Bedrest mamas come in!

missusbee

Hi there!

I'm popping in on these boards for your very wise advice on how to support my friend, who has just been placed on bedrest. She is at 34 weeks now, expecting twins. Her doctors are hoping to get her to 37 weeks.

Anyhow, I checked in with her husband about how to help and offered to bring food, which he graciously accepted. He is in his last semester of grad school, so things are especially crazy for them.

 Do you ladies have other suggestions for ways I can be of help? Some ideas I had were a Netflix subscription for her laptop (if she doesnt already have one), paper goods & other household supplies, and perhaps a gift card to a local cleaning service for their house.

Thanks so much

jmwater7

Bring her a care package with snacks, some books or magazines, movies, maybe some nail polish, if she has a hobby she can do--knitting, scrapbooking.

shipoopiisforme

you are an awesome friend!

meals for the freezer are helpful, the cleaning help i am sure would be welcome and netflix is a lifesaver. snacks are always good, fun magazines, if she is crafty maybe a small needlepoint project. visitors in general are also just really welcome. i always think it's really nice when people call on their way over to see if they can stop at the supermarket or something i have taken people up on it many times!

KelsoXOXO

Wow I wish I had a friend that cared like you! All my friends are too busy going on trips or partying or working or in school- never have time to stop by and check on me. Lol sounds like you are taking care of your friend. That's very sweet.

DorothyandMatt

You are such a good friend! ?Everything you & other posters said would be amazing!!! ?A cleaning service for the day would be AMAZING!!!!!!!!! ? My poor DH is burnt out from taking care of me so that would be huge! ?

Also if she needs help with the baby room or baby stuff. ?I just had my baby shower & now I need help sorting & putting things away & washing all the baby clothes.

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missusbee

Thanks for the ideas! I will definitely do the call on the way to the supermarket, and I will volunteer to be of help with the baby shower stuff. That is actually a big question mark at this point, since their shower was scheduled for the 18th, and obviously she won't be able to go. But they did just move, so I would like to volunteer to help unpack boxes and stuff as they need it.

As for foods, I will see what her setup is when I visit tonight. In addition to meals her DH can prepare easily, I would like to bring goodies for her to snack on during the day. Is it not helpful to give things that need to be refrigerated? Should I stick to things that her DH can leave on her nightstand when he leaves for work in the am?

nursemegan23

jmwater7:

Bring her a care package with snacks, some books or magazines, movies, maybe some nail polish, if she has a hobby she can do--knitting, scrapbooking.

This.

 

ijack

You might want to ask her if she'd like to have her shower at her house. I had mine in the hospital, and while it wasn't ideal it was so awesome to have one day where I felt like a normal PG lady. I sat in a recliner with my feet up and had someone help me open presents. I was exhausted, but it was really nice to see all my friends and family.

Maybe see if you can find a service that does in home pedicures, or offer to paint her toes. If they just moved I think the offer of unpacking is really nice! Maybe even offer to be her "slave" to help get the nursery set up

RedheadJenny

My husband bought me a 1/2 gallon thermos for water. He fills it up before he leaves for work. It's very important she has lots of water, and it tastes better cold! Snacks like granola bars, nuts, apples, etc are good for the day. Offering to bring her something fun on the way over like Starbucks is also nice.

Also, some of my friends come over once a week for movie night. We all get in my bed and watch movies and talk. It's a lot of fun. 

I agree with what everyone else said to bring. You are an AWESOME friend for offering to do all of this for her. 

DebbieJS77

I totally agree with the cleaning service!!! I have been blessed with lots of visitors bringing food, flowers, movies, etc. The one thing that is missing is my house is so dusty now it is making my allergies bad but I don't have the heart to ask anyone to clean for me. My husband has been working his butt off in the evening taking care of a million other things so I don't have the heart to ask him to get out the swiffer either. A cleaning service could be amazing.