On the subject of Mother's Day (from Goat thread)

triple_sevens

I've already decided I'm avoiding all restaurants in the neighborhood, going to a spa with my friend whose mother died a year ago, and hanging out with DH and puppy. My mom will get a card, a call, and all my love.

No way in hell am I accepting the inevitable invitation to spend MD with SIL, MIL, SIL's mother, and the two nieces. No. Way. In. Hell.

theprincessPAT

DH and I will be on vacation that weekend.  I realized it the other day and, honestly, I'm glad that we'll be on a break from reality.  Hopefully then it won't be shoved in our faces, and maybe, just maybe, it'll be just another day.

michrocc

triple_sevens:

I've already decided I'm avoiding all restaurants in the neighborhood, going to a spa with my friend whose mother died a year ago, and hanging out with DH and puppy. My mom will get a card, a call, and all my love.

No way in hell am I accepting the inevitable invitation to spend MD with SIL, MIL, SIL's mother, and the two nieces. No. Way. In. Hell.

You are an AWESOME person and an even better friend.  I don't have anyone who would be willing to go out with me to get away from all the Mother's Day stuff (my mom died as well).  And I can't imagine a scenario wherein I'm okay with celebrating with DH's family.  And I hate to ask DH not to, even though he would.

This blows.  For all of us. 

j&lo82907

Mothers day will be horrible for me as well because my mother just died in October, so it will be my first Mother's day w/o her, plus the miscarriage, I am sure I will want to lock myself away that day.

rjl07

My mom passed away too so Mother's Day is pretty much at the bottom of my list.  We usually get together with DH's family which would normally be fine, but I'm just waiting for his sister to announce she is pregnant.  I just found out that she and her DH have been trying for the last 6 months so I'm dreading every family event now.

dondraandluis

I don't blame you!

 I will have to work that night while all the Mom's get to go out eat and all that business.

ETA: Fvck, I just looked at when mother's day is this year, it's the day after my bday. Next yr my bday will be on MD, just like my 21st! Dangit!

companion cube

I'm totally just blocking out mother's day entirely. It's never been much of a blip on my radar, my mom hates hallmark holidays, so she's always discouraged celebrating it. My birthday is the end of May, so I'm just going to pretend the day doesn't exist and continue looking forward to my "golden birthday". (Turning 24 on the 24th).

  

theprincessPAT

michrocc:

This blows.  For all of us. 

This says it all perfectly.

triple_sevens

michrocc:

triple_sevens:

I've already decided I'm avoiding all restaurants in the neighborhood, going to a spa with my friend whose mother died a year ago, and hanging out with DH and puppy. My mom will get a card, a call, and all my love.

No way in hell am I accepting the inevitable invitation to spend MD with SIL, MIL, SIL's mother, and the two nieces. No. Way. In. Hell.

You are an AWESOME person and an even better friend.  I don't have anyone who would be willing to go out with me to get away from all the Mother's Day stuff (my mom died as well).  And I can't imagine a scenario wherein I'm okay with celebrating with DH's family.  And I hate to ask DH not to, even though he would.

This blows.  For all of us. 

SHE'S actually the awesome friend. She has been AMAZINGLY supportive to me throughout this grieving process (she and her husband are not trying yet). I was b!tching to her about how hard Mother's Day will be and how I hate getting invited by SIL's family, and she said that we should spend it together and do something fun and that I can use her as an "excuse" for getting out of family obligations. Seriously, she's the best.

And Michelle, I am so sorry your mother is gone. I wish you were in NYC so you could come to the spa with us.

michrocc

triple_sevens:

michrocc:

triple_sevens:

I've already decided I'm avoiding all restaurants in the neighborhood, going to a spa with my friend whose mother died a year ago, and hanging out with DH and puppy. My mom will get a card, a call, and all my love.

No way in hell am I accepting the inevitable invitation to spend MD with SIL, MIL, SIL's mother, and the two nieces. No. Way. In. Hell.

You are an AWESOME person and an even better friend.  I don't have anyone who would be willing to go out with me to get away from all the Mother's Day stuff (my mom died as well).  And I can't imagine a scenario wherein I'm okay with celebrating with DH's family.  And I hate to ask DH not to, even though he would.

This blows.  For all of us. 

SHE'S actually the awesome friend. She has been AMAZINGLY supportive to me throughout this grieving process (she and her husband are not trying yet). I was b!tching to her about how hard Mother's Day will be and how I hate getting invited by SIL's family, and she said that we should spend it together and do something fun and that I can use her as an "excuse" for getting out of family obligations. Seriously, she's the best.

And Michelle, I am so sorry your mother is gone. I wish you were in NYC so you could come to the spa with us.

Thanks!  I'm really glad the two of you have one another on a day like that. 

 

triple_sevens

rj and j&lo, I wish you could come ignore the celebration with us, too. I'm sorry for all your losses.

j&lo82907

triple_sevens:

rj and j&lo, I wish you could come ignore the celebration with us, too. I'm sorry for all your losses.

Thank you so much. Me too! I am so sorry for your loss as well.

butterfly843

I will most likely have to work, but the spa day sounds wonderful. I am going to try and get out of work since I know the day will be hard.