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Awkward Situation Slash Vent

JAKeefeJAKeefe
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So I was on the fence about going back on my antidepressants after having LO. I have not been on them for about 1.5 years, but was warned by many people that often times the hormonal changes and general stress of being a new mom will trigger anxiety/depression that may have been managed without medications prior to pregnancy. Basically, I am at the point where I think it would be beneficial for everyone involved for me to restart medication--I had been on Prozac for a couple years due to severe anxiety. HOWEVER, my issue is this: my OB's office is affiliated with--and down the hall from--my husband's office (who is a physician). I realize that medical professionals are supposed to be nonjudgmental, BUT I'm a nurse, so I know this isn't always truly the case. The doctors, nurses, techs, etc. were all really great during my pregnancy but I did feel like everyone knew our business. As is stands, this didn't bother me until now. I'm just really afraid of being judged or pitied by those who may not understand or whatever.

I don't feel like I can talk to DH about this because I know part of him will feel bad/responsible for my hesitation, so I turn to you lovely ladies! I know that I gotta do what I gotta do, but any words or wisdom/encouragement would be appreciated. 

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  • asickles98asickles98 member

    I have a question:  If your daughter came to you 25 years from now and asked you what to do what would you tell her?  That is the answer to this awkward situation.

    That being said, I am very proud of you for realizing that something is not all peaches and cream right now.  If the medicine will make things better why not get it.  Screw what other people think/say.  You have to do what is right for you and your daughter.

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  • Mrs.BoomBoomMrs.BoomBoom
    What about going to a psychiatrist who's not so close?
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  • HelloDaisyHelloDaisy
    I truly don't think there would be any problems with people being judgmental.   I work in a hospital and am in nursing school, and also used to work in a doctor's office, and the number of people on anti-depressants or anti-anxiety medicines is a lot more than you'd think, don't you think?  I would bet that everyone in that office has either been on them at some point or someone close to them has.  Not to mention, being an OB's office they know how real and how common ppd and ppa are.  I say tell the truth, get your medicine, and be proud of that fact that you are brave enough to be honest so you can be the best wife and mom you can be!  :)  GL
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  • denahamilton@cox.netdenahamilton@cox.net

    Homegirl needs a happy healthy mommy. I freakin' LOVED the PP regarding "what would you say to your daughter in 25 years". Fantastic advice!

    When I had my DD1 I cried every day for months....I never got on medication....b/c I was out to prove something to everyone. I look back and WISH I would have done something about the way I felt. It wasn't fair to DD, DH or myself for that matter. I made things so much harder then they needed to be. Baby #1 is HARD!!! Your whole life changes in an instant.

    Please don't make the same mistake I did. I lost a time in my life that I can never get back..and it breaks my heart to this day. I lived in a cloud of saddness...I look back on those early months with DD1 and they are a blur. I want you to be able to look back on this time with your LO and remember things clearly.

    If anyone judges you for this then shame on them!

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  • JAKeefeJAKeefe

    imageMrs.BoomBoom:
    What about going to a psychiatrist who's not so close?

     I would need to disclose that info to my OB anyway, but thanks for the input!

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  • JAKeefeJAKeefe
    imagedenahamilton@cox.net:

    Homegirl needs a happy healthy mommy. I freakin' LOVED the PP regarding "what would you say to your daughter in 25 years". Fantastic advice!

    When I had my DD1 I cried every day for months....I never got on medication....b/c I was out to prove something to everyone. I look back and WISH I would have done something about the way I felt. It wasn't fair to DD, DH or myself for that matter. I made things so much harder then they needed to be. Baby #1 is HARD!!! Your whole life changes in an instant.

    Please don't make the same mistake I did. I lost a time in my life that I can never get back..and it breaks my heart to this day. I lived in a cloud of saddness...I look back on those early months with DD1 and they are a blur. I want you to be able to look back on this time with your LO and remember things clearly.

    If anyone judges you for this then shame on them!

     

    You guys are why I love thebump. Thanks so much for all your input. Like I said, I know I gotta do what I gotta do, but it really makes taking action so much easier when I feel like I have the support of other moms-and even more helpful from people who have walked in those same shoes.

    asickles98: your post is going to become my new mantra, hahah. seriously tho, you put it perfectly. 

    all your LOs are lucky little people. thanks ladies!

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