bad week, and its only Wednesday

preheatedoven

We have not gotten more than 30 mins in a row of sleep since Friday. Almost the entire night is full of crying, if it is not one, its the other, or both of them:( 

With DD we suspected it was her reflux getting worse, so after a trip to the pedi yesterday she is now on Zantac. For DS we have no clue. I talked to the pedi about it and she thinks its just typical 'newborn' behavior. 

Sometime in the middle of the night last night I just couldn't keep back the tears of frustration. Everyone says it gets better at 3 months...but I fear since they were 7 weeks early we are looking at another 8 weeks of this.

I just keep thinking if there was only one baby how much easier this would be. At least there would be a break every once in awhile.

Thanks for listening to my vent.

SoldiersGreenBean

((HUGS))

It's hard.  It's very hard.  The first few months are, quite frankly, what I'm dreading about the whole thing.  I hated it with DD.

It's all about survival, the first few months.  Once you make it through those, it will get easier.  It will also get more fun.

I don't know if that helps at all, but I wanted to let you know that you're not alone.

susanc07

SoldiersGreenBean:

((HUGS))

It's hard.  It's very hard.  The first few months are, quite frankly, what I'm dreading about the whole thing.  I hated it with DD.

It's all about survival, the first few months.  Once you make it through those, it will get easier.  It will also get more fun.

I don't know if that helps at all, but I wanted to let you know that you're not alone.

this is what i've been told.  ours were 13 weeks early, but they came home on their due date, so we're looking at a while to go, too, i guess.

DD is the one who cries all night, and i've just started bringing her to bed with me when she screams like that.  i lay her on my pillow facing me - she likes to put her nose against mine and hold onto my hair.  and that's how we roll for now b/c she needs sleep, and God knows so do i.

ETA:  ((hugs)).  i hope it gets better for you soon.

 

janjag

i totally understand.  it's hard to hear sometimes when people say it'll get better.  i just wanted someone to give. me. a. date.!!  we found we'd add another 6wks onto whatever phase we were trying to get out of.  knowing this might make it a little better. 

audrey had reflux.  zantac didn't work.  prevacid may have helped a little more, but really she just had to grow out of it.  she (i hope) is just phasing out of her spittiness. 

for me the sleep deprivation was the worst.  i ran out of whatever reserves i had left at around this point. 

it's ok to cry and get it out.  i thought a good day was if i got through it w/out tears   get some help if you can!  it may or may not be in your budget, but it would be temporary.  i had a mother's helper come in the mornings so i could get some sleep (a whole hour is bliss!), pump in peace, etc. 

cholzer

I could have written this myself.  I get no sleep ever.  My husband sleeps in the other room and won't watch them in the day either.  Surviving is the only answer.  I worry about the same things because mine are 6 weeks preemie also.  I can't put either of the babies in bed with me because my older son still sleeps with me and I'm afraid he will roll over on one.  I find myself crying over stupid things and I get depressed after a few days of no sleep.  The only thing keeping me going is that I get a little sleep about every 3 or 4 days and then I have just enough energy to make it another 3 or 4 days.  One day we will feel human again.