is tough for me is that I'm not able to BF my LO right now.  I really wanted to, but I have undersupply issues, and LO has a terrible latch.  Sometimes we try to BF, but he doesn't really get anything.

Anyway, it seems like lately I keep noticing all the language around BFing in articles and whatnot, seems to portray the breast as some magical, wonderful experience, and bottles as a crappy alternative at best (evil in some cases).

I dunno, it just makes me feel really crappy.  I understand that the literature is all about encouraging women to BF - but what about those of us who can't?  Why do we have to feel like crap about ourselves so that all of the BFing women can feel encouraged?  Does anyone else feel this way?

MrsPreK

I used too after I BF'd DS but not anymore.

I went straight to formula with DD and didn't look back. Best decision ever. I know it's hard, but you gotta do what you think is best for you and your LO and NOT read into what everyone says or does.

GL!!

Chelle0112

I feel the same way sometimes.  I wanted to BF so, so badly.  I got really excited about it, and it just didn't work out.  The way I see it, my baby is getting fed and that's all that matters. 

Sawyerplus1

It is tough when BFing doesn't work out. I was unable to BF DS as he refused to latch and I had flat nipples. It was heartbreaking for me, but at the same time I was SO THANKFUL for bottles and formula! It meant my baby got to eat and be healthy and thrive. Just try to focus on that and recognize that you're doing what is best for your baby. NOBODY can make you feel crappy for doing what's best.?

bakershaker

I feel the same! My health nurse who comes to visit and calls after baby is born portrayed bottle feeding as "horrible". I pumped and bottle fed my son for 4 months because he couldn't latch. This time I BF for 1 week and quit...it's alot of work! My DD is MUCH happier on formula. But I agree as long as baby is being fed...who cares how!!

 

smittysoup

Thanks everyone - you guys are right, the important thing is that LO is getting fed and growing

I am, admittedly, jealous of all the women who are able to BF.  It's like the one thing that I just can't seem to get past as far as just being happy about my situation. 

ditzydi_2000

I feel the same way.  I've noticed that some literature is written to try and make you feel guilty if you don't breasteed LO.  Maybe I'm just a little paranoid but I've also noticed this sort of attitude and pressure to BF from the pedi and lactation consultants.  BFing is not for everybody.  Do not let anybody make you feel guilty.  GL! 

KateLouise

i think the articles aren't about guilt but giving you a reason not to give up. the first couple of weeks bfing were so awful for me that i wouldn't have pushed through if i didn't see the value.

don't feel bad about your situation. a happy healthy baby is the most important thing.

i sure don't judge you for bottle feeding. i do judge those who put liquor in it, ie my mil. :-)